Modesty is a virtue, but we must master the sense of proportion and pay attention to things. The modesty of the east covers a wide range and cannot be applied to the west. We must pay attention to it. However, whether East or West, we must be sincere. Deliberate modesty equals hypocrisy.
Arrogant but not arrogant: proud but not arrogant. The pride here is not that you are complacent, self-righteous and look down on others, but that what you get is enough to make yourself proud and others proud of you.
Pride here is a positive meaning, a feeling of self-confidence, and no regrets about achieving a goal or a choice or action. It can also be an emotion generated after being appreciated, satisfied with the image of self-independence and strength, a sense of belonging and identity generated after becoming a member of a social group, and a sense of satisfaction derived from it, sometimes used as self-mockery and encouragement.
Arrogance here refers to a state of mind, which means arrogance and arrogance. It is used to describe people's attitudes, expressions and manners. It also means to look down on others and disrespect others. Mainly used to describe people's attitude.
Extended information "full loss, little gain." At any time, modest modesty is often praised as a virtue and a valuable moral quality. Note that modesty here is preceded by an attribute of "golden mean". In fact, everything should be measured, such as being too modest, which is hypocrisy and makes people feel uncomfortable.
The ancient book Yin Wenzi in Zi Zhi Tong Jian records a story: During the Warring States Period, there was a man named Huang Gong in the State of Qi, who was humble. He has two daughters, both as beautiful as flowers and as beautiful as jade, with beautiful faces. But he never appreciates the beauty of his daughter, and often tells others modestly that her daughter is ugly and extremely ugly.
Because ancient women hid "boudoir" and "the front door was closed and the second door was closed", their daughters were notorious. A few years later, his daughter reached marriageable age, but no one came to propose. Even if there are marriages all over the country, no one will apply. Zhu, a thinker in the Song Dynasty, said: "Modesty has a good reputation, and people who are too modest should guard against fraud." Huang Gong's "deception" finally hurt his daughter.
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