Since habit is an inertial behavior from learning, there are naturally so-called good and bad points. However, what are good living habits? In the interview, I found that although the parents interviewed have different requirements for their children, they are nothing more than proper planning of food, clothing, housing, transportation, study and leisure activities. Therefore, effective time management is the core of good living habits.
Many parents are worried that their children have no friends. Generally divided into the following situations.
Some children sit in the classroom after class. Some children stand alone on the playground, or alone.
Some children play well with their peers at first, and then they are rejected by others after playing for a while.
Some children are running around the playground with no fixed companions.
Improve children's ability to make friends at school.
For what happened at school, parents can let their children find out some popular classmates in the class, observe their advantages and analyze the reasons why everyone likes them. Record who these children play with, what they play with, and what they encounter between classes, and tell their parents at home. If your child doesn't want to share it with you, you can use the external drive method. The child will tell you one thing, add 1 red star to the child. Perhaps the child is willing to tell you that when he constantly describes the good behavior of these role models in words, he will get positive psychological hints and his behavior will be changed and moved.
What if the child can't play anything?
Other children can't play any games, even chess, checkers, military chess, poker, flying chess, gobang, go and so on. He can't even play games with his classmates. He doesn't have the same language and intersection with his companions, so he can only play by himself. On the one hand, parents can tutor their children to play chess and play with them; On the other hand, parents can let their children record what games students play during recess and how to play each game, such as stones, paper-cutting, shooting ducks and so on. Tell their parents and teach them how to play when they come back. The process of children teaching their parents is also an exercise. If children don't want to teach, they can use the method of external drive first, and then encourage them to record with good words, so that children can have an internal sense of accomplishment. If they persist, external motivation will be transformed into internal motivation.
What if the child has an affair?
When children are playing, they often encounter cheating problems. The reason is that some children just do things according to their own ideas and understand other people's behaviors according to their own ideas. If other people's rules of the game are different from their own, they will be very angry, saying that others are not playing correctly, or that others are sincere and can't beat him. Some children must win, and if they lose, they will say "no, play again". After several times, no one wanted to play with him. Other children accidentally touched him while playing, and he hit back backhand, thinking that others were attacking him; Or shout "What's wrong with you, why are you touching me" and so on. These children are very self-centered, lacking empathy and empathy, and their emotions fluctuate greatly. We should focus on cultivating children's emotional management.
Children with stable emotions have many friends.
When a child is confronted with such a collision or seemingly disrespectful or even aggressive behavior, if his interpretation is "in fact, he is joking", his mood will not fluctuate so much, because he is the master of his own mood and his mood will not be controlled by others. So many children are willing to play with him, and his friends are increasing.
Learn to make friends and escort children's happiness
Parents should talk less and do more, role-play with children, practice more, break down goals and tasks, and let children experience the fun and success of making friends. Learn to make friends, so that today's children can grow up happily and make them happier when they grow up. As we all know, adults have to complete three basic tasks in their life, namely, career, love and friendship. Career can ensure children's material living standards, love and friendship can give children spiritual protection and make their lives happier.