Lending money is about affection.
paying back the money is sincere.
There is a question in Zhihu: Do you want to lend money to your friends?
Some people say that friends who know their roots can borrow them. Some people say that it depends on the situation, and the emergency is not urgent; Others say that if you don't borrow money, you may lose a friend, and if you borrow money, you may lose money and friends ...
In the face of money, people's trust is like a blank sheet of paper, which is to turn it into color? Or is it folded waste paper? That depends on what the other party does.
borrowing money means borrowing trust and friendship; Paying back the money can expose a person's character.
Talking about money hurts feelings, and talking about feelings hurts money
There is an old saying in China: "Talking about money hurts feelings, and talking about feelings hurts money". There is also a Japanese proverb: "Borrowing money to smile, paying back money is like Yamaraja." In just a few words, I said the great influence of borrowing money on my feelings.
when borrowing money, many people look sleepy and bow down, but when asking for money back, they think, "I borrowed it on my own, why should I pay it back?" For this reason, borrowing money has become the best time to observe character.
Xu Mingxing, the founder of okcoin, a domestic bitcoin exchange, and former CTO of Douding.com, originally wanted to establish a cooperative relationship with another big shot in the industry, but because of a loan incident, Xu Mingxing completely gave up this idea.
This big shot once borrowed more than 6 million yuan from Xu Mingxing when he was in danger. Later, Xu Mingxing communicated with him to pay back the money, but he refused many times and finally lost contact directly. What makes people even more angry is that this big man who owes money and doesn't pay back actually lives in a multi-million-dollar mansion in the United States, and at the same time invests heavily in projects.
Xu Mingxing said, "I chased him for three years before I got some money back." A person's financial credit, thus exposed his character.
as long as a lifetime, it is inevitable that everyone will be short of money and unable to turn around. If you borrow money from a friend, you should return it as soon as possible, otherwise, this friendship can only stop at money.
Borrowing money is the mortgage of trust
Writer San Mao once said, "Don't have money with friends, because borrowing money is a very test of friendship."
borrowing money from friends is actually mortgaged. This collateral is more precious than houses and cars. It is "trust".
Zhang Taiyan, a master of Chinese studies, once had no money in his pocket and was ready to borrow money from his good friend Wang Yunzong. Zhang Taiyan took the initiative to write an iou: "Now I am penniless, I beg to borrow two silver dollars to buy cigarettes." Jiang Weiqiao, the roommate of the same rent, was puzzled after seeing it, and asked, "Since you have borrowed money from others, why not borrow a few more yuan?" Zhang Taiyan said: "I don't have a friendship with this gentleman for more than two yuan, and I am afraid I will not agree."
Zhang Taiyan didn't mention what happened after he borrowed money, but I believe he will definitely return it on time with his character.
when a person borrows money, he also lends his own trust. Only when the money is returned in full on time can the trust be returned. On the other hand, even if you win money, you lose your character and friendship.
The world's greatest inspirational book series, The Scroll, wrote: "Lending money to friends will take the loss of friendship as interest."
Chilam, a Hong Kong star, once said in an interview that he has lent seven figures of money, but he can't get it back. In this regard, he was quite helpless. "Try not to borrow it from me. You will lose friends for money, and friends can't talk about money."
In this human society, borrowing money seems to be an inevitable thing. But money is not necessarily impossible to borrow, just borrowing money depends on character. If you have a good character, I am willing to borrow it; But if you have a bad personality, I'm sorry, I can't lend you this money. Just like the classic line in the movie "See you later": learn to distinguish first, and then trust.
finally, please remember that even if you owe someone a dollar, please remember to return it in time. This is the most effective touchstone of character, and it is also the morality and bottom line of dealing with people.