Whether in life or study, thinking about problems and making choices are all problems we must face. We need to analyze the problem according to our own judgment, draw a conclusion and make a solution.
However, many times we can't look at problems rationally, but deal with things emotionally, or even if we want to think rationally and logically, our own knowledge reserves and thinking habits can't support us to do so.
In order to look at problems rationally and think logically, I have read many books on this subject. Next, I'll share with you what I've seen recently, and I think it's not bad.
This book holds that what determines our lives is not what happens to us, but what attitude we adopt to accept them. A common feature of successful people in life is that they are good at coordinating the relationship between emotion and reality.
Emotion is like a carriage, and reason is the reins. A skilled driver knows how to appease emotions, appease emotions, please emotions, and enjoy the journey of life happily.
This book mainly describes in detail the great influence of reasonable adjustment of emotions on our daily life and some practical tips on how to adjust emotions from six chapters: the reason of never being angry, the key of 12 to adjust emotions, the reason of not being upset, the reason of not being overwhelmed by loneliness and sadness, the reason of not being eroded by dark emotions, and the reason of losing inner tension.
One of the skills is to change the way of thinking to update your mood.
Everyone has this experience. No matter how hard they try to change their mood, they still feel angry afterwards: why is that man so hateful that he should be beaten up?
At this time, we need to change our way of thinking. Try to change the idea of "I really want to" and "all blame" into "thank you".
Thanks to you, I understand that I can't tell my secret to others easily.
Thanks to you, I understand that I can't speak ill of others behind their backs, but I will definitely pass it on to the parties.
Thanks to you, you gave me a vivid lesson.
Turn the cause of anger into valuable experience and look for positive influence on yourself.
Before starting his own business, the author spent 20 years in a foreign-funded enterprise and lived overseas. In my daily work and communication, I strongly realize that logical thinking and communication skills are indeed indispensable for business people.
However, exercising logical thinking ability itself can't create much value. The key is to use logical thinking skills flexibly as a means to achieve the goal.
This book mainly introduces the negotiation in detail from the aspects of logical thinking, the source of negotiating power, analyzing the needs of negotiating opponents, coping with immoral negotiation tactics, the goals, concessions and inputs in the negotiation, and the question and answer methods in the negotiation.
And there are detailed case introductions to teach you to identify the tricks used by the other party. Although we can't advance and retreat freely in the negotiation process through a book, we can accurately identify local tricks and some practical tricks in daily negotiations.
For the response to unethical negotiation strategies, there is a chapter that quotes eight daily popular cases and analyzes the specific countermeasures to deal with unethical negotiation strategies.
Case ① The other party proposed that "the price can't be reduced any more"
In case 2, the other party proposed "half price!" "If half price doesn't work, a 30% discount will do."
Case ③ The other party suggested that "continuous improvement is needed"
Case ④ The other party asks "What about other companies"
Case (5) The other party proposed "Take this as a gift"
Case 6: The other party proposed that "the budget is only these"
Case ⑦ The other party suggested that "the message has been released, please be sure to agree".
Case 8 The other party makes a phone call and suddenly makes a request.
This is not chicken soup, but a very practical dry encyclopedia.
It is a classic of critical thinking about success and a psychology textbook with success as the main line. It requires you to use self-awareness and critical thinking strategies to examine your dreams, values, interests, skills, needs, recognition, self-esteem and interpersonal relationships. So that readers can know themselves, explore their own abilities, enhance their self-confidence and self-esteem, and effectively improve their practical functions such as self-management and communication.
This book makes a thorough analysis and understanding of oneself from nine chapters, such as psychology and success, self-cognition, goals and obstacles, self-esteem, positive thinking, self-discipline, self-motivation, resource management, communication and interpersonal relationship, so as to find the true self and make progress and growth on this basis.
One of the key chapters, Self-discipline, points out that no matter how motivated, skilled and confident you are, you need to achieve your goals through self-discipline. Self-discipline is a process, not distracted by bad habits, but doing necessary things to achieve goals.
Self-discipline requires two key abilities: persistence and self-determination. The first half of self-discipline is persistence. Persistence is the ability to continue despite opposition, setbacks and occasional doubts. Not everyone can taste the sweetness of success in the first or second attempt. The second half of self-discipline is autonomy, which means the way to go in life.
The original intention of learning is to get rid of the current predicament and develop in a better direction. However, due to the lack of suitable learning methods, it is often difficult to break through the status quo and even fall into another deadlock. Many times, it's not that you can't do it well, nor that you don't have a certain talent. Maybe the "method" of learning is wrong.
Whether the methods we use are suitable for our own personality is the most easily overlooked problem in the learning process. Learning should emphasize autonomy. The more you force yourself to study, the easier it is to feel disgusted. Instead of this, it is better to find a less exclusive learning method to eliminate the feelings of disgust and conflict.
This book mainly introduces Saito's own breakthrough learning methods and the introduction of 16 great men, as well as their learning methods. Everyone has their own unique personality and adaptive environment, so their learning methods are different.
Put forward to master the most appropriate learning methods need to pay attention to the following three points:
1. Have a skill and ask yourself to keep improving.
Where is the easiest place for you to concentrate?
When are you most motivated?
I also shared the learning methods of 16 with different personalities and different environments, including:
1. uninvited learning method-dedicated to you who want to get rid of the academic disadvantage.
2. External shielding method-dedicated to you who love to make excuses
3. Mutual learning method-dedicated to you who can't afford enthusiasm.
4. Physical strengthening method-dedicated to you who are worried about your efforts but can't see the results.
Wait a minute.
You can't completely avoid conflict, and it's hard to change the performance of others in conflict, but you can change your own performance.
I like reading all kinds of books about communication, because in the process of dealing with others, good communication methods and methods can make me deal with some problems faster and more effectively.
Communication and communication are not just as simple as thinking and analyzing problems from the standpoint of others. In addition to some common-sense basic knowledge, we also need to know some methods and skills. So whenever there are some good or professional books on this subject, I will study them carefully by myself.
This book mainly introduces the principles of 17 in dealing with communication difficulties, which can help us get out of the endless cycle of attack and counterattack and let us resolve conflicts in a more elegant, positive and concrete way.
These include:
1, don't just listen to the offensive language, listen to the meaning behind the literal.
2. resist the impulse to attack and change to a heartfelt dialogue.
Suppose you are talking to each other in the best condition.
4. Distinguish between needs, interests and action plans.
Wait a minute.
The importance of reading to our life is self-evident. We will also try to read all kinds of books, but we will soon find that when we read, we are just reading.
It is always difficult for us to absorb and digest the effective information in books, and it is difficult to turn the precious wealth in books into our brains.
This book believes that a good reading method generally includes these four steps: how to choose books, how to buy books, how to read, how to record and how to use them flexibly.
How to choose books: how to choose the books you really want to read?
How to buy books: how to buy books that are really beneficial to you?
How to read: how to deepen understanding and think deeply?
How to use it flexibly: how to use the knowledge gained from books
Among them, how to use it flexibly mainly introduces some skills and methods.
After reading it, browse your notes, and help yourself live smarter and get promoted in the process of retrieval and reference.
Reading has become a successful experience by writing reading notes. The last step in taking notes is to make use of this reading experience and turn it into your own spiritual wealth.
Rereading notes in a fixed place: for example, before going to bed every night, about 10: 00 to 11: 00, I will lie in bed and read the reading notes of the previous days.
Get into the habit of rereading: once a week, for example, or once every three days. Sometimes it is necessary to read notes, so it is better to find a quiet environment where you can be alone.
In the process of rereading, you can find unexpected gains, such as better sentences, new understanding, new life insights and so on. This is also why many people will read the famous works several times, because the experience of life is different, and the feelings and gains without once are completely different.
These are some books that I read some time ago and found very useful. I'd like to share it with you. You are welcome to recommend more good books and learn from each other.