Second, create a good environment. Because homework is very important, it is best to have a special area at home so that children can concentrate on their homework. At the same time, when parents are around, it is best to do your own thing quietly. Otherwise, you can stare at the child and watch him make mistakes from beginning to end. Can you not be angry? Do your own thing, set a good example for your children and give yourself time, but don't play with your mobile phone, which is counterproductive and your children can't do their homework with peace of mind.
Finally, lower the requirements of perfection. A perfect attitude can easily undermine self-confidence. In fact, completion is more important than perfection. Many times, only when things are done first can we know where to start and make things more perfect. Especially for children, if you want him to continue to do something, you have to give him a sense of accomplishment, a sense of accomplishment that he can finish smoothly. When helping with homework, many of our parents are too good at interrupting. As soon as the child writes, it seems that there is a premonition that the child will be wrong, and I can't wait to correct it immediately. After several times, the child naturally resented not doing his homework, because it had become a very painful thing for him. As a parent, even if he is really wrong, he should wait until he has finished the whole wrong process and then help him correct it together. Interrupting him in advance can easily interrupt his interest in doing homework and even interrupt his ability to finish things independently, which is not worth the candle.
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Can't cope with children's homework? The contents in this book may be helpful and useful to you!
I believe many parents will encounter such problems. They ask their children to do their homework, but they don't. They finally sat there, touching this and that. When they saw his ink, they couldn't stand it They can't wait to beat him up.
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I happened to be reading a book called Positive Discipline recently.
The central idea in the book is to treat children's education, and the attitude of adults must be "peaceful and firm".
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First of all, don't be afraid of yourself. If you can't control your emotions, it will be transmitted to your children. The way you solve problems is the way your children solve problems when they grow up. When he solves a problem, he will get angry if he disagrees.
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You just need to tell her gently and peacefully that this homework must be completed. There is no other way. Maybe at first, he won't listen, roll around and make trouble without reason. Anyway, he just writes. At this time, you must hold your horses and tell him in a firm tone that this matter must be completed. There is nothing to discuss. Today's children are very smart. He will look at your face. He thinks it must be done, so he must do it.
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Our children used to play truant and find other children to play with. The next day, when they didn't do their homework, the teacher sent us a message saying that your children didn't finish their homework. It was really a big deal at that time. Later, we made a rule that the first thing they did when they came back from school was to finish their homework before going out to play. It may be said that they can't do it at one time, because the renovation takes a long time, about 14 days.
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I'm serious, a warm-hearted friend who has always been with you. Most importantly, I hope I can help you.
Because of the epidemic, online courses and aerial courses have replaced traditional learning. Invisibly, it gives all parents an important assessment, and the counseling of children's homework also makes many parents breathless.
My family has a 7-year-old daughter. In the first grade, every day, the teacher will arrange a lot of homework through the blackboard, including Huanggang's, small boxes and prodigies. It takes children almost two to three hours to finish their homework every day. My wife and I both have to go to work. We leave at 8 o'clock in the morning and sometimes come back at night after 10. There is little time to help the children with their homework. Occasionally tutoring a few times can also make people collapse. Obviously, simple homework is repetitive and angry.
The problem has come out, not only in my family, but also in fact all parents are facing this problem, because we are not professional psychological counselors, and we use our own standards to ask our children. In the eyes of children, we are parents, not teachers, and the confusion of roles leads to the outbreak of contradictions and emotions. Although I can adjust my mood quickly, I am worried that my child has not made progress in his studies. If there is a problem, we must find a way. When I was a child, my parents never went to school, let alone tutoring, because they couldn't even write their own names well. As long as I can remember, my mother will often tell me all kinds of troubles caused by not reading, one after another, and every day there are all kinds of worries caused by not reading. Another thing my mother does the most is to constantly reward me and ask me for advice as a student. In order to answer my mother's question, I must understand that knowledge carefully. Now that I think about it, this is my mother's great wisdom. She made me realize my role as a parent and how to make my children grow up.
I followed suit and had a sincere face-to-face communication with my children. I said that my children and dad didn't teach these things at school at that time, so dad really couldn't help you, but dad deeply knew the importance of learning and the progress and motivation that learning brought us. So I hope that from now on, you should not only study by yourself, but also teach your father.
Despite this simple communication, our roles have completely changed. I became a student and she became a teacher. I found that she quickly learned to look up the dictionary, to add and subtract within 100, and to learn a variety of problem-solving methods when encountering problems.
Children's learning and growth come from their internal motivation. When they realize that learning can help people, learning can make them outstanding, and learning can bring happiness, then all our family education becomes irrelevant.
Now my daughter can finish all her homework with high quality without having to cram every day. She also learned to upload homework and communicate with the teacher through the blackboard.
Accompany the children with their homework until they collapse. As a front-line class teacher and a father, I share my experience with you.
First of all, let's take a look at "Difficult Road to Shu" recited by my children for two days.
Accompanying children with homework, if used correctly, is a kind of enjoyment, if not, it is a kind of torture.
So how do you accompany your child to do homework?
1, work and rest rules, form a habit.
In the process of children's homework, everyone found themselves dragging their feet. This is actually not a good guide. You should tell him clearly that the first thing to do when you come back is to finish your homework, and the most important thing is to cultivate his concentration. Parents should be reminded of "three noes" here, and don't have any words or actions that interrupt his thinking when he is doing his homework; Don't stop when he is deeply involved in doing something, even if it is a game (except personal safety); Don't explain to him immediately when he can't do the problem. It is a key step to cultivate his concentration and form the habit of finishing on time.
Work and rest during the epidemic:
2, method guidance, never do it for you.
When doing homework with your child, don't tell him the answer directly when he can't do it, even if he can't write a word. If a child can't write a word, he can look it up in the dictionary and reference books, because he has to understand that learning is his own, and his parents will only tell him the methods, and he can't get it without hard work. For math problems, like in primary school, he can think of them as long as we let him read them several times. Don't cultivate his lazy thoughts. Our parents were just too impatient to tell him the answer, but gradually she would depend on others. For middle school students, you can ask them to find books and similar problems for difficult problems such as mathematics. When solving similar problems, it is very important to learn to migrate, so parents can't replace them. We should trust them and wait for the flowers to bloom!
Let me answer this question. I have my own experience, and I feel relieved. I can give you some experience.
In my family's first grade, two things collapsed in the first semester, one was pinyin study, and the other was what the daily homework was.
Because I didn't go to the transition class, I bought a video, which was not good. Dabao's pinyin is equal to zero, especially B, /p, n/l, and the vibrato is completely out of order. After reading the pinyin exercise book (issued by the school), my blood pressure soared.
Of course, I also scolded him at the beginning, saying in a very disgusted tone, "Can you be so simple, wrong?" But no matter how angry I was, I never said she was stupid once. This is a word that cannot be used. Once labeled, children will feel hopeless.
There are two solutions: 1. Take three deep breaths when you want to scold, hold back, and then throw her to dad. 2. Meditate in your heart: Bio-Bio three times, step aside and calm down before continuing.
Because my father is more patient than me, I was given ideological work by my father after scolding Dabao three times. Later, I was very patient. I never scolded her once and accompanied her through Pinyin Pass.
Now teachers send homework to parents directly on WeChat, unlike we used to copy homework to parents, which has caused a big problem: dependence.
As I said before, I can read a lot in Dabao. I thought I would be fine if I read my homework, but I didn't expect people to be worse than the sky.
I send her homework at 4: 30 every day, and she calls N times and asks: What is mom's homework today? It's not just a one-off question. It's just a collapse to ask one by one.
Besides, you think she can't read? No, going home and letting her attend the plenary session is totally dependent. I was really upset during that time, and my adrenal glands soared every 4: 30.
I yelled at her three times, but it didn't work. Later, I discussed with my father, printed some homework, and went home to analyze it for her step by step.
First of all, 1, 2, 3, 4 indicates that there are several assignments today. Secondly, every homework will have attention points, but they are all regular. For example. Finally, I didn't really understand my homework until my mother came home. If you can reduce the number of calls once a day, you will be rewarded with 10 points.
Later, slowly, she stopped screaming, because she found a rule that children should be both soft and hard and fight with each other.
Although it seems that my child rarely breaks down, it was really troublesome at that time. In fact, every child has various problems. Instead of hitting, cursing and yelling, think about how to help her solve the problem together. I hope my answer is helpful to you.
In recent years, all kinds of tucao news about accompanying children to do homework have been constantly screened, and there is even news that mothers need to do "heart stents" because of accompanying children to do homework. The various "big materials" exposed by accompanying children to do homework are really amazing. My mother is very kind and filial when she doesn't do her homework, but she really doesn't seem to talk when she does it.
Doing homework seems to have become a major factor affecting parent-child relationship and family harmony. The long-term collapse caused by homework not only affects parents' emotions, but also has a significant impact on children's psychology. Parents are more and more impatient, and they are more anxious to get angry with their children ... Children become timid, cautious and even afraid to do homework because of their parents' impatience, and both sides fall into a vicious circle because of homework. As parents, how to alleviate the negative emotions caused by homework and get rid of the vicious circle?
1. Parents readjust the way they accompany their children to do homework.
Parents should not spend too much time with their children to study and help them with their homework, which will make them have a strong dependence from an early age and lose their ability to solve problems alone in their studies. Accompanying homework is not to let parents think instead of children, but to give guidance when children need it and cultivate children's study habits of independent thinking. Parents can do their own things while accompanying them. I have a friend who is accompanied by his father when he is studying. Father is doing his own thing, reading his own books, and only providing guidance when necessary. After graduating from high school, when he was admitted to a famous university in 985, his father also passed at least five certificates, including registered fire engineer and second-class constructor. The real accompanying homework is the real "accompanying reading", not the active "guidance" of parents;
2. Negotiate the specific operation time with your child.
Parents and children can negotiate the time to do homework every day and make a reasonable plan. You can put a small alarm clock on your child's study desk, so that your child can watch the time and do his homework. This can not only effectively improve the efficiency of children's homework, but also cultivate their sense of time.
3. Good learning environment
Children's attention is easily distracted and often unable to concentrate. Touch the toy for a while, and then come and look at it when you hear the sound. This is also an act that often annoys parents. Create a quiet and undisturbed learning environment for children.
Educating children is a "technical activity", and there is a long way to go. I hope the above methods will help you.
Think about how you were yelled at when you were a child. Think about your psychology at that time. From the child's point of view, you have come from that era. The problem can't be solved, but at least your mood will calm down.
It is not easy for children to sit there and do their homework honestly, but this process is not only to learn knowledge, but also to form habits and let them settle their temper. Moreover, adults always think, "Why can't it be so simple?" Children's logical thinking and understanding ability are in the period of growth and development, so it's absolutely the best choice to pull out the seedlings and encourage them step by step.
Parents have the responsibility and obligation to supervise and guide, and blindly urging may not play any good role. Rebellious psychology and weariness of learning may be bred slowly in this way.
For the sake of children and parents, I sincerely advise parents to calm down. If the tension is on the verge of collapse, it is better to let it go first, maybe just rest for a few minutes, and the children's thinking is clear. Parents can calm down, guide each other and learn from each other.
Beat and scold the children!
Hehe, just kidding.
But many parents should do this, including me!
Although children should give priority to guidance and tell him kindly, some children really can't do it without fighting or making trouble. He knows everything about his parents' routines, but after chatting for a long time, he still said, I just want to watch TV. What would you do?
My son is, really can drive people crazy, and his eloquence is really not like an eight-year-old child. Am I proud? I am very proud, because he is too smart, doesn't study very much, and is also in the top few. However, if such a child does not follow the right path, he will certainly fail in the future, and he will blame me for not educating him well!
So I served and guided with sticks and demonstrated myself. He studies and I study. I work with him to solve the problem. He works for him, I work for me, and I work for the computer. As soon as he was curious, he began to guide.
So my solution is: beat and scold, guide and punish the problem! It makes me feel good to watch him do the problem over and over again.
I think your problem is also a problem that most parents are troubled by at present. First of all, it is very important for children to form a good habit, such as: after getting up for breakfast, listening to air lessons; After lunch, you should regard it as a document or practice calligraphy. A good habit can't be formed at once. It can be cultivated slowly from small things, such as: asking children to finish eating within the specified time at home, in order to avoid procrastination; After dinner, let him learn to wash dishes and clean up by himself; Cultivate children to do things in a planned way As long as it is cultivated from small things for a long time, slowly, he will do things in a planned way and form natural good habits. In addition, as parents, we can't always let our children study and take time to interact with them, for example, skipping rope, playing badminton and playing chess with them, which can not only reduce their learning pressure, but also narrow the distance between them and their parents.
Some time ago, there was news that a mother accompanied her child to an online class, but the child was not serious in class, and her homework was not done well. She always quarreled with her mother and made her angry. After the child made his mother angry again, her mother took him to the seaside to scare the child. According to the police, they all ran 30 meters away from the coastline. The child kept crying and wanted to come back, but her mother kept pulling her.
To tell the truth, every parent can't calm down when facing things that their children have a bad attitude towards learning, but it's really too dangerous to be like the mother in the news. It is said that the sea was still stormy that day. It's hard to imagine what would happen if no one saw the police.
So it's important to relieve mom's mood. There is a good way here, that is, exercise, and running is the most recommended.
Running can vent mother's anger and calm her mood gradually.