Although it is a comedy plot, it has caused a lot of profound thinking. When I saw the message in the comment area, many people said it was a true portrayal of their lives. Some people also ask why middle-aged men can't resist the urge to move when they have no achievements in their families and careers, and why they take all this for granted.
In fact, we saw a scene in the film, that is, the hero woke up in the morning and saw the electric fan spinning overhead, feeling that his life was like this fan, day after day. Under this framework, people become numb and don't feel alive.
At the end of the film, the protagonist is in the underground garage in the early morning. Before entering the office building, he finally decides to break the box life, call his wife and take his daughter to the playground he has always wanted to go to. In fact, life is not without novelty, but without a loving heart.
Not only the middle-aged crisis in the play, but also the young people who have been wandering in big cities for a long time will gradually feel lost in the rush of the crowd. I remember when I came to Beijing after graduation, my college roommate told me that I seemed to be pushed away by the crowd every day, and I couldn't stop, so I repeated the cycle day by day.
It has been drifting to the north for a long time now, and it feels even more so. Maybe your job is better than before, maybe your income is higher than before, but you still shuttle between two points and one line every day, such as renting a house and a company. Even the route you take every day, the subway car you take and the position you get on and off may be the same.
We wander in the bustling city, but our hearts are getting richer every day. It looks like a dry desert, losing its vitality and moisture. Think about it. Is it necessary for the rest of our lives? Therefore, the middle-aged crisis and boring life focus on how to break the situation.
1. Cultivate your hobby
We must have a hobby that doesn't take it as a career other than making a living. This is the salvation of your busy life. For example, writing, piano, calligraphy, flower arrangement, cooking food; Boys like basketball, photography, mountain climbing, rock climbing, adventure and other amateur activities.
When life is boring, throw yourself into your own interests to relax and add some relief to your mood. Because the input of interest can stimulate your creativity and add a lot of new fun to your life, the time invested in these aspects may not be as good as working immediately to make money, but it is an indispensable part of supporting your underlying system.
Feel the beauty of life and love it, which will help your heart. As people joke, chicken soup can't solve the problem, but it can help you solve the problem better, and so can your hobby.
2. Plan your goals with clear goals.
We often walk aimlessly every day without a plan, and feel that life is at a loss. Just as the saying goes, "A monk hits a bell every day", no matter where we go, we will achieve nothing. In fact, the solution is very simple, that is, set small goals for yourself and then work hard for them.
For example, exercise every day, and the goal is to be thin 10 kg. In this way, we can work hard for this goal every day. We can run, play ball, climb mountains and swim. When we lose 10 kg, we will gain a certain sense of accomplishment, enhance our self-confidence, and then set the next small goal. Remember not to aim too high in the initial stage, you can't achieve that kind of frustration when you jump, and you can achieve the best when you jump.
I climbed Xiangshan with my colleagues before, which was the first time since I came to Beijing for many years. That day, I wore a pair of shoes that didn't fit me. I have to wear my heels as slippers when I grind my feet behind. I felt tired after climbing a few steps at first, and we all wanted to walk for a while and then come back. Especially me, the slowest and weakest.
Then I looked at the long hillside and divided it into milestones in my mind. I think I'll climb there first, and then I'll continue the next journey after I arrive at my destination. In this way, I finally reached the top of the mountain first, and several colleagues were left behind by me. They were all surprised at my explosive power. I joked that I am slow-heating, and I feel O(∩_∩)O~
3. Add some interest to the plain life
After life is on the right track, every day is almost a repetition of a cycle. It seems unremarkable, but the key lies in how you spend it. Why can children watch an afternoon full of fun when they are staring at ants moving, but as adults, we ignore many beautiful scenery in front of us in our busy lives?
Life is not lack of beauty, but lack of eyes to find beauty. Try another restaurant you go to every day; Travel every day and explore novelty in different ways; Occasionally take 2 days out every day to go around the community, broaden your horizons and relax yourself. When I come back, I will be ready to go into battle lightly.
Carve a flower with a cup of coffee, add some ingredients to a dinner, and a plain life can also be full of all kinds of novelty and surprises, and these small things will definitely make you love it more and more.
The unchangeable life is broken in your heart and now.