This word comes from Ouyang Xiu's Health Examination. It's about the sadness of not seeing people last year this year. Who do you think Ouyang Xiu is? Political participation in the Northern Song Dynasty was equivalent to prime minister. Can such a person go on a date and meet an ordinary girl? In addition, during the Lantern Festival, most people who are eligible to go out are official wives and concubines, and of course there will be many ordinary people. Even Xin Qiji in the Southern Song Dynasty wrote "Looking for him in the crowd, suddenly looking back, the man was there, and the lights were dim", which shows that although Neo-Confucianism was flourishing at that time, women still had some freedom. Lantern Festival can be said to be a legal festival for women. At the same time, on the other hand, most people who go out to enjoy the moon swimming in the Lantern Festival are scholars, and they will have such leisure. Of course, there are girls in the boudoir who want to know each other and throw handkerchiefs and pendants. It can be said that Lantern Festival is a woman's Valentine's Day. Finally, Shangyuan Festival is a very important festival in the Song Dynasty, which is celebrated by both emperors and civilians, and natural women also have such rights. I hope you are satisfied with my answer.
The explanation of your new question is this: Ouyang Xiu was a poet in the early Northern Song Dynasty. His style continues the style of Huajian School in the Five Dynasties and Ten Kingdoms period, especially similar to that of Feng Yansi. It is difficult to verify who wrote some words. This word is also found in Zhu's ci. Judging from the content of the text, it is impossible to determine who wrote it.