I remember there is a therapy in psychology, that is, when you are upset, or indecisive, it is difficult to make a decision, psychologists often advise you to write down your confusion, list why you want to make a decision, what are its advantages and disadvantages, and see what you really think before making a decision.
In fact, we also need such a list in our lives. Don't go into details, just write down everything you have. When we make this list, you will find that you actually have much more than you think.
"In fact, in our long life, don't we just need a life list? I think we should make a friendship list for ourselves in time to see who warms our hearts, who hasn't been in touch for a long time, who is still around, giving ourselves selfless comfort, finding an evening, saying thank you to them, or getting together happily; We should make a list of our family, look back at how much heartfelt care and meticulous consideration our parents and family have given us since childhood, and reflect on how much warmth we should have paid but never had time to put it into action. What are we waiting for? A warm word, or just a hug, is enough to warm the hearts of the people we love; Make a love list for yourself. Tell me how much you have paid for love, what you have done for your lover, whether you have kept your promise, whether you always remember to say "I love you" to her (him) and whether you have given her a loyal heart. You will know how you should contribute to love. Then make an ideal list for yourself, recall the clear ideals and moving wishes you once had, and take stock of what you have achieved now and how much you still have to work hard for. You will find that life is not confused, it always burns the ideal light. ......
Always remember to make a list of your life. It will remind you of the happy times, the precious wealth and the beautiful feelings you have experienced. It will make you realize what you haven't done before and what you haven't done well. It will bring you sweet satisfaction, remind you to make up for your past mistakes and inspire you to move forward bravely. "(Author: Yin Wei)
I want to thank everyone who has read this article, and I hope you can get happiness and satisfaction.
Planning life, more precisely, planning a successful life, life is an attitude and an ideal. Some people plan goods, money and emotions every day, and eventually get lost, instead of planning their lives. Planning your life begins with planning yourself.
Planning definition
Planning life: Scientific planning of life means planning your study, work, career and intellectual activities well through scientific thinking methods. Planning your life provides you with a standardized, orderly, coordinated, planned and targeted organizational procedure. Let your daily life, social activities, creative activities, study, work and career go smoothly. Managing your own advantages is to maximize your potential advantages and make it an advantage in your career. It determines your future development and whether you can achieve something.
Planning life also refers to the process that individuals coordinate their internal environment, individuals and environment through planning, self-organization and self-supervision, so as to better realize their self-organization goals. Personal internal environment includes: soft environment; Hard environment. Soft environment mainly includes: wisdom, thought, mental health, study, time and so on. The hard environment mainly includes: physical health, behavior, material and economy. The relationship between individual and environment mainly includes: individual and natural environment; Personal and social environment; Personal and business environment; Personal and family environment.
Managing one's own strength means planning one's life: determining one's own business strategy through planning and management; Determine your business mode through organizational planning; Realize your business scope through planning and management. Managing your strengths is equal to managing your life. Management methods include: how to build self-esteem to build their own social prestige; From establishing self-improvement to establishing one's own career; From learning knowledge to building one's own comprehensive wisdom; From creating achievements to expanding their social visibility; From finding a partner to establishing your own social category.
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A man named John? When Goddard's foreigner 15 years old, he made a list of things to do in life, called "life list", and made clear the specific goals that 127 had to overcome. For example, explore the Nile, climb the Himalayas, read Shakespeare, write a book and so on. After 44 years, he achieved the goal of 106 through tenacious efforts.
Life list is actually a life plan, which consists of specific goals that must be put into effort. It can be carefully laid out around a theme, or it can involve different fields and propositions to enrich life to the greatest extent.
As the embodiment of individual life self-awareness, "life list" is an orderly and beneficial life planning that follows certain steps. Of course, due to the differences in subjective consciousness and the constraints of objective conditions, not everyone can foresee their own potential and reality and make a life-long plan, but it is entirely possible and necessary for us to carefully arrange the procedures and points of doing things for certain periods of life as the basis and guide for action. And some people, except for such a relatively stable "life list", seem to lack everything, so life is very casual, drifting with the tide, vacillating, and drilling wherever they are "popular". The reason is that they think that life is just a kind of fast food, which can be adjusted temporarily and seems to have nutritional value. Let's call it "fast food outlook on life". Such a life can hardly stand the test of time and the chewing of history.
Real life is not "fast food" after all, but a feast with both nutritional and artistic value. It needs a clear "menu" so that all kinds of materials can be best matched, and at the same time, we can cook delicious food in our spare time. Life list is not only to arrange what to do first, but more importantly, it enables us to establish a spiritual ideal and pursuit.
Planning rules
1, the goal of success. Strong motivation for success mainly depends on internal motivation. Without passion, there will be no great achievements. Passion here refers to the heartfelt desire and pursuit of success. When you connect your goal with the mission of your life, you will find that every day in your life has its clear meaning. Therefore, a clear understanding of your big goals in life will directly promote your grasp. Unfortunately, there are also many people who go with the flow. They don't have any goals in life, either they feel that time is still long or they feel that "everything is arranged in a free day". These people who don't have any ideas about their own lives can hardly inspire their motivation and passion in their daily study and life. Recognizing one's responsibility and mission, and being willing to work for it, is the most direct way to stimulate the motivation for success from within. No matter how you motivate yourself to succeed, it is clear that the sooner you motivate yourself, the better. Because it will guide your behavior.
2. Carefully plan every step of your life. There is a saying: "everything is established in advance, and it is abolished if it is not planned." It's true. Without any preparation for what you have done or will do, you are preparing for failure. In fact, learning to make plans at each stage is not only a matter of cultivating study habits, but also a process of training operational ability. A feasible study and work plan should comprehensively consider the development level of each subject, fully grasp and effectively use its own work and rest rules, as well as the reasonable combination of study and work, and so on. It can be said that a good study and work plan is a small and complete systematic project. It can integrate all kinds of learning work together and do the best, thus greatly improving the efficiency of learning work. If you can finish the plan well every day and every week, then the success you expect is actually a natural result. The key factor in studying and working in a planned way is the determination and perseverance to carry out the plan, which is the biggest challenge to personal consciousness and self-control. Only those who have experienced such challenges have the chance to get success and generous gifts.
The plan for each stage must be specific and clear. When talking about the secret of his success, a famous marathon runner said, "I intentionally keep several places on my long-distance running route in mind, so whenever I finish a mileage, I keep the name of the next mileage in mind. Such a long route is divided into several small mileage in my mind, and all I need to do is try my best to finish these short mileage." The Japanese also advocate trying to improve a little every day. They believe that even if the promotion steps can't make you famous in the world, they will certainly help you make better achievements and gain a sense of accomplishment. Making a little progress every day is actually the best way to achieve your goal.
3. Understand the meaning of competition. It is difficult to find a territory without competition now. Competition is everywhere in life, from the whole society to a small group. Competition, like an invisible warning sign, always urges us so that we will not relax. After China's entry into WTO, all countries are competing in secret, playing an invisible game of chasing after each other, with only one purpose, that is, to be in the leading position in the competition. Everyone should find the coordinates of his life when planning his life, so that life can be meaningful. If you stick to your own opinions, it will only add a lot of trouble to your life. Kelly, the general manager of Tomorrow Enterprise, is well-read and loves books, from politics, history and philosophy to gossip, from foreign theoretical monographs to ancient books in China. He said, "people should read three kinds of books, political books, to maintain the atmosphere;" Read professional books to cultivate talents, and read leisure books to cultivate sentiment. "
Plan your life, treat yourself correctly, find yourself successfully, analyze yourself objectively and successfully surpass yourself. An educator thinks: "Self-education is an important symbol of modern people and the most fundamental ability of human modernization." Therefore, only with a strong sense can we constantly inspire our wisdom and inspiration and create new labor value from ourselves.