A real man doesn't have to be honest and enthusiastic about the game, because the stronger you are, the more you will "collapse" when you meet someone stronger than yourself;
Similarly, you can't be timid and close yourself. Simply thinking that "inaction" will not be dangerous, but in fact this attitude can not guarantee your own comprehensiveness, but will make you suffer endless oppression and bullying from the outside world because of poor resistance.
Zeng Guofan was stubborn by nature. At the beginning of his early years as an official, he was even more "jealous of evil and not afraid of power." He often confronts those corrupt officials, so he offended many dignitaries and suffered a lot.
At the beginning of the establishment of Xiang Army, Zeng Guofan often regarded "Zhu Cheng Neo-Confucianism" as the basis of self-cultivation. He is full of justice and strict military discipline, and even if others are slightly guilty, they will be punished according to law. Because of this, I don't know how many officials and gentry forces were offended at that time.
Therefore, during the four years when the Xiang army stopped the invasion of foreign enemies, Zeng Guofan's troops were extremely short of supplies and support, and they were always alone and defeated repeatedly. Even in the last year of leading the army, Zeng Guofan was relieved of military power by the emperor in the name of father's funeral system and rushed back to his hometown.
The death of his father, the defeat of the army, and the official struggle all dealt a heavy blow to him. For a long time, he was depressed and didn't get out of the haze of life.
Fortunately, Zeng Guofan is a wise man who is good at thinking about life. When he was almost desperate about his future and belief, Zeng Guofan reflected on his mistakes and reread the Tao Te Ching, trying to draw nutrition from the wisdom of sages and help him solve the shackles of life.
This time, he finally understood the essence of Laozi's "weakness conquers strength" and realized the true meaning of "being soft but not soft, being strong".
After learning from the painful experience, Zeng Guofan changed his principle of life. In the face of right and wrong, he still does not forget his original intention, is observant and impartial;
It is only behind this "strength" that he is more gentle, no longer aggressive in the past, willing to be silent, knowing how to "show weakness" and treating people with this "indisputable" flexibility.
Only in this way can we ensure that we can preserve our sanity, not be rejected by others, and enjoy ourselves all day long and stay away from evil.
It is not difficult to see from Zeng Guofan's personal experience that life is too rigid and easy to fold, and too soft is cowardice. Combining rigidity with softness is like fire and water. No matter which side we are too biased towards, we may bring ourselves unbalanced disasters.
The principle of life that really benefits our life should be "combining rigidity with softness".
"Help" can only be for yourself, not for others. It is the "skeleton" of life, the foundation of a person's life, self-cultivation and foothold. Only by "strengthening the law" can we be strict with ourselves and achieve the goal of self-improvement.
Similarly, "softness" is not inferiority, but a kind of humility and concession to others. "Weakness and cowardice" is not "timidity", but in order to better integrate into society and groups, avoid unnecessary contradictions and troubles, and play a miraculous role in defeating the strong with the weak and coping with the ever-changing situation.
In real life, "showing weakness and recognizing cowardice" is also a special means of exchanging goodwill. Can reduce the dissatisfaction or jealousy of outsiders.
Conducive to the unity of the people. Just as people with high status don't show off their advantages in front of people with low status, they explain their shortcomings, show their past mistakes, and get along with people with a "normal" attitude, which makes it easier to narrow the distance between them and further expand their good contacts.
Therefore, people living in the world should have not only a "skeleton" but also "flesh and blood". If they act with "softness", they will be downwind everywhere, occupy everyone and completely change the embarrassing situation before restraint.
A real man should not be blindly weak, nor should he be blindly strong. He should combine hard and soft, strive for self-improvement in adversity, and reflect on himself when he is proud, so as to ensure that he is in an invincible position.
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