1, we should change our words, modify and change our thoughts: the most basic communication between people is language. If we speak without art, or if we don't speak properly, it will be difficult to get others' good opinion of ourselves. In terms of personality, it is difficult for us to have morality and self-cultivation if our habits are heavy and our hearts are vicious, and Jaken, jealousy, stupidity and arrogance in our hearts are not changed.
2, should be taught, suffer, suffer indignities: on the road of life, why can some people keep making progress, while others do not advance but retreat? The problem is that he can't accept it. This is the same as learning to read. Some people make progress easily because they are willing to accept it. Some people tend to regress because they can't accept it. In the process of deepening self-cultivation, we must first learn to be educated. To be educated is to absorb things into your own mind and then digest them into your own thoughts.
We should not only be taught, but also suffer indignities. If a person can only accept compliments from others, it is impossible to give himself strength completely forever. He should also learn to accept criticism, guidance and even harm from others. In a sense, only by suffering and suffering can he make progress.
3, you have to think, think, think: no matter what you do, you must think twice before you act. Thinking is wisdom, and anything that is well thought out will surely get twice the result with half the effort.
4. Dare to speak, dare to do, and dare to be human: Some people dare not express their ideas, and they dare not publish their opinions in public, but only talk privately; Dare not do anything. If you don't take responsibility, you are not responsible. If you don't take responsibility, you can't gain the trust of others and your cultivation will not be improved. Therefore, as long as it is a good thing, we must learn to dare to say and do.
Therefore, if we want to deepen our cultivation, we should:
1. Change your words, modify and change your mind.
2. Be educated, suffer hardships and suffer indignities.
3. Think, think, think again.
4. Dare to speak, dare to do and dare to act.
A person's charm is embodied in cultivation, and cultivation usually comes from details. Behavior forms habit, habit forms quality, and quality determines charm. Start from the things around you, start from the details, learn to know the general idea, start from your own words and deeds, and strive to improve your overall quality, so as to create a harmonious environment and achieve your charming life.
The ancients said, cultivate one's morality, put one's family in order, govern the country and level the world. How to cultivate yourself? Reading is a good channel. Taking books as a mirror can cultivate one's self-cultivation. Philosophy can make people wise and history can increase people's conscience. Reading books on self-cultivation is like talking to sages, and you can get the effect of "playing ancient religion to alert your mind and understanding reason"; It's like putting up a crystal mirror in front of your eyes. Through this mirror, we can learn to concentrate, ask questions, and accumulate over time, which is not only happy and eye-catching, but also good for listening, knowing what's going on in the world, knowing honor and disgrace, and distinguishing ugliness. As Hugo, a great French writer, said, "All kinds of stupid things, under the influence of reading good books every day, are like baking on the fire." Therefore, reading should be self-cultivation.
China has a long history and many schools of thought. There are countless famous sayings about self-cultivation. Confucianism stresses universal love, Mohism stresses universal love, Taoists stress inaction, Legalists stress hegemony and strategists stress strategy. Although there are different opinions, they all shine with the essence of human nature, which is a practical philosophy that has been passed down through the ages. Reading philosophical books such as A Hundred Schools of Thought can make people understand the value of life. For a person, even if only the essence of Confucianism is thoroughly understood, it is of great benefit to be a man or to do things. Judging from the Analects of Confucius that I have read many times, everything from family governance to daily life is very practical. For example, making friends, the Analects mentioned that there are three kinds of beneficial friends and three kinds of harmful friends. Teach us to make friends with honest people, honest people and well-informed people and make contributions to development. If you make friends with flatterers, those who flatter you in front of you, and those who smear you behind your back, you will get hurt. These are the wise sayings in our life. When I was a child, I heard the teacher talk about several articles about "The View of Ancient Chinese Literature". I couldn't understand the teacher's explanation at that time, and I couldn't remember it. I just read the words behind it. In fact, I swallowed the jujube, I didn't know what it tasted like, and then I forgot everything. As soon as I have time, I will go back and read through the articles in Ancient Chinese Literature, ruminating like a cow eating grass, and then feel that this book is an encyclopedia of life, deeply attracted by merits. 198 1 When I was studying at the Central Party School, I bought a set of China's Views on Ancient Literature. Since then, I have formed an indissoluble bond with this book. There are 222 ancient prose, but these articles are full of vitality, and the products are in bamboo and above plum blossoms. For example, compare the personality to: noble, lead an honest and clean life, practice bamboo together, and be lonely and clear. Better than cold plum. From a certain aspect or an event, it has left a historical track of thousands of years, outlined the ups and downs of the century-old dynasty, and recorded many Tessa's voices. Reading through this book repeatedly is like stepping into the lofty hall of ancient book culture in China. As you can see, many works are full of extraordinary splendour and insight, which makes people feel inseparable after reading, and the more they read, the more meaningful they feel. If you recite it, it is like a mental snack, which is used to nourish your mind. Through the description of ordinary life, it also conveys the correct attitude and philosophy of life about victory and failure, adversity and prosperity, luck and suffering, honor and humiliation, pursuit and disillusionment, hope and disappointment, ups and downs and ups and downs, being an official and leaving office. After reading this book, I gained an open-minded understanding of life. I feel that I should do what I should do and what I want to do, just like him, so that people can judge their own merits and demerits. Reading the whole book can make people alert, uplifting, noble and strong. In addition, I have read fan Zhongyan's "Yueyang tower": "don't be happy with things, don't be sad for yourself." If you live high in a temple, you will worry about your people; If you are far away in the rivers and lakes, you will worry about your husband. " "Worry about the world first, and enjoy the world later." Although there are only a few crosses, every word is on the floor. After reading it, everyone will be infected by his realm and feelings. For example, Chen Qingbiao written by Shimi, Preface to Wang Tengge written by Wang Bo and Ten Thoughts on Emperor Taizong written by Wei Zhi can be said that the philosophy in the book covers everything, from self-cultivation to governing the country. I won't go into details here.
Reading philosophical books and learning philosophical wisdom are the basic skills of self-cultivation.
In terms of self-cultivation, you can read books by celebrities. Letters from home are a microcosm of historical development, and their own historical value and literary appreciation value have not faded because of the storms of the times, but have increasingly shown their inner ideological light and charm. From Yan Jiaxun and Zhu Jiaxun, who influenced China for more than a thousand years, to Zeng Guofan's letters and Zuo Jiaxun's letters, and then to Lu Xun and Xu Guangping's letters and Wen Yiduo's letters before liberation; After liberation, the letters of Fu Lei and Shen Congwen have a long history. The ancients said, "After three months of war, a letter from home is worth a ton of gold." It's really vivid.