It means: a bottle of wine, two bowls of rice, and a tile full of gifts. Although the gift is light, it is full of affection and honesty, and ultimately no disaster will happen.
"The Biography of Cheng Family in Zhouyi" explains: "Xuan, the meaning of opening. The room is dark, so it is bright. Laugh at yourself and speak clearly. "
Windows mean opening. With windows, the room is bright. Nayo starts from the light.
Here, Cheng Yi reveals the art of speaking: "When it comes to its clarity, it is easy to believe." In other words, the speech should be euphemistic, the expression should be tortuous, so that others can easily accept it. At the same time, we should also start with topics that others are interested in.
Cheng Yi gave an example: Touching dragons to persuade Queen Zhao.
According to the Warring States policy, Qin took advantage of the alternation of Zhao regime to send troops to attack Zhao. Empress Zhao, the ruler of Zhao, turned to Qi for help. Qi replied: Chang must be taken hostage before sending reinforcements. Queen Zhao refused, and the ministers tried their best to persuade her. Empress Zhao said to the ministers, "If anyone says that he will often be taken hostage, I will spit in his face!" "
At this time, a minister named Mo Long went to see the Queen Mother. Let's start with the leisure of eating and drinking, and narrow the distance with Queen Zhao. Then I put forward my own request: Although my youngest son Shu Qi is not a talent, I love him the most, hoping to let him fill the vacancy of the defender.
Touchdragon put forward a point by seeking a job for his son: I privately think that you love Empress Yan (the daughter of Empress Zhao of Yan State) more than Chang Anjun.
"Parents' beloved son is far-reaching. "
"Today, I respect Chang 'an and seal it with fertile land, but it is not as good as today's meritorious service to the country. Why did Chang 'an commit himself to Zhao after the landslide? "
If parents love their children, they should take a long-term view. You can seal the title of Chang 'e now, but what about Chang 'e after your death?
These words convinced Zhao, and she finally agreed to Qi's request and solved Zhao's crisis.
"Not only to tell you, but also to teach. Husband's education must be based on people's strengths, and the director knows it in his heart. What is clear from his own heart is pushed to others. "
Later, from the art of speaking, Cheng Yi also talked about the art of education: education starts from the strengths of others and gradually extends to others.
The importance of interest education is emphasized here.