Now that I think about it, the first weaning failure was actually not the right time, and neither Liu Liu nor I was ready.
Theoretically, a 6-month-old baby can get rid of night milk step by step after adding complementary food. There are many ways online. What I see most is that I feed later every time until I give up night milk.
Theoretically, after all, theoretically. This is not weaning, it is cooking eagle!
If this can be done, the premise is that every time the baby is breast-fed, the mother must be awake, no matter whether he eats once an hour or once every two hours. ...
I may be able to hold on for a day or two. How many days is this step by step? I feel hopeless when I think about it!
When the baby is one or two months old, I don't know whether it is the special function of the new mother or the change of postpartum hormone secretion. In short, I am awake when I feed every night, and I am not sleepy when I sleep less.
After three months, I can't do it. I walked around slowly, eating his night milk. I sleep in my sleep. I often fall asleep before him.
This is also the reason why night milk is difficult to break. It is not difficult for children to have a good bite. It is difficult for mothers to find a sleep artifact better than milk, mainly for their own sleep.
This is also the reason why night milk has been delayed until one and a half years old. I want to be ashamed.
Take a walk to see Chinese medicine in winter. The doctor advised the baby to wean on a warm night in spring, which is good for his spleen and stomach and can make him have a better sleep.
So, I finally got up the courage and tried to wean myself for the second time.
First of all, I learned that night milk refers to the milk that you drink from 12 to 6: 00 in the morning. To correct the misunderstanding, unlike the first time, you are not allowed to stroll around and eat milk in the middle of the night.
In this way, the burden in my heart is much smaller at once, and the challenge of walking is no longer so terrible. Indeed, it is cruel not to breast-feed all night. Dear Liu Liu, please forgive my mother's initial ignorance.
Secondly, I didn't take a little gradual weaning at the wrong time, but cut the gordian knot and act according to circumstances.
During the day, I told Liu Liu to eat less milk at night and take preventive measures. After the first day, I woke up at two o'clock in the middle of the night and saw my father or mother next to me, and began to cry.
I just listened, endured, and kept silent. I don't know where it came from. When the baby is weaned, it is best to separate from the mother.
Until more than half an hour passed, I wandered, cried and vomited. I thought, fuck the separation of mother and son. At night, children just need their mothers.
In a huff, I kicked Liu's father away and began to appease him: "I'm sorry, stinky, we won't eat this milk." You can sleep again and eat when you wake up. "
When I finally met my mother, I was both sad and happy. As a result, my mother refused to breastfeed and continued to cry. Like giving me a lecture, I spoke very well and immediately made my father and I laugh.
Poor Liu Liu is very sad. She struggled for a while when she saw that her mother refused to breastfeed her. Maybe she is tired. She fell asleep on my chest until six o'clock and finally got the milk she wanted.
The first night was so turbulent. I feel horrible. If this is the case on the second and third days ... don't even think about it. Hey!
It was in my nervousness that I ushered in the second day of the night milk fight.
I woke up twice in the middle of the night, at 9: 30 and 1 1 p.m. I took a few sips of milk and went back to sleep.
At about 3: 30 in the middle of the night, I woke up again and looked for milk to eat. I slept in a daze, didn't want to wake up, and muttered, "I don't eat milk when I am wandering, and I can't eat until after 6 o'clock ..."
Just listen to him grumble for a while and sit up and play by yourself! No crying! I also amused myself by hiding the cat with myself, pointing at my nose, talking to my eyes and pointing at my nose.
I was relieved and continued to sleep in a daze. If you are tired of wandering around, you will whisper to me. When you see that I ignore him, you continue to entertain yourself.
In this way, when I looked at my watch again, it was already 5 o'clock. At half past five, Liu Liu began to cry. I'm really sleepy and hungry. I thought my mother would let me have a sip of milk, so I went to bed.
I want to eat the milk. Dad Liu said sarcastically, "You should stick to the principle! It's not six o'clock yet! In this way, he will give it to him when he cries, instead of strengthening his bad behavior! "
I know he is deliberately bad. He wants to hear Liu Liu cry for a while. He speaks so grandiose that I won't be cheated by him!
At half past five, I finished drinking milk and went to bed. In the first night of the milk fight, I really believed that his bad behavior could not be strengthened without compromise, and I cried for an hour. I really feel sorry for him!
This time, the third day, the fourth day and the first week are all like this. Eat milk once or twice in the middle of the night, wake up at 3 o'clock in the middle of the night, toss yourself until 5 o'clock, eat milk and sleep. Several times, I finally stayed up until after 6 o'clock to eat milk.
At this time, the troubles of motherhood are coming again! I am worried about forming bad habits. I get up for two hours at midnight every day. This sleep is not as good as constant night milk!
On the seventh night, walking ended my worries with kindness. (Of course, it may be that you are tired after a week of tossing ...)
When I woke up at three o'clock that day, I mumbled something. I continued to be in a daze, gentle and firm, and he fell asleep again! Oh yeah! Finally saw the dawn of victory!
Now the battle of night milk has been going on for two weeks, and the worst thing is to wake up the night after tomorrow and arrest me twice, hum for a while, and go back to sleep until six o'clock, which is very punctual!
And after a night of weaning, the first effect has been achieved, and the best performance is that the stool has changed from black stool eggs once every three days to yellow stool once a day! It stinks, and I'm still excited!
Of course, if you pull it smoothly, you will definitely eat more, your appetite will get better, and even your calves will be tighter! This curative effect is extraordinary! This should be the comparison before and after the night milk break, haha! See the curative effect!
Jokes are jokes. Looking back on the two night milk fights now, the most profound feeling is that every time we make a decision, whether it is from the children or from the concepts and concepts that we think are correct, the results will be very different.
Thinking from the perspective of children is a real challenge for parents! We need to really understand the needs of children and dare to deny what we think is right. This is not simple!
It is better to believe in books than not to have them. No one method can suit all children. Calm down, get to know the child well and give him the most suitable influence, which is his greatest happiness. I want to thank you.
We are a young couple, with a little dream, code word, taking care of the baby and doing education. Forwarding is our greatest support! Thank you, dear!
Author | Liu Ma, Dai Wa Daniu, Master of Education, Beijing Normal University, American Certified Demonstration Lecturer, encouraging consultants. I believe that the most beautiful parenting is to grow up with children.