I had a dream last night. It started out as wonderful as "Lover", but turned out to be a horror movie:
After I woke up, I felt that this man looked a bit familiar, very similar to me. I was a classmate in college, but I couldn't remember his name. I couldn't sleep anyway, so I dug out the graduation photo from that year. There was a name on the back of the graduation photo, and I found the corresponding name behind the man - Shan Feng Loves the World.
Only then did I realize that this man was me when I was 22 years old. I complained every day that "I wasted four years in college, causing me to accomplish nothing." He came to my dreams to mess with me.
I closed my eyes and burst into tears. If I could choose, I hope that the 32-year-old me would say to the 22-year-old me ten years ago, "Thank you for helping me spend four fulfilling years in college." ”, I will fully exercise my body and soul.
Only now do I know the meaning of using a book only when it is used. The book contains experiences and lessons summarized by our predecessors, so that we don’t have to go through all the trouble ourselves.
If I go back to college, I will read a lot, at least 50 books a year. In this way, I will have 200 books in 4 years. Even if I don’t study after graduation, I can survive for three to five years.
Based on the pitfalls I have fallen into at work over the years, I will make a list of 10 must-read books for myself.
1. "The Silent Majority" by Wang Xiaobo
People must have an independent personality and an intelligent life, just as Wang Xiaobo said: "A person only has this life." The world is not enough, he should also have a poetic world. "What Wang Xiaobo lacks most is poetry and humorous poetry.
2. "The Art of Communication" by Adler and Proctor
The longer I work, the more I find that a person who can communicate will live a life of cheating. There is no boss that cannot be handled, and no contract that cannot be won.
And communication is learned. This book "The Art of Communication" has been best-selling for 15 years. It explains communication thoroughly from principles to methods. It is a communication textbook that has withstood the baptism of time.
3. Maugham's "The Moon and Sixpence"
"There were sixpences all over the ground, but he looked up and saw the moon." When I was young, I was the biggest person in the world. I couldn't even look at the moon, let alone six pence, so I didn't take this sentence seriously. It was only after work that I realized that it was impossible to have six pennies all over the floor. Every penny was hard-earned. Life was so heavy that we couldn't even lift our heads, and we couldn't be in the mood to look at the moon.
At this time, I discovered that raising one’s head is a life attitude that is persistent in ideals. This attitude should be buried in our hearts early in order to withstand the ups and downs after work.
4. "Helicopter Flight Mechanics"
In those professional courses, the salary was very low at that time. After graduation, I decided to change careers. Now, with the rapid development of China's aviation industry, helicopters The industry has also entered a golden age. Those who persisted back then are now earning an annual salary of 20W+. Infinite regret.
The purpose of recommending this book is not to tell everyone to learn helicopters, but to tell everyone that professional courses are very important. If you understand a major and stick to it for ten or twenty years, you will be an expert.
5. "Convict Fitness" by Paul Weed
A book that teaches us how to let the body keep up with the soul. It talks about how to scientifically exercise the body with self-weight, zero Investment, zero risk, especially suitable for all poor students and working people, to exercise well.
6. Thoreau's "Walden"
A book about how to get along with loneliness.
Many people live a careless life in college and have many friends with whom they talk about everything. At the moment of graduation, these suddenly disappear and they often fall into boundless loneliness. I can only rely on alcohol and games to numb myself and waste my time. Thoreau tells us the correct way to deal with loneliness, which is very nutritious.
7. Russell's "Happy Marriage and Sex"
The 1950 Nobel Prize-winning work. The originator of the slant-pole youth, a classic from Russell, the master of philosophy, to the Godfather of Chicken Soup.
This book analyzes the development and changes of sex, family, and marriage relationships from a very large time span, and teaches every modern person today what to do in sex and marriage in order to achieve happiness. the other side. It is better to be exposed to such a book in college than to wake up to it after getting married or even divorced.
8. "The Art of War"
A military book, but not just a military book.
After working, I discovered that our culture for five thousand years is inseparable from strategy. You can see the must-have line "I have a plan" in various costume dramas, and take the popular Zhen Huan in recent years. , Lin Shu, Mi Yue, all come up with strange schemes. In a society like ours that worships strategy, "Sun Tzu's Art of War" is the basis for understanding strategy. Only by being able to discern deceit and use scheming can you make rapid progress.
9. Peter Drucker's "The Effective Manager"
A soldier who does not want to be a marshal is not a good student. The sooner he understands management and has the qualities of a manager, he will Become a leader among your peers one day early. The master among Western management masters, this book helps you learn how to manage yourself, your subordinates, your bosses, and your life.
10. "The Genius Editor" by A. Scott Berg
Pulitzer Prize-winning book. It tells the legendary life of a workaholic, a genius who is good at discovering genius, and an editor who published famous works such as "The Great Gatsby", "The Sun Also Rises" and "Angels Look Homeward".
This book can help us learn how to fall in love with work and learn how to let our mediocre selves realize the value of work with the help of genius. Not all of us have our own light, but we can make others’ light shine brighter, which is not a wise attitude towards life.
When I was in my 30s, I already had friends who could never be updated. Only then did I realize that life is impermanent, that this physical body was already so dilapidated, and that all the things I had gone through at the age of 20 were nothing but drunk. of alcohol will be reflected in the body of a 30-year-old.
If I were 20 years old again, I would do the following:
1. Never stay up all night, never
Insist on going to bed early and getting up early, 23 Go to bed before 6 o'clock and get up before 6 o'clock. Even if you occasionally stay up late to recite, it will never exceed 2 o'clock, because the body needs rest, and only when you are well rested can you fight better.
2. Develop 8-pack abs
Of course, poor students can only use the method of "Prisoner Fitness" and do fitness for no less than 40 minutes at least 3 times a week. Do crunches, do leg raises, and get great abs.
3. Keep running + meditating
Combine running and meditation, make full use of the very safe features of the school playground, completely let yourself go while running, and secrete "inner fibrin" in the body "Peptide" at the same time, allowing the soul to secrete "dopamine" at the same time.
4. Drink in moderation, and it is best to only get drunk once in four years
Some people say that every time you get drunk, it is like having a serious illness. This kind of experience is very obvious after the age of 30. In order to reduce the harm to the body, you must control your drinking during college. After all, most of the worries in college are writing new poems to express sorrow, and most of them have to get drunk after work. Why spend your parents' money on getting drunk at college? As for getting drunk, just get drunk during the graduation season.
Life cannot be repeated. The 32-year-old me is despised by the 22-year-old me. It is such a painful experience. I only hope that the 42-year-old me will not be despised by the 32-year-old me again. I also hope that in 10 years I will not be despised by the 32-year-old me. You will say to yourself today, "Thank you for giving me a perfect soul and body."
What an experience that would be.