You are your own best consultant. "If you are unable to do something, look to yourself instead." When your thinking is too self-centered, you will be in a bad mood. If you can change your thinking state and look outside, you will definitely not be like this now. I suggest you go volunteer in a nearby nursing home for 21 consecutive days, and all your problems will be solved.
Let’s see if my example is helpful to you: I once suffered from depression and felt that everything was boring. I had insomnia and couldn’t sleep. I was extremely emotionally depressed. Now that I think about it, in fact, everything Diseases are caused by one's own "heart". If you cannot conquer your own "heart", many problems will arise. I suggest you check out websites related to Buddhism. You can also seek professional psychological counseling and treatment. Also, take a look at my experience, it might be helpful to you. I majored in agriculture, but loved computer science. After working, I was assigned to the organization department of a company by chance. There was a director and deputy director in the department (who came to the organization department before me and graduated in the same year as me). To be honest, I didn’t I don’t like my job, but my father’s ideas are deeply ingrained because he wanted to work in the organizational department when he was young. He thinks that I have realized the dream that he did not realize when he was young. Because of this, I have not mentioned the idea of ????changing jobs. I studied computer technology in my free time and passed the MSCE (Microsoft Network Engineer) exam in my spare time. I have always wanted to work in computer networks. The boss of our company also knew that I liked this job. With his consent, I and the boss’s fellow countryman (also A college student in a department also likes computer networking) and opened an Internet cafe outside. The Internet cafe was doing well in the early stage, until the girlfriend of the boss, a fellow countryman, joined, and I quit. The boss transferred me to the labor department. The section chief treated me very well. I got married not long after I was transferred to the labor department. The section chief bought me a refrigerator (more than 1,000 yuan). My salary at that time was only 800 yuan. Later, he gave me My daughter-in-law’s household registration was converted to a resident household registration. I bought a house the next year, and the section chief loaned me another 20,000 yuan. It can be said that several major events in my life have been experienced in labor and management. The section chief is very democratic and caring. Subordinate, although I still like computer network work, because the section chief treats me very well, and my child is young, I have suppressed the idea of ????changing jobs. I have no desire to be an official. I just hope to do a good job and live a good life. Just live a down-to-earth, smooth life.
But the reality is always unsatisfactory. After working in the Labor and Management Department for 4 years, the company transferred me back to the Organization Department as deputy director. At this time, the original deputy director was already the deputy secretary of the company. To be honest, I really don’t like the work of the Organization Department, and I also really don’t like the leadership style of the deputy secretary. He is arbitrary and domineering. He is completely different from the labor and management section chief. In addition, this person likes to drink and stay up late, and I just don’t like drinking and playing cards. , the cooperation between the two of us was very unpleasant. I was very depressed during the year in the organization department, and my whole person had no brilliance. I never had a solid sleep every night, and I only had strange dreams. Within a year, I was transferred to a subordinate furniture company as deputy secretary. The employees and cadres of the subordinate companies even loved playing cards and drinking. I was about to have a nervous breakdown. I couldn't sleep at all every night, always thinking about whether to leave or not. The problem of walking is like a donkey starving to death because it doesn't know whether to eat the grass on the left or the right first. I feel like I'm going to die. I can't do anything energetically. I don't like to talk. I usually like to read books but can't read them. The TV I usually like to watch is boring. I explained my situation to my brother, who suggested that I take a one-month leave of absence before making a decision. I thought it was more reasonable. After that, I applied to the manager for a one-month break. In the past month, my family and superior company leaders have tried to persuade me not to resign. My father even came to Tianjin from Guangdong to visit me. Because he came to me whenever his computer had problems), he personally talked to me and told me to work on it first. If he still feels uncomfortable after working for a year, he would go back to the company headquarters and set up a computer room just for me. He has already said this, what else can I say.
One month later, I returned to work at the furniture company, but no one could unravel the plot in my heart. Finally, one night on duty, I suddenly fell into coma (later I was told it was an epileptic seizure, but before This has never happened before), and I woke up after 2 days. After my parents heard about it, they immediately rushed from Guangzhou to Beijing to take care of me. I had a headache at the time, my speech was a bit messy, and I felt like my brain was not working well. Also, because I am a deputy in the company and suffer from epilepsy, I am under great mental pressure. This disease is commonly known as epilepsy, and its name is not pleasant. After my parents came and saw my condition, my father said that I had no energy at all. I was suspicious and worried that I might have schizophrenia. In the end, I could associate schizophrenia with anything other people said. I remember that day, my head felt swollen. When I was about to burst, I hit the wall with my fists, and even though I was bleeding, I didn’t feel the pain. When I was on the verge of collapse, it was my mother who constantly encouraged me. She told me to shout out the depression in my heart and vent it out (my father and my wife took our son (Took him out), with the encouragement of my mother, I risked my life and shouted loudly, "I am schizophrenic, I am two hundred and fifty." I remember bursting into tears at that time, and the years of depression erupted violently, like a volcano erupting in an instant. , and gradually returned to calm. I remember that when I shouted "I am schizophrenic", my heart calmed down and I no longer had worries until today (two years have passed).
Afterwards, I analyzed that I have not accepted myself for many years, and there has been a conflict in my heart. When I admit everything I worry about, it is like two parties to the conflict. One party disarms and the war suddenly stops.
I have read a lot of books on psychology and spiritual practice, and I am also analyzing why my depression can be cured. I think depression is caused by not accepting oneself, having too high demands on oneself, and always asking questions like "how could this happen or why is this happening?" Let's analyze when you asked yourself in your mind how could this happen or why? When talking about why such problems occur, those problems have already happened, and what has happened cannot be changed. The impact of these things on you depends entirely on your perspective. If you change your perspective, accept the present, accept yourself, and yourself Don’t compete with yourself, I dare say any mental illness will go away.
One additional point: After I read "In Search of the Meaning of Life", I discovered that I had inadvertently used the "ambivalent intention" technique, one of the logotherapy techniques invented by its author Dr. Victor. , which talks about a specific case: a young physician developed anxiety because of his fear of sweating. This anticipatory anxiety was enough to make him sweat every time he expected to sweat. To cut off this vicious cycle, he advises patients, when sweating is about to happen again, to deliberately show people how much they are sweating. A week later, when he encountered someone who triggered his anticipatory anxiety, he said to himself, "I used to sweat a quart, but now I sweat at least four quarts!" As a result, after four years of enduring it, After suffering from fear, he was completely free of the pain within a week.
Based on my experience in overcoming depression, I would like to recommend the following to all my friends who suffer from depression or anxiety (excessive anxiety will turn into depression):
1. Yell from the bottom of your heart: I like this (referring to your current state). Yell 100 times a day (morning and night) for 1 week. After it works, I yell: I must communicate and yell 100 times a day (morning and evening). I must release stress and resolve inner conflicts. I must accept myself. No matter whether it is good or bad, I must accept it. Only accept it. Only then can we change.
2. It is recommended to read "Live the Most Optimistic Self" (must read). In addition, the three books "The Power of Now", "Reshaping the Mind" and "Let the Sunshine Spread Naturally" are also recommended. have a look. You will definitely gain something after reading it. If your thoughts change, your behavior will change, and your condition will definitely get better in the end.
3. If you don’t sleep well, it is recommended to take Tianwang Buxin Pills or Tianmeng Capsules
4. Most friends who suffer from depression think too much, and thinking too much can damage the spleen and stomach. Drink more porridge, eat more yams to regulate the spleen and stomach, and also exercise more
Finally, insist on participating in volunteer services. If you can do one good thing for others every day for 21 days, your depression will be better. quick. The main cause of depression is being too self-centered and thinking too much about yourself. When your thinking shifts from yourself to others, it can definitely change the state of depression. My experience tells me that participating in volunteer services, participating in life-release activities, and understanding Buddhism from many aspects can definitely change your current situation. I wish you a speedy recovery.