Some people are very fragile in heart and spirit. Once they encounter difficulties, they will fall into depression, hesitate to move forward, be depressed all day long, and then "cry for poverty" to the people around them.
In the eyes of psychologists, most people who often "cry for poverty" really want help from others, while the rest really don't want help and just express themselves. This behavior is very purposeful. Among those who really want to ask for help from their relatives, many people are used to this kind of behavior and often express their wishes. These people have one thing in common, that is, they like to rely on.
According to scientific analysis, the emotional intelligence of people who often cry is not too high. Once they encounter difficulties, whether financial or spiritual, their first thought is to seek help from others, rather than relying on their own ability to overcome them. They don't consider other people's feelings. In fact, they have no idea that when you ask for help, even if you get help from others, they will actually leave a "weak" impression in your heart, which is very unfavorable to your social status and development. Therefore, psychologists suggest that no matter what difficulties you face, don't ask people around you for help, but let them help you.
It is easy to fall into a negative life. "Crying poor" really cried and became poor. The reason why I actually become poor is actually because I have been in a psychological hint of "I am poor" for a long time, so I really feel that I am living very poor. Finally, under this psychological hint, my heart becomes more and more fragile. If you encounter difficulties, you will seek help from others as soon as possible, and then in the process, you will form an idea of "getting through the difficulties without hard work", become very depressed, stop being positive and optimistic, and find it difficult to face life. Even if you live with the help of others, you will not do anything. Finally, this person will not only be deprived of material things, but also face material and spiritual deprivation.
So, whether you can really get help from others or not, don't let yourself ask for help. It is important to choose the object. When you send help information to people nearby, they usually help you because of their close relationship, and you are more likely to act according to your own situation. Many relatives will lend a helping hand without hesitation when you are in trouble. However, when you sent out the distress signal, did you consider the current situation of the other party? Will you consider whether the other person's recent situation can withstand your request? Can you continue your normal life after helping you? If the people closest to you fall into a more difficult life after helping you, then you will feel gui more or less.
Then, if their living standard is high, they won't lower their living standard by helping you. In the end, they will have a cynical idea about you, mainly because you often "cry poor", but it still hasn't improved. Maybe because of my own problems, my life has not improved. If you choose the wrong goal, once I help you, your relationship may be alienated, and eventually you will stop communicating, which is completely over.
Some social psychologists have investigated the consequences of crying poor. The results show that in a certain area, more than half of the crying poor people cry when people are classified. After the poor cry, the relationship with others deteriorates, and some people may even "die socially", because people often think that life will not be too bad as long as they work hard, and you often fall into financial difficulties, perhaps because you have some defects. This makes it difficult for you to control your life. Therefore, even if you get some help from the bad behavior of crying, it will not cause losses in the end. Temporary economic difficulties are actually a test for yourself. You must stand firm in adversity and never forget your initial desire for success.