Some people say, "ran yong is a man of righteousness, but he lacks glib words." Confucius said, "How can you be eloquent? It is often boring to have something to say at any time in response to other people's comments. If there is benevolence, why use your breath? "
Confucius once said: "fortitude is dull, almost benevolent." Among them, "wood" and "bookworm" mean to talk less and not brag. Only in this way can we approach the realm of "benevolence". As we mentioned before, the last thing Confucius likes is people who can talk. In this chapter, Confucius once again criticized the act of boasting with others' evaluation of ran yong.
There is no winner in arguing with others, which only makes things worse. On this point, Carnegie, a famous American success master, has made in-depth research. He listed "avoiding arguing with others" as an important principle to persuade others. He believes that the result of a debate will make both sides of the debate stick to their own views more than before and believe that they are absolutely correct. If you lose the debate, you really failed; But if you win, you actually lose. Because you win the debate, it will make the other person feel inferior and hurt his dignity, and he will be full of resentment for your victory. Besides, even if the other party gives up verbally, he will certainly not be convinced. Carnegie's view is similar to that of Confucius.
In life, some people are witty and eloquent. If they have conflicts or disputes with others in their life or work, they are likely to be invincible with their "eloquence". Whether right or wrong, as long as we seize the loopholes in each other's language, we will launch wanton attacks and argue with each other until we are speechless. If such people are put on the debate or negotiation table, they may be talents. However, life is not a debate. If you are so "strong" in your daily life and work, you will suffer sooner or later.
Sometimes words are too weak to convince others to change their positions, even if they are eloquent, it will not help. Therefore, as a smart person, you should learn to be cautious. You know, it is meaningless to speak in front of others. Sometimes you will push yourself to the wall, and it will be too late to regret it.
Confucius suggested arguing less with others, but he did not deny that people should have excellent expression and communication skills. From today's understanding, people should not only have the virtue of benevolence and righteousness, but also have the wisdom of life with little debate. More importantly, they should have excellent knowledge and excellent communication skills in order to be competent for more important work.
"Stupidity" means that people should not argue strongly and should not be too dull in practice. This may also be the difference in meaning between ancient and modern times. Rhetoric is also constantly developing, and its meaning is constantly refined and expanded.
For ancient books, it is of great significance to understand their true meaning and extract their essence in combination with the present era!