According to this textbook and the experience around me, I think we can get three ways to get along with each other.
Jungle baby
First, don't be so strong. The so-called masculinity or femininity in the book is just a fixed stereotype given to us by society. In fact, in their life, this "taste" is actually vague.
For men, many times they will insist on protecting their masculinity, and women will ensure their femininity. Actually, there's no need to do this. Just do it according to your own mentality. There is no need to wear a mask to face each other. Maybe your honesty and sincerity can make the other person like you more than the so-called "taste".
Jungle baby
Second, do things similar to each other. This book says that we will like people like us, whether they look the same or have the same views. For such people, we will be more and more pleasing to the eye and like them more and more.
When we first met 1, what actually attracted us was the temperament and appearance of the other person, but later, we would have a deeper understanding of each other's three views and values, and we would pay more attention to these things.
In the future, I will get to know each other's lifestyle, some small details of life, small details of work, and attitudes towards marriage, life and parenting.
If you can agree, you may be able to go further. If you don't agree, you may stop faster.
So when we get along, we should do similar things with each other as much as possible, not necessarily to cater to each other, but also to manage love and marriage.
love
Respecting and listening to each other and respecting each other is always a question to be said. You should learn to respect each other in the process of getting along. After all, respect is the premise of life. A person who doesn't respect you won't get along with her, and a person who doesn't respect you won't get along with you, even if you are husband and wife.
On the basis of real respect, listening to each other's words, listening to each other's voices and ideas can make life better and make each other more adaptable.
We can't blindly change. Our changes must have a purpose. Where does the purpose come from? It comes from each other's psychology. Dragonflies become very important at this time.
love
In fact, for this book, there is a lot of boring but close to the essence of knowledge, but these essential things are difficult to see because of the lack of interest.
But this book is still good. It starts from people's psychology, analyzes social reality, and makes it clear that the opposite sex has encountered various changes.