Excellent Essay on Family Style, Family Rules and Family Training 1 CCTV News Channel once broadcast a special program "What is Family Style" in the form of a series of reports for many days, which made the distant word "Family Style" instantly become a hot topic of discussion.
What exactly is family style? I believe that many people can't answer at once, but they vaguely think of something, perhaps a TV series they have seen, perhaps a story they have read, perhaps a quality they want to adhere to, or perhaps just a casual instruction hanging in their ears.
Every industry has its own rules and regulations. As the most basic cell of society-family, it also has a long-standing family style.
What is family style? Family style is a family norm, and it is also a cultural nourishment within a family, or a well-founded ancient law and discipline, or a life philosophy passed down from mouth to mouth.
"Family style is a kind of education that moistens things silently, which affects children's hearts silently." This is the testimony of Liu Qibao, Minister of the Propaganda Department of the CPC.
Yes, family style is an invisible force and a tangible inheritance.
Family style is generally observed through tangible behaviors such as family rules and family training, forming an intangible moral and spiritual atmosphere of a family or family.
Since ancient times, cultural families have paid attention to the inheritance of "family style". Many prominent families in history have their own unique family style, family training and family education.
In the vast Chinese civilization, many classic ancient books have left the shadow of family tradition and become a model for future generations to learn. For example, many ancient books, such as Guoyu and Analects of Confucius, contain family style and family education spirit, and Yan Jiaxun and Zeng Guofan's Letters have all become models of family education.
Different family atmosphere will shape different personalities and ways of doing things.
Some family precepts are fair, doing good deeds and accumulating virtue; Others are selfish and treacherous.
Therefore, the purity of family style directly affects the atmosphere of the whole society.
A good family style and family precepts are family heirlooms.
In some historical stories, we can also see the influence of family style on the behavior of future generations.
The well-known story of "Liuchi Lane" in Zhang Ying, "A letter from a thousand miles is only separated by a wall. Why not let him be three feet?" This kind of mind and tolerance turned the olive branch into friendship, well resolved the disputes between neighbors, and spread it as a beautiful talk to later generations.
And this kind of indifferent and honest family style has also been well passed down by future generations. Zhang, the son of Zhang Ying, was an official in three dynasties, honest and clean, and knowledgeable. He is a scholar recognized by historians, and Liuchi Lane is six feet wider in the eyes of his parents, which is "selfless at heart", so his selfless heart is boundless!
Although family style is a trivial matter, it is related to the rule of a big country.
Home is the smallest country, there are thousands of countries. Family styles are connected to form folk customs, and the integration of folk customs promotes social atmosphere.
If the family style is correct, the people will be honest; When the folk customs are pure, the social atmosphere is clear.
Inheriting a good family style is a great moral and spiritual force for society.
Carrying forward family style is indispensable for a harmonious and beautiful society.
At present, cultivating and practicing socialist core values must also start from a family.
In particular, we should attach importance to family education, highlight values and moral education, integrate socialist core values into the daily moral behavior of every family and citizen, and truly condense the most basic force to practice socialist core values.
A good family style is the spiritual wealth crystallized by ancestors through vicissitudes and wisdom.
However, with the progress of the times, the inheritance content of family style should also keep pace with the times, supplement and extend it in time, and dance with the times.
In particular, it is necessary to link up with the core values we advocate, extend to the theme of our times today, and add elements such as environmental protection, low-carbon life and ecological civilization construction to family education, so as to increase compliance and execution for these good advocates, and at the same time, let the beautiful family style gain new development space and be passed down for thousands of years.
Family Style, Family Rules and Family Training In Family Training II, Bao Gong set strict family rules for future generations: "Future generations are officials, and prisoners who commit crimes are not allowed to be released into their own homes; After his death, he should not be buried in a big coffin. Not from my ambition, not from my descendants. " I used to think, why can Bao Gong's descendants be honest and clean? It is Bao Gong's family style that has influenced the younger generation, and it is also the family instruction he left behind that has educated the younger generation and constantly confirmed the importance of family style. A good family has a good family style.
After reading these, I began to understand my mother's good intentions. Later, I read the story of Qian Jia, a famous linguist in modern China, and the stories of famous historical figures such as Zeng Guofan. And we often hear the story of lying on the ice for carp fish, and also educate us to honor our parents and establish a good image of family style.
After listening to these stories, I feel the importance of family style. A good family style is a colorful and lively textbook, which is accompanied by our healthy growth. Although it has no writing requirements hanging on the wall and no entry details on the bedside, it plays an invisible and potential educational function.
Wind, also known as "door wind", is a certain atmosphere and custom handed down by a family ancestor, which complements the rise and fall, honor and disgrace of this family. A good family style is a silent education passed down from generation to generation through father, son to grandson and son to grandson.
My ancestors came from Haiyan County, dengzhou city. Grandpa got married and had children. After a long journey, he fell in love with Sandaogou in Qingsongling. There are three ditches in Sandaogou, of which the southwest ditch is the deepest and widest. There are trees and water in the ditch, which gather the aura of the ditch. Great-grandfather built the house on the platform at the mouth of the ditch, peeled off the blank and built his own wall. Swallows held mud to build a warm home. My grandparents take root here, have children and reproduce from generation to generation. My great-grandfather practiced thrift, and the simple family style derived from trivial matters of life was passed down from generation to generation.
My grandfather's life seems to be legendary, and it gradually enters my memory in my parents' stories. Grandfather was a businessman in society, selling miscellaneous grains, mountain products and so on. Walking along the rugged mountain road with a donkey for a whole day. At that time, my grandfather's concept was very new and he didn't want to live on a few acres of wasteland. The experience of traveling in the north and south made him gain knowledge and enrich his family life. Grandpa avoids the eyes of the production team leader all day long and goes back and forth between xx, Lingyuan and Pingzhuang with painstaking efforts. The sweat of his hard work spilled on the rugged mountain road.
That summer, crops grew wildly, and grandpa's burden blew down crops along the way. The production captain took the opportunity to arrest his grandfather and hand it over to the commune working group. They blindly lack temperature, but they have a fanatical impulse, and countless fists rained on grandpa. Grandfather would rather be beaten and imprisoned than give in. He is fighting, proving his innocence to the world by hurting his body. Although he finally survived that era, he left a shocking and clear mark on the village. I often think that if my grandfather lives in today's society, with his persistent belief and innate business mind, he will certainly make great achievements. Although my grandfather passed away, his innocent family style warned future generations.
When my grandfather's business was booming, many people took the initiative to befriend his father. My hometown in Dabeigou, a neighboring village, offered to give the girl to his father, but my grandfather disagreed because the girl was too big. Marriage has a certain fate. It turned out that my mother was waiting for my father, and a sedan chair was blowing and beating, and it was a flowing mat, which was quite lively.
After my grandfather died, my family went bankrupt. Father inherited the shrewd mind of his grandfather's businessman, but he devoted himself to farming.
Southwest ditch's home is far from the camp, and my father feels lonely. He decided not to live alone anymore. The team built three adobe bungalows for my family in the middle of the camp, and my father was the breeder of the team. Like many small families in rural areas, there are only three main rooms facing south in a three-acre house. Moving from the old house to the new house marks the end of an old life and the beginning of a new life, and my family has truly integrated into the fiery life in the new countryside. In exchange, my father became a goalkeeper of the team and lived in the team. Father carefully feeds those cows, horses and donkeys, and his feelings with them are growing day by day. Seeing father, sheep baa baa, donkey baa, cow Cleisthenes, they opened their mouths as if they had a lot to say. Father said that although they are dumb animals, they are also spiritual and know how to repay kindness better than some people in the world. While doing their jobs, fathers have not forgotten to educate their children. Although my father hasn't studied for a day, he knows the importance of culture. He scrimped and saved and sent both his sons to junior high school.
Family style is a kind of silent education, the general tone of a family life, and a potential, lasting and intangible force. Family style affects children's mind, shapes their personality, cultivates their temperament, sublimates their thoughts and develops their intelligence. Only a good, simple, healthy and upward family style can make people (especially children) find all the echoes closely related to life, find their own direction in life and lay a solid foundation for a better life.
I have always dreamed that my children can live a happier life. Hard work is the only way for him to realize his family dream, which is enough to support the dream of the whole family.
I think, hard work, I should pass it on!