background of physical knowledge
vibration: a process of state change, that is, the reciprocating motion of an object.
what does it feel like to be in love? Inner ups and downs? Rapid heartbeat? Deer bump into each other?
that's about it. who can tell?
Therefore, in order to close the psychological distance in pick up hot chicks, it is necessary to make the other person's heart vibrate and create a feeling of love. This is based on psychology!
background of psychological knowledge
drawbridge effect: when a person crosses the drawbridge in fear, his heart will beat faster involuntarily. If you happen to meet a opposite sex at this time, he will mistakenly think that the opposite sex in front of him is the other half of his life, and thus have feelings for it.
This is because emotions are influenced by behaviors. On the suspension bridge, people will unconsciously have their hearts beating faster due to dangerous situations. They mistakenly understand the heartbeat acceleration caused by this situation as a physiological reaction caused by the other person's heart beating, so they have a feeling of love for each other.
with this in mind, we can deliberately create such conditions when inviting people. What activities will make people's hearts beat faster?
For example, exercise, so mountain climbing or running is actually a good dating choice. What's more exciting, let's go to an amusement park, take a ride on a roller coaster, ferris wheel, play with the rapids or jump to the extreme? The keeper's heart is pounding, and then you look at her affectionately. It's effective not to say anything, but it's more effective to say something sensational. So, dating doesn't just have to be about eating and watching movies. It's better to be fresh and exciting. There is a saying that "if she is not wet behind the ears, take her to see the prosperity of the world", which is the truth. Of course, the last sentence is "If she has gone through the vicissitudes of life, take her on a merry-go-round", which will turn things upside down, but if she has gone through the vicissitudes of life like this, most people can't hold it.
Dating such as eating and watching movies is a cliche, but it is also indispensable. You can choose the content of the movie. It is said that watching horror movies so that girls can get scared into their arms is so boring. Stealing oil is a very obscene act. Watching horror movies is because it can make people feel scared and speed up their heartbeat, but other types of movies have the same effect, so horror movies are not the first choice, lest people suspect that you have ulterior motives. Action movies or suspense movies can also be exciting and optional, but there may not be many female audiences; Romance movies are a good choice. You may not be interested, but girls love to watch them. For example, the theme of youth pain, the more "pain", the better, that is, to highlight a "abuse", so that the ups and downs inside are big and the vibration is obvious. If you eat, you can break through the restaurant environment.
the benefits of humor are also reflected here. How did the punchline come about? That is, when you say something, the other party has a prediction, and in the end, the result you say is not within the prediction range, which produces a vibration in your heart, thus causing a joke. For example, the writer Mark Twain said, "It's the easiest to quit smoking. I've given it up more than 2 times." You see, he said "it's easy to quit smoking", and we might think that he quit smoking. As a result, the last sentence was "quit more than 2 times", which means that he couldn't quit at all. Contrary to our prediction, this sentence achieved a humorous effect and our hearts vibrated once. Therefore, when you are humorous, the pace of the deer in the girl's heart will be much more chaotic, and maybe it will hit the point. But remember, humor is not funny, you can tell jokes but don't drive around!
background of physics knowledge
* * vibration: when one object vibrates, it can make another object vibrate at the same frequency.
This definition is not very accurate, but it is easy to understand. In terms of psychological distance, the purpose we want to achieve is * * * vibration, just like the harmony between the piano and the harp described in literature, like the poem "yet I feel the harmonious heart-beat of the Sacred Unicorn", like the coordination of dance steps when dancing, and the variance is zero in mathematical language.
if the psychological distance is close to a certain extent, the physical distance can be improved, such as natural touch, holding a small hand! The increase of physical distance will in turn promote inner vibration. The most common trick is to hold her hand naturally when crossing the road or when there are many people. It must be natural. At this time, her heart will be very messy. I guess it may be like this: Why did I hold it? I haven't agreed yet. He'll let go, right? But it feels good to hold hands. Maybe he won't let go? ..... At this time, the gentleman's practice is to let go naturally after crossing the road or going to a place where there are few people. You may think: Hi! I haven't let go yet, and I haven't been holding it all the time ... Focus: This is just a temptation. If you hold hands in this situation (crossing the road or there are many people) and don't feel obviously free-of course, it is inevitable to break free, and you need to hold it tighter-naturally hold hands again when there is no reason behind. Anyway, it is unexpected, so that she can't think when you will hold hands again. (If the break is obvious, the hand-holding session will take a while. ) Girls are shy and generally don't ask why they want to hold hands. If they do, answer generously: I want to hold hands! ..... Other natural touches, such as grabbing her arm for a long time and pulling her aside, the action of pulling her arm can be replaced by hugging her shoulder or pushing her back, and there is a recommended action to help her tie her hair behind her ear!
You may have to say that this is something you do only after you become a boyfriend and girlfriend. It's still in the stage of pick up hot chicks. Why is there such a touch? My answer is: Don't even dare to ask for pick up hot chicks? Please take that!
background of psychological knowledge
cognitive disharmony: it is not necessary to change behavior by changing cognition. In fact, changing behavior first can also change cognition in turn.
cognitive dissonance theory contains many things, and this is just one of them, but it shows the correctness of the above behavior well. Although it's not significant, you can communicate like a boyfriend and girlfriend, and even others will think that you are a boyfriend and girlfriend when they see you, and the other party will probably treat you as a boyfriend psychologically. Don't be shy and don't be afraid. The essence of this sentence is mostly here. If girls hate this, they won't progress to this point. If they progress to this point, they will not be far from success.
Let's stop here about the fact that R is worth shortening. To sum up, the approach of psychological distance needs to rely on vibration to finally reach * * * vibration. The shortening of physical distance should be based on a certain psychological distance, and the shortening process must be natural. Come on!
PS: in this way, the gravitational value f is enough. I wrote three articles, and this topic is basically over. Do you have anything to talk about holding hands for the first time? Welcome to leave a message!