In ancient times, boys and girls began to learn at the age of ten, but the content of learning was completely different. Boys "teach foreign teachers and stay abroad", find foreign teachers to learn the way of governing the country, and even live outside without going home, which is said to be conducive to communication.
girl
Girls can only stay at home, stay at the door, stay at the second door, and learn "listen, watch invisibility, don't climb high, don't be shameless, be meticulous, don't laugh, stand up straight" and "cock crow, salt wash, dress, collect pillows, clean rooms and courts, cloth seats, and go your own way".
The above two sentences can be seen literally, how serious, how serious and how depressed. When the girl is only ten years old, let her learn these truths and hope that the child will be lively and lovely when she grows up. They must look a lot like the old master Q.
Of course, if this step is achieved, the purpose of ancient education will be achieved, because a woman educated according to ancient etiquette and rules does not need much creativity or contribution to society, but only needs you to be a docile slave and make all preparations, so that she can become a docile daughter-in-law in the future.
marry
It should be noted that the word "daughter-in-law" is very special in the old saying.
"Daughter-in-law" refers to a young woman. In ancient books, in-laws are called aunts; A woman, with "help", helps others. From person to husband, that is to say, the word "daughter-in-law" has been interpreted as a young woman subordinate to her husband since ancient times. Because she is subordinate to her husband, the division of labor between husband and wife begins here. The husband's role is to "enjoy his territory", just like the stone carving of the boundary pillar gate of Qin Shihuang, and then go out and do his own thing.
According to the rules and principles I learned when I was a child, the ancient book Book of Rites summed up five things, and thought that only by doing these five things can a good wife be considered. So, what are these five things?
observe
These five things are the so-called "mastery methods". At the beginning, they asked women to obey the first, and one should be true first. Ask the daughter-in-law to obey and be loyal to her husband unconditionally.
There are two main principles of obedience and loyalty at the bottom, so they will make all kinds of absurd remarks. These five things are:
On weekdays, when you look at each other, you will be strict with your own subjects; If you feed, you will get the respect of your father and son; If you report it, you will have a brotherly way; With virtue, there is the meaning of being friends; However, the relationship between husband and wife appears in the corner of the bed and table.
In ancient times, "five virtues" refers to the monarch and his subjects, father and son, husband and wife, brothers and friends. They pay attention to loyalty, filial piety, forbearance and kindness, and talk about the five norms of interpersonal relationships, but only for husband and wife.
virtue
She needs to play five roles at the same time: minister, son, brother, friend and wife, with five virtues of loyalty, filial piety, forbearance and kindness. This is no longer a requirement for people, but for machines.
Because only machines can carry out instructions so strictly and carry forward all kinds of virtues that human beings need, so that people can't find any shortcomings.
You know, the ancients were very particular about order and rules, but judging from the five things of being a good daughter-in-law, these five things even put "the love of husband and wife" after "friendship", and the status of a daughter-in-law at home is even worse than that of a friend. Under this rule, Wuqi in the Warring States period killed his wife for help, and Liu Bei in the Three Kingdoms period thought that "a wife is like clothes and a friend is like a brother". It seems that
man and wife
However, I want to mention the "love between husband and wife" among these five things. On the surface, it seems to give my wife a glimmer of light. However, what light is this?
Look at "The Love of Husband and Wife", that is, "The Rotation of the Bed", and you will know how different this ray of light is from what we imagined.
I said: men and women have different flails, so they dare not catch their husbands, hiding in their husbands' pockets and taking a bath together. When her husband is away, she collects pillows, baskets and tableware and hides them.
Men and women don't use ordinary hangers. The wife is afraid to hang her clothes on her husband's hanger, put them in his suitcase and take a bath in the same bathroom as her husband. If the husband is not at home, the wife will put his pillow in the box, put away the sofa, and all his other equipment will be properly put away.
concubine
Even my husband's clothes rack and suitcase can't be used casually. She wanted to wait on her husband unconditionally, almost to the point of leaving. Besides, "only 70 years old, it has nothing to do with Tibet." Over 70 years old, she can get along with her husband without scruple. Before that, she stayed for about six days every month, so that her husband and other women could have a concubine, that is, the "five-day dynasty".
Modern people cannot imagine how difficult it is to be a good wife. Therefore, according to ancient records, only by doing these five points can a good wife be considered. This statement is ridiculous because his demand for women is basically impossible.