1. To be able to support means to serve and support.
The first condition for filial piety is to support your parents. Respect is mainly reflected in "no violation", that is, not disobeying the will of parents. "Zi Xia asked about filial piety, and Confucius said: 'It is hard to look good. When there is something to do, the disciple will do his work; when there is wine and food, and the teacher eats, do you think you are filial? '" When parents have something wrong, they should be tactful and not offensive when giving opinions, and respect their parents' thoughts. and maintain their dignity.
2. Respect means respecting your parents.
"Ziyou asked about filial piety, and Confucius said: 'Today, filial piety means being able to raise people. As for dogs and horses, they can be raised. How can they be different if they are disrespectful? '" From Confucius' question, we can see that only Feeding and clothing your parents is not filial piety, it should also be "respectful". Just being able to support your parents is no different from raising a dog or a horse.
Confucius refuted the concept of "filial piety" at that time and believed that filial piety requires respect for parents. Confucius emphasized "respect" here. Lambs knelt down to breastfeed and crows nursed back. This is the instinct of ordinary animals. If human beings only stay in this elementary stage and regard the proper arrangement of parents' food, clothing, housing and transportation as the highest state of filial piety, they will be ashamed of "the essence of the universe and the spirit of all things". "Long" title.
3. Love means being full of love for your parents in your heart.
"Meng Yizi asked about filial piety, and Confucius said: There is no violation. Fan Chi said: What is it? Confucius said: In life, things should be done with etiquette; in death, burials should be done with etiquette, and sacrifices should be done with etiquette." (The Analects of Confucius) ·Wei Zheng Chapter"). What is filial piety? Confucius said: Do not violate etiquette. We should try our best to serve our parents when they are alive. We should treat our parents' death with caution and perform sacrifices according to the customs.
4. "Filial piety" is the foundation of benevolence and the foundation of a country.
There is a very important discussion at the beginning of "The Analects": "A certain disciple said that it is rare for a person to be filial to his brothers but like to offend his superiors; it is rare for a person to be filial to his brothers but not fond of offending his superiors but to cause trouble. A gentleman adheres to his roots, and the Tao is born from his foundation. Filial piety and brotherhood are the foundation of human beings!" If a person can practice "filial piety and brotherhood" in his family, he will definitely be able to maintain order in society.
If you can keep order in society, you will definitely not violate laws and disciplines. Integrity people pursue the foundation of being a human being. They know that only by laying a solid foundation of being a human being can the road of life be smooth.
5. There are many norms in life, but among the many norms, the most fundamental one is "filial piety."
Being a human being and building a country are closely related. Youzi uses simple and clear language to thoroughly explain the logical relationship between personality and humanity such as individual and society, family and country. If the problems of being a human being are solved and a person achieves "filial piety", the whole society will be stable and peaceful.
"The Analects of Confucius·For Government" Ji Kangzi asked: "How to make the people respect and be loyal and persuade them?" Confucius said: "When you approach the people with dignity, you will be respectful. If you are filial, you will be loyal. If you do good, you will be loyal. If you can't teach, then persuade."?
"It is said that the superior can guide the people to be filial and kind, so that everyone can be filial to their elders and kind to their young, then the people will be loyal to him." It can be seen that it is the same. If the king of the country is filial to his superiors and kind to his subordinates, the people will naturally be inspired to be loyal to him. It can be said that "filial piety" is the foundation of "literacy" and "politics".