Sadness is a social problem at present.
To put it bluntly, it is the weight of six new mountains: occupation, marriage, mortgage, children, the elderly and medical care. Six new mountains have pushed the range of middle-aged men from 45-59 to 30-69, and countless young people have been forced to enter middle age, hereinafter referred to as new middle age.
Now you see that many young people in Zhihu say that they are middle-aged, which is a sign of great pressure. No one is embarrassed to say that he is young, because youth means freedom. The saddest thing is that they still want to play like children, even if they are in Form 2, but when they leave the society, they directly bear all the pressure of middle-aged men. Do you think young people can be blamed for this? Baldness and greasy can no longer represent middle-aged men. New middle-aged people have thick hair, but it is a big mistake-they married the wrong person at the wrong time, bought a house and got on the bus at the wrong time, lost their jobs at the wrong time, got seriously ill with their bodies by mistake, gave birth to too many children by mistake or raised children by mistake, and were forced to raise six old people for a long time because their wallets were empty.
New and middle-aged people have responded to the call to have 2/3 babies, but nannies like playing mobile phones so much now. Who dares to invite them? Can only be taken by the elderly, but what about the health of the elderly? Aren't you worried? So you have no peace at work. Spend more time with the baby and the elderly when you get home, and take them out for a long time on weekends. At the first sign of trouble, you have to go to school to be punished and go to the hospital to queue up. The new middle age is torn to pieces by various moths.
Young people who are constantly joining the new middle-aged team are forcing the new middle-aged people to constantly strengthen their professional skills. If you don't work hard, you will be pushed down immediately, but where is the key? Day after day, I can't stop. Personally, I want to relax, play mahjong, play games and drink a little wine, so I can only stay up late. How can I have the energy to live a husband-and-wife life and how can I maintain a husband-and-wife relationship? What's more, this wife was also bought in the "market" of marriage and love (found by mistake). Under the background of money worship, how do new and middle-aged people detoxify women? Under the consumerism environment, how can the new middle-aged people dissolve the poison of gender opposition?
Therefore, the new middle-aged man has long been different from his wife, and Lao Wang next door will always have a perfect backstab on the night of flexible employment. The new middle-aged man is caught in the quagmire of structural unemployment, and even his whole body is green. But we must get up quickly. Children and old people are starving. Who will help pay the mortgage? Who will help you if you have a big health problem? Dare not die,
Even a woman's emo dare not imitate. You must wipe away blood and tears, get up quickly and look for a job everywhere.
In this rapidly developing society, prosperity and beauty have nothing to do with the new middle age, and consumerism even ignores them. As the backbone of society, the new middle-aged consolidated all the parts of big machines, but they were soon worn out into unsuitable parts, so they were replaced by younger parts-old screws were everywhere.
But you want to be a screw that has been silent for years? Think too much. New middle-aged people must immediately change their thinking and even three views to adapt to any needs of the whole environment. For middle-aged people, the world has always been a cruel training ground. No love, no marriage, no children, no job, no progress, no social interaction. This is certainly an option, but it is not the mainstream. Our education does not allow it, our reality does not allow it, and our ideals and ambitions do not allow it.
This is the greatest sorrow of middle-aged men.
The confused child in my heart has already been forced into the battlefield of life. Young, early, fast, must be old.
I have to admit that the above description is an abstract and exaggerated generalization, even emotional. However, the threshold of 35 years old does exist in exams and job hunting. With the continuous upgrading of the industry, the degree of automation is higher, and there are more and more thieves in large factories. Many new middle-aged people in their early thirties have become old people in the workplace and are facing the risk of being eliminated. That is the reality.
The new middle-aged people who have been eliminated have become knights and drivers, which in itself is a metaphor for the era of great growth:
Fast, convenient, more, and grow forever. Man no longer means an end, but only a means. Mechanical repetitive work will soon be replaced by algorithms and robots, and human beings mean redundancy that needs to be eliminated. In the future, the age of new middle-aged people will continue to lengthen. Perhaps in the world dominated by silicon-based life, human beings were born middle-aged and were still working before they died. And it's good to have a job! What should we do?
On the other hand, this is the best time, full of opportunities and changes. As an individual middle-aged person, we should first get rid of the influence of the turbid current in the grand narrative era, calm down in the chaos, think more, calmly see our own strengths and limitations, filter out all the influences of impetuousness and panic, and find a point to continue to deepen and slow down, so as to achieve real growth. This is a gift for my middle age. I will go through middle age, keep learning and making progress all my life, and keep my blood and passion all my life. This is the real new middle age, and this is the real maturity.
The greatest luck of middle-aged men is to keep their inner peace and certainty in the great pressure and chaos of this era.