Officialdom is like a battlefield, and Zeng Guofan's success in officialdom is mostly attributed to his "no words" principle.
Zeng Guofan said, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." .
In other words, say something valuable, not unnecessary.
He summed up Liu's life and has benefited a lot so far.
1, don't say it directly.
Treat people sincerely and speak truthfully. But remember to be reckless and outspoken.
Everyone has a lot of face, and many things can't be said directly in front of others.
Speak straight, turn a corner, be sarcastic, heat up your speech, and take into account the self-esteem and feelings of others, which is also the embodiment of comprehensive quality.
Say two things at a time and communicate in a way that the other person can hear, which is the correct way to speak.
2. Don't gossip
There is a saying in "Caigen Tan": there must be right and wrong for those who are right and wrong.
Idle people like to chew their tongues. If they talk too much about right and wrong, their hearts will become turbid.
Lu You said in "Living in Idleness": There are many things like flowers to laugh at, but stones can't be the most pleasing to the eye.
It is more reliable to talk less about the host's family affairs and less about right and wrong.
Step 3 don't complain
Life is not easy, and everyone will have such troubles. But complaining can't solve the problem, and it's not too late to mend it.
If you complain more, you will have fewer friends, because no one always wants to be your emotional trash can.
It is better to work hard every day than to complain all your life.
4. Don't talk crazy
As the saying goes, there are people outside, and there are days behind. Don't always feel that you are better than others. In the whole world, people better than you have everything.
People can be proud, but don't be arrogant.
Ceng Gong said: Most failures in life stem from two words, one is laziness and the other is pride.
All rivers flow into the sea, making the sea vast; These mountains gather mud and stones, making them magnificent. There is no harm in being modest and low-key.
5. Don't talk nonsense
What has been said is like spilled water, which cannot be taken back. Some people talk about breaking their heads, and then it's over, but for those who listen, it is likely to have a relatively large negative effect.
Therefore, people are speechless and untrustworthy; People don't believe it and don't talk.
Clear pronunciation and mellow voice, things are different. Only when such talents are reliable can they have contacts and friends.
6. Don't swear
As the saying goes, a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June.
Buddhists often say that the mouth industry.
I often say that I have a good mouth.
Every time a person says hurtful things, he is accumulating negative values for himself.
Zeng Guofan often warned his children in his family letters to be kind, not to say death and not to do anything.
Forgive others, and forgive others. Reconciliation with others is also reconciliation with yourself.
Speaking is an art and a person's accomplishment. Everything you say will determine your height and pattern.
Zeng Guofan's "six words" still has a certain warning and leading role for people today.