As long as you are here
Maybe you are still working alone, taking the subway, going upstairs, eating, sleeping and staring blankly. However, you can get off work alone, take the subway alone, go upstairs alone, eat alone, sleep alone and be in a daze alone. Many people leave another person and lose themselves. You spent all this alone. Your loneliness, though defeated, is glorious.
-Liu Tong.
After reading this book, if you ask me about the content of the book, you can only say that it is 33 stories about loneliness, and each story has a touch, more or less * * *. Liu Tong said that growing loneliness is invisible growth, and I couldn't agree more.
This book talks about friendship loneliness, love loneliness, understanding loneliness, secular loneliness, self-loneliness and group loneliness respectively, which is Liu Tong's understanding of different loneliness.
It is not so much that I feel the same way, but that his own experience is more real, which makes me read my loneliness from his book.
"Those lonely, hopeless, lost, quiet experiences are not your most down and out. You can hold your breath and finally go ashore alone. You put up with loneliness, overcame despair, stopped being afraid of losing, and learned to keep quiet company. Although the pain was given by others, the injuries were all good. " The process of self-healing is the process of growing up, learning to be patient and learning to be strong, which is what I am learning slowly now.
"There is a kind of loneliness. Close your eyes and you can recall stories, dialogues and action details with temperature. When you open your eyes, you will feel that they never happened. It is precisely because there are many loneliness passing by in life, and there is no intersection, so we must start well every time and say goodbye. " In junior high school and senior high school, there are many classmates who used to get along with each other day and night. They used to be so beautiful, struggling together, encouraging each other and laughing every day. They thought that they would always exist in their own lives, but in the end only a few people remained. In recent years, I only remember the names of those students with bad memories, and their looks have long been blurred. I regret that I didn't say goodbye properly
"Some people in front of you, it's hard to say thank you. However, after they leave, you have a thousand words to tell yourself, or hope that one day he can see them. It is such a person that entering your life will not make you happy, but after leaving you, you will always miss it. " This sentence reminds me of my first teacher, my first-year class teacher, Miss Zhao. She is my neighbor. At the beginning, she taught me to write one by one with my little hands, patiently cleaning up the bad places. That eraser is the cleanest one I think I can wipe. She gave me reasons and taught me too much. In the second grade, I moved away from my favorite teacher, but I always miss her, and I thank her silently in my heart.
"Some friends you once thought were good friends, friends who will always go together, don't know when they parted on the road. Thank the friends who accompanied you through a journey. Thank you for being a friend who can accompany you for a lifetime. " Some friends are lifelong, and we have always shared the same values and preferences, which have never been afraid.
Lack of the same language. But some friends, only at a certain stage of my life, have a unique language connection at that stage, which is enough to make me grateful. Those friends who accompanied me through a journey, thank them.
"There is a kind of loneliness-the time and space facing the closest person is full of doubts. After turning around and leaving, I suddenly realized my mistake. " I have always felt this way about my family, but most of the time, it is because of my self-esteem and rebellion, and more importantly, because they have the courage to be a family. My family has always been people who think for themselves unconditionally. As I grew up, I began to understand them and feel sorry for them. I am glad that I understand this now, and there are still many opportunities to be grateful and be kind to my parents.
"The relationship between people is often from familiarity to misunderstanding, from separation to letting go. Letting go seems to be the way to finally know yourself and understand others. At that time, the reasons I didn't understand, the plot of turning away in anger, will gradually let go as I grow up. Letting go is not that you are no longer angry, nor that you have no feelings, but that you can ask the person you once knew best: Are you okay? " Since then, friends who have been uncomfortable for a long time have regarded that embarrassment as a big thing, so big that it is worth giving up that friendship and not talking to each other, but after a long time, it is completely unworthy. Maybe this is to let go, meet again, and ask questions again. The gap of several years suddenly disappeared, but some people didn't meet again.
"You wrote hundreds of Weibo, friends circle or logs, some of which were addressed to special people. But often this person can't see, can't see, and doesn't want to see. Until one day, another irrelevant person suddenly said to you: I have read everything you wrote, and I feel sorry for you. Aha ~ You see, the people who really care about you are not reading your mood, but their life. " I will be in a state where I can talk when I am sad, and have some unforgettable experiences for my friends who haven't seen my experiences around me. I don't think I will feel strange because I haven't been in touch for a long time. These exchanges are necessary, and people who care about me will look forward to seeing them, I know.
"When you don't want to listen to this song, you will listen to it for someone one day. What you don't want to taste at first will be tasted for one person one day. For you, there must be someone to accompany you to watch all the movies you want to see, go to all the places you want to go and read all the diaries you have written. You don't love others, and others don't love you. This is not karma, it is only a matter of time. " Because I like a person, I am willing to accept everything from him, understand his preferences, and make this my own. Love is to change each other. Two people who love each other will gradually become each other when they are together. From habits to preferences, everything is the shadow of each other. Because I like it, everything makes sense.
"Many WeChat groups were established because of a party. After the party, the group became deserted and they didn't want to retreat. Every time they see it, they will immediately think of the bustling and lively party. Therefore, whenever someone quits the league, his heart will be thumped, and he feels that every notice of quitting the league reminds you: Don't think about the past, and the old things can never go back. The old things are not the way back, but the memory. " There is a sound of * * * completely. The deserted group is a kind of memory, a kind of imprint, and I am reluctant to delete it, because if it is deleted, I will not be able to see it one day later. I think of the vivid memories and leave this opportunity for myself to think about beautiful things.
"You can scald me with a cup of boiling water or freeze me with a cup of ice water, but you can't consume me with a cup of warm water. I want black and white, clean and tidy. I can accept my despair and being killed by others. The only thing I can't accept is waiting for death-writing for tomorrow. " What I am most afraid of is that I have no motivation, no motivation to work hard, and no such comfortable mood to rest. That's the worst part. Sometimes I complain that I am very tired, which is the most desirable one, because I am working hard and struggling. This is the best. Only in this way can my heart be stable and I won't be afraid. I want to be like this.
"Learn to look at a person's loneliness from the perspective of a bystander. What you see is independence, freedom and freedom. It is the world, the belonging, and the incomparable beauty. What a person is initially afraid of is that no one will respond, and what a person ultimately loves is the inner echo. " This may be the highest state of loneliness. Now I just think that sometimes listening to music and meditating quietly for a while will make me feel very comfortable and I can defend myself. I can understand many things, too, and let go of a lot. It is best to relax yourself from time to time.
"Why do people want to be alone and endure loneliness? You should make more friends to chat, talk about each other's recent situation, watch two movies, eat a few buckets of popcorn, go shopping to find some street trends and culture, play mahjong to make your parents feel better, compare yourself with others, see how different you are from others, and then you will find it better to stay alone. " Because of loneliness, I invited someone out to play, but after the game, I suddenly felt lonely and it was good to stay alone, but sometimes I stayed alone for a long time and wanted to have a few people around me.
"When one person is afraid of loneliness, when two people are afraid of loneliness, when a group of people are afraid of losing themselves. Whenever this idea germinates, you will feel isolated from the world, as if everything has nothing to do with you, such as the horn of the car, the noise of the dormitory, and the whispers of strangers. The flow of time has begun to have a sound. This silence is ridiculous, but it shows you the sureness and peace of mind of the world. " A person is lonely in English middle school, and loneliness is lonely. What you can do when you are busy is not to be lonely. If you are not lonely, you must look at your heart. This is for yourself. Give yourself time to think more and let yourself see many things clearly. You need to be busy to make yourself not lonely, but what you need to do more is to make yourself not lonely.
"At that time, in order to be close to you, regardless of my face and figure, I stumbled like a dead branch reaching into the sky. You laugh at me: you only care about getting close, but you forget to disguise yourself with lush leaves. I laughed at my embarrassment. It's just that I'm thinking: if you love me too, you can see how deep my roots are. " Everyone has been frivolous and desperate. It is good to pay a lot of hope to get a few tenths of what you pay for your own liking. This feeling of despair is a young capital and a young appearance.
This is a gift for you. Always stand in the beautiful years, and everyone looks forward to the future.
-Liu Tong
Reflections on Loneliness Part II: Reflections on A Lonely Life.
I haven't read a book completely recently, but when I am bored or lonely and depressed, I use it to relieve boredom-the complete works of a lonely life.
This book illustrates such a simple and profound truth through one beautiful story after another. Every story has the function of making the finishing point, and every story can bring readers a spiritual baptism.
The complete works of Life Suffering from Loneliness interprets loneliness from many aspects, such as life, growth, life, success, happiness, city, love, marriage, etc., and guides people to face loneliness directly, taste loneliness, meditate in loneliness, precipitate in loneliness, examine themselves in loneliness, and explore themselves until they are surpassed and redeemed in loneliness. If a person can't stand loneliness, his spiritual home will be invaded by weeds, his pure land will be defiled by evil thoughts, the bottom line of life will be broken by desire, and he is likely to wander in darkness and pain from now on, be whipped and condemned by his soul, and even completely destroy everything he has. On the contrary, if you can stand the test of loneliness, you will feel the pain and happiness in life, your spirit and soul will be sublimated, and you will naturally learn to enjoy loneliness and create your own achievements in loneliness. There are two stories:
A monk came to earth because he couldn't stand the loneliness of Buddhism.
Less than a month after I went down, I went up again, because I couldn't stand the foul smell of this world. However, in less than a month, I was secularized because I couldn't stand loneliness. Again and again, the old Zen master in the temple
Say to him: "You don't need to believe in Buddhism at all, take off the cassock; You don't have to be a layman seriously. How about setting up a place to sell tea in the pavilion between the temple and the world? "
The secular monk listened to the advice of the old Zen master, opened a tea shop, married a daughter-in-law and lived a leisurely life. The guidance of the old Zen master is correct. He can't be a Buddhist child, nor can he be completely secular. He might as well open a small shop halfway.
Actually, life is the same. Finding the right path is the most important thing. It doesn't matter if you can't become a monk. The important thing is that we know how to reverse our ideals and seek freedom!
There was a farmer, but his childhood dream was to be a writer. To this end, he has always worked hard and insisted on writing 500 words every day for ten years. Every time he finished writing an article, he revised it again and again, carefully polished it and hopefully distributed it to newspapers and magazines everywhere. Unfortunately, despite his hard work, he never published an article or even received a rejection letter.
At the age of 29, he finally received a rejection letter. It's from the editor of the journal who has been insisting on contributing for many years. The letter wrote: "I can see that you are a hard-working young man, but I regret to tell you that your knowledge is too narrow and your life experience is too pale." But I found from your contributions for many years that your pen handwriting is getting better and better ... "
It was this rejection letter that brought the confused young man to his senses. He resolutely gave up writing and began to practice pen calligraphy. Sure enough, he made rapid progress. Now he is a famous hard pen calligrapher. His name is Zhang Wenju.
In this way, he made his ideal turn a corner, and then he turned to success. After success, he sighed to his friends: "If a person wants to succeed, ideals, courage and perseverance are of course important, but more importantly, he should know how to give up and turn on the road of life, so as to find the road that suits him best!" .
In life, who doesn't yearn for success, who doesn't yearn for the future, and who is willing to let the ideal boat run aground halfway ... So everyone is constantly pursuing, but not everyone can achieve their goal. In fact, success is not just the pursuit of established goals, because the ideal has turned a corner in the process of reality!
This story gives me the feeling that finding a suitable path between reality and ideal. If you want to settle down, remember to turn your ideal around when necessary! Don't give up your favorite career because of temporary loneliness.
Behind all the brilliant scenes are endless loneliness, just like fireworks that cut through the night, but they are so bright and moving, but after a flash in the pan, they still leave endless night. In fact, all the wonderful things in life are to be repaid by loneliness.
When you sit in the warm sunshine in winter and enjoy a good book, loneliness is your best friend who talks about everything; When you concentrate on a career or research, loneliness is your most leisurely mentor. ...
However, in life, we often feel empty in loneliness, become more and more impetuous in loneliness, and lose ourselves in loneliness. ...
At this time, you might as well stop in a hurry and let your heart be baptized in loneliness!
Only by enduring loneliness can we not be tempted by foreign things, put aside selfish distractions, be impetuous and blindly follow, and maintain a correct attitude towards life and value orientation; Only when you can stand loneliness can you keep your body clean.
Ambitious and noble; Only by enduring loneliness can we return to ourselves, do the deepest and most essential introspection, and unite our strength to be invincible.
Being able to endure loneliness is a tragic beauty and a natural voice calling for rationality. It is better to face loneliness bravely than to lament loneliness blindly. As long as you are not bound by loneliness and overcome the mental troubles caused by loneliness with extraordinary will, life will have extraordinary, perfect and true connotations, and you can appreciate the infinite beauty of loneliness and revel in it. Without the experience of lonely life, you can't taste the true meaning of life, and then spark and shine your thoughts. Only when you are lonely, can you let the rock in your heart sink into the river bed of meditation and extend further and deeper.
Think clearly in silence and see the real theme in your heart; In my spare time, the weather is calm and I really have a chance to understand my heart. People who experience loneliness are not necessarily lonely inside. Because loneliness gave him time to think, loneliness gave him a shoulder to bear loneliness, and loneliness also taught him a firm will.
Enjoy loneliness, drive away noise and dispel depression. Let your heart be like a calm lake, calm and calm! Enjoy loneliness, go to the vast sky to feel the breath of nature, the clouds are clear and the mountains stand tall!
Enjoy loneliness, because loneliness makes life so beautiful!
Review of Loneliness Part III: Review of the movie Lonely Fireworks.
Every moment when a firework blooms in the sky, it is radiant and amazing. However, who can see the price paid by fireworks for their "rapid development" and the loneliness after that "short"?
Do you choose to be a beautiful and splendid fireworks in the sky, or a grass enjoying ordinary peace underground? Do you want to die alone in public, or do you want to live happily in a paradise? This is a question that every audience should think about in this film.
Between art and life, my sister Hillary Dupuis naturally chose the latter. She gave up the flute that once brought her countless flowers and applause, went to the countryside with her husband, and lived an ordinary life of having children and farming. However, after suffering from the loneliness and loneliness brought by art, her sister Jackie Dupe failed to put down the piano box covered with honor. She could not put it down, and she knew very well that Jackie would have nothing without cello and performance. Even when she enjoys sex with her lover in bed, she will show off her honor, because she knows very well that the man loves her talent rather than Jackie herself. She has achieved nothing but music. The performance of pride reflects her inner inferiority.
To create the most wonderful things in the world, let people appreciate and make people happy, but to chew the bitter fruit of art alone. This is the sorrow of the artist and the greatness of the artist. God is fair. She gives you something generously, and at the same time takes something from you mercilessly. On his deathbed, the musical genius looked at his sister's swollen belly again and sarcastically introduced to a lady that this village woman was my sister and could only have children. Her complicated expression revealed her desire for ordinary life.
Jackie Dupe, you are the darling of the music and art world, but you are also a beggar in life.
The word "lonely fireworks" is a perfect word to sum up Jackie Depp's short life. Like a long-accumulated blazing flame, it was quickly extinguished by indifference at high altitude and then fell alone. But "lonely fireworks" is not enough to describe her life. Because: she is brighter and lonelier than fireworks.