Respecting children begins with being kind to other children
Do you know what it means to respect children from being kind to other children? Many people say that they will respect their children, whether in life or in study. So, today I will tell you that it is correct to respect children from being kind to others' children.
Respect for children begins with being kind to other people's children. 1
First, respect the educational methods of each family.
There are no two identical leaves in the world, and there are no two identical families. You want your child to be a good family or a gentle and modest son, but other parents want their children to be full of energy and enthusiasm. We can't simply judge others by our own requirements. If you are really worried about children's similar imitation behavior, you may wish to express euphemistically, "Look, my little brother must be hungry, let's wait a little longer, and our delicious food will come soon." Please keep respect for other people's families. While respecting others, you will teach your children kindness.
Second, don't speak ill words to hurt them
Once, a mother shared with me something about her and her baby Xixi in the playground. When Xixi was playing with other children, she found that a small mold in a child's hand was beautiful, so she asked the child to lend it to her for a while. After the child agreed, she asked Xixi to lend him a small shovel for a while. But Xixi refused the child, and the two children were deadlocked in the playground. At this moment, the child's mother rushed forward and said to Xixi, "We all lent you toys, so you should also lend things to your brother, right?" Otherwise, is it too selfish? "
It is normal for children to have differences and disputes in the process of interaction. If adults only interfere with their children's friendship according to their own judgment or the principle of equivalence, they will not be able to adjust the contradictions between the two children or promote the development of their partnership, nor will they play a role in educating them. Please be kind and tolerant to other people's children, and don't hurt them with bad words. Without hurting others, you teach your children kindness.
Third, no labels
Many parents want their children to be with their "good children" and stay away from those "bad children". What's more, they will forbid their children to play with "bad children". Are the so-called "good" and "bad" labels we put on other children really accurate? Every child grows up making mistakes and correcting them. Every child will have a different degree of mastery and development of a certain skill and ability. We can't judge a child according to whether he is obedient, the degree of skill mastery or the level of ability development. When we don't label other children, we give them a pair of eyes to find beauty. Without labeling, you teach your child kindness.
Mom and Dad, please, because our children are other people's children in others' eyes. If we want our children to be treated kindly, please start from ourselves and be kind to other children. Respect for children begins with being kind to others' children. 2
6 ways to respect children's emotions
1. Understand your baby's wishes and respect your baby's' choices'
Many parents have realized that they should respect their baby's choices when deciding whether to let their baby learn talents and what kind of talents to learn. According to the survey, 68% and 8% of parents think that babies should choose the talents they want to learn, because inner interest is the driving force for learning.
Step1 when the baby doesn't know all kinds of talent activities, don't ask him directly if he wants to learn.
if you are not sure whether your baby wants to learn, but it is just an impulse-when you see that your colleague has enrolled your child in an interest class, immediately ask your baby, "Do you want to learn to draw?" "Want to learn the piano?" The children around you and your emotions can easily affect your baby, and he will say that he wants to learn. You should say to yourself, "Take your time, don't worry". You need to provide your baby with perceptual knowledge and experience of various talents, and then look at his wishes. For example, casually show him some activities of talent classes and interest classes and introduce him to what they are doing. If one of your friends has a child who is learning talent, you can take your baby to his home to enjoy other people's talent works and try to play, such as touching and playing on the piano. It is very important that when you let your baby know and experience these activities, don't tell him in advance what talents you are considering letting him learn. In addition, you should observe whether your baby shows excitement and love for some activities.
Step2 talk to the baby alone to find out his real wishes.
after the baby has got the knowledge and experience of various talents, choose a situation where you and the baby are alone, and talk to him to find out his willingness to learn talents. Pay attention to the fact that no one else is present when talking, so as not to affect the baby, and what he says is not his own will. In addition, the time can be chosen when the baby is calm and the home is quiet, such as before going to bed at night.
Skills of talking to the baby alone
For example, "Last Sunday, the baby saw Mr. Wang taking the children to play?" "Yesterday, what did we play at Yueyue's sister's house?" When the baby recalls the talent activities he has seen bit by bit, ask him which one he thinks is more fun and interesting. If he talks about a talent activity that he is interested in, he must ask the reason to make sure that he is interested in the talent activity itself.
When you make sure that your baby really likes certain activities, you should try your best to tell him in a language that your baby can understand that learning this talent requires a price. For example, playing the piano requires practicing every day. You can explain to the baby by citing the example of a child he knows. Although he can't fully understand the price, he still has to say it. This can help the baby decide whether he wants to learn this talent or not. If he insists on learning, but can't do it in the future, just remind him of what you said before, and gradually cultivate his sense of responsibility for his decision.
after many conversations, if you feel that your baby is not particularly interested in any kind of talent, then don't choose a class for him because of his urgent mood. You must relax, because if your baby doesn't learn talents, he will have more time to enjoy other free games, and his intellectual and emotional development will be obtained through games. If the baby wants to learn many talents, you have to tell him that he can only choose one of them. Please explain the benefits and costs of his favorite talent activities and let him choose. Once you decide, make an agreement with him, such as how long to study and how much time to practice every day.
2. Give priority to caring for and cultivating your baby's interest
If you decide to let your baby learn talents and determine the learning program, please be very clear about the purpose of cultivating talents: respect and protect your baby's interest in talents, and make him like this talent more through the learning process.
Preschool children's development is immature, their attention can't be concentrated for a long time, they are easily distracted, their finger muscles are not fully developed, and so on. However, talent learning has many requirements for physical skills and attention, so the baby may not meet the requirements in skills. In addition, preschool is a period of rapid development of baby's inner interests, and they are full of curiosity and love for many new things. If the seeds of these interests are well cared for, the baby can get a lot of fun from them in the future and even become the driving force for his future career and life. Therefore, you should not haggle over the requirements of talent training skills and stifle his precious inner interest. Once the inherent interest is lost, it is difficult to make up for it.
You need to choose a talent teacher or talent teaching who pays attention to protecting and cultivating your baby's interest. Although the teacher's professional level is important, it is more important whether the teacher's teaching attitude and methods can protect the baby's interest. If the teaching ignores the baby's feelings, or even the baby begins to show signs of disinterest, you need to communicate with the teacher. In the case of necessity, I would rather let the baby stop attending this talent class.
3. Pay attention to the emotional changes in the baby's learning process
When the baby is learning talents, you need to observe the baby's emotions, and don't just care about his learning content.
many parents have this experience: the baby is always in high spirits at first, and then slowly begins to cool down. Therefore, when you find that your baby is unwilling to learn, think about what factors affect his enthusiasm for learning. Is it too long to practice after class? Need more frequent breaks during practice? The course remained at the level he had mastered so that it became boring? Or did he lose interest for a while because he always failed to meet the requirements and had no sense of accomplishment? Have special events hit the baby's confidence? Talk to the baby more, ask the teacher about his class, gradually find out the reason, and make adjustments in time to avoid his complete loss of interest.
4. Make time to study with your baby
Time alone with your baby is very valuable. Mom and dad should bend down, be a child as big as the baby, and study and practice with the baby. Studying with you will make your baby enjoy the learning process more.
whether you are proficient or not, you should start from scratch and learn synchronously with your baby. Don't be a teacher's teaching role, be humble and learn with your baby, even ask your baby what he learns every day, do the same homework with him, and discuss with him how to do better.
The most common problem in studying with babies is that parents always like to point at each other. If you give too much advice, your baby will be at a loss, distracted and tired of learning. If you record the process of studying with your baby, you will be surprised to see that you have been talking all the time and issuing instructions that your baby can't understand and accept. In fact, you should be patient, always shut up and keep quiet. Even if the baby does something wrong, let him correct it himself, and he will have more initiative to learn, otherwise he will feel bad if he blames too much. With less guidance and criticism, the baby will feel that he is trusted by his parents and that he is capable.
5. Don't compare your baby with others
In order to make your baby more motivated to learn well, parents often use China's unique trick to motivate him-comparing your baby with a child who learns well, which will make your baby very stressed.
For example, say to the baby, "Look, Xiaoqiang can play a complete tune now, and you can't catch up with him soon", "Lily's brush handwriting is so neat, why do you still write crooked?" Over time, some babies will avoid learning; A competitive baby will focus on the competition with others, have no mind to enjoy learning talents, and eventually lose interest in talents themselves.
6, let the baby find a sense of accomplishment from their own efforts
Learning talent is often a process of continuous practice, which tests the baby's persistence. If you want your baby to keep practicing talents, mom and dad need to keep paying attention to the baby's efforts in time, and constantly give feedback to his efforts to help him find a sense of accomplishment from every little effort and effort.
For example, with the baby, hang his calligraphy and paintings at home for decoration. No matter what the level of the work is, as long as the baby makes efforts. When the baby learns new words and new painting methods, he must update the old works on the wall in time. Collect the old ones and make them into word sets and picture books, and make them into gifts for friends and relatives. If your baby learns to play the piano, you can record the music he plays, and put it out as background music when you are doing housework or chatting with the whole family. The baby will feel that his efforts are successful and bring infinite joy to his family.