-Northern Qi Yan Zhitui's "Yan Jiaxun Godson"
Vernacular translation:
1. Intellectuals can become talents without education, and fools can't be educated. It's just that most ordinary people need education. If they don't teach, they won't know. The ancient holy king had the practice of "prenatal education". When he was three months pregnant, he went out to live in another good house. His eyes can't squint, his ears can't listen, and he should be temperate in listening to music and eating delicious food according to etiquette. He had to write these on a jade board and hide them in a gold cabinet.
2. When the fetus is still in its infancy, those who act as "teachers" and "guardians" should explain filial piety, benevolence, courtesy and righteousness and guide learning. Even if ordinary people can't do this, we should teach babies to train the sea when they know people's faces and know how to be happy and angry. If they are asked to do it, they won't do it. When they grow up, they can avoid flogging. As long as parents have dignity and love, children are naturally not afraid of caution and filial piety.
I often don't agree with the people in the world who don't talk about education but only love children. What to eat and do, indulge children at will, without control, praise when admonished, laugh when reprimanded, and think that children are sensible. It was not until pride and neglect became a habit that we began to stop them. Then no matter how vicious the whip is, it can't establish dignity, and no matter how fierce the anger is, it will only increase resentment until it grows up and eventually becomes a person with corrupt morality.
4. Confucius said, "What is cultivated at an early age is like nature. If you get used to it, it will become nature." That makes sense. As the saying goes, "the daughter-in-law teaches when she first comes, and the child teaches when she is still a baby." This statement does make sense.
Ordinary people can't educate their children well, and they don't want them to fall into a sinful situation. They just don't want him to look depressed because of being scolded, and they don't have the heart to let him suffer because of being beaten. This is better than getting sick. Can it be cured without decoction and acupuncture? It's time to think about those who often exhort their children. Are they willing to be mean and abusive to their own flesh and blood This is a last resort!
5. Be serious between father and son, but not negligent; There should be love between flesh and blood, but it should not be simple. If Jane is slow, filial piety will not be done well, and there will be neglect of discipline and neglect. People love children and seldom treat them equally. Since ancient times, there have been many such ills. In fact, smart and handsome people are certainly attractive, and naughty and stupid people are also pitiful. That kind of parents with preferences, even if they want to be nice to him, will bring him trouble.
6. A scholar-bureaucrat in Northern Qi once said to me, "I have a son who is seventeen years old. He is very good at writing and playing Zagreb. He taught him to speak Xianbei, played the pipa, and learned almost all of them. It is also urgent to use these to serve the three officials and nine ministers. " I looked down and didn't answer. It's strange that this man should educate his son like this! If you use this method as a ladder of intimacy, I don't want you to do so.
The original text of "Teaching Women to Teach Children to Teach Babies":
1, wisdom does not teach, ignorance is useless, and the middle man does not teach and does not know. The ancient holy king had the method of "prenatal education". She got pregnant in March and went out to live in another palace. His eyes are not evil, his ears are not stupid, and his voice is very nice, so he is very polite. The jade edition of this book contains all the essentials of the golden chamber. When a child coughs, Shi Baogu knows filial piety, benevolence, courtesy and righteousness, and guides Xi to treat it. Where ordinary people can't do it, when infants know people's colors and emotions, they will be taught, and when they do, they will stop. Compared with how old they are, they can get away with it. Parents are dignified and kind, and children are timid and filial.
2. I see that there is love without teaching in the world. If you can't, you can eat, drink and do whatever you want. It's time to hand in the prize. You have to laugh and be knowledgeable. This is called law. If you are arrogant and slow to learn, you will copy, and if you have no prestige, you will be killed. When anger grows, they will increase resentment, catch up with growth, and eventually be defeated. Confucius said, "If a villain succeeds, habit becomes nature." Yeah, yeah. As the saying goes, "When a woman comes, teach her baby." Honestly.
3, mortals can't teach their children, and they don't want to be trapped in their own sins, but it's more important to be angry and hurt their color, and they can't bear to hurt their skin and ears. How can Andrew be saved when the disease is an Oracle without the help of decoction? Can those who should also be thrifty and housekeeping be cruel to their own flesh and blood? If you have to!
4, the strictness of father and son, can not be embarrassed; Love with flesh and blood, not Jane. Jane doesn't accept filial piety, but she is lazy. People's love for children, even if it is very little, has many disadvantages from ancient times to the present. A moral person can enjoy his love, but a stubborn person should pity him. People who prefer pets, although they want to be thicker, are more troublesome. A scholar-bureaucrat in the Qi Dynasty said to me, "I have a son who is seventeen years old and quite knowledgeable. I teach him Xianbei language and play the pipa. I want to know a little to serve the ministers. I love them all and they are all important. " I don't answer when I lie prone. Different, this man's adopted son is also! If this industry is conscious, I don't want you to do it.
Extended data:
About the methods of educating children:
1, give children the freedom to play. When children are young, it is best for parents not to participate too much in their children's play time and not to restrict their freedom, which will make them lose a lot of heartfelt happiness and is naturally not conducive to their healthy development.
2. Teach him to care about others. Nowadays, many families are children, and it is easy to develop the phenomenon of doting and drowning. We should constantly guide children to care about others, so as to help children better adapt to social life.
3. Lead children to exercise. Don't let your child stay at home just because you love him. Instead, you should take your children to outdoor sports. On the one hand, it can keep him healthy, on the other hand, it can make his brain develop better.
4. Always encourage children's behavior. Parents should give appropriate encouragement to their children's daily performance, and don't think that criticizing teaching can make their children make greater progress, which will only make them lose confidence and be detrimental to their healthy development.
5. Know how to stimulate children's artistic talent. As parents of children, we should carefully observe some behaviors of children, stimulate some potential of children from the side, and let children take more training courses when they are young to help them become better in the future.
Baidu Encyclopedia-"The First Woman to Teach Children and Babies"