This psychology book, which has been selling well for more than 90 years, has several translated versions. I read the translated version of Xu Shan.
I prefer subheadings to headlines-you have no idea how good you are!
People often say that the authorities are confused. How much do we know about ourselves?
A few days ago, my new colleague told me: I feel particularly inferior. I don't think there is anything I can do.
I was particularly surprised. Why do you say that?
Although she is a new colleague, in my eyes, she is a person who is particularly motivated and enthusiastic about her work. 、
In life, she can write Chinese calligraphy, be a TV director, sing, cook and be fluent in English. . . Can be said to be versatile, anyway, I can't do the above, but it is such a person, shining in my eyes, but I think he can't (fight) (wo) (Na).
I asked: What else do you want? Are you going to heaven?
She said that she felt particularly stupid, slow to learn and poor in business knowledge.
I am speechless. In fact, the villain in my heart is saying: Give her a red one.
It's not my character not to preach.
So, I patiently told her, 1, as a newcomer, it is normal that business is not good, and practice makes perfect, not to mention it is not difficult; 2. Why compare your own shortcomings with others' advantages? We should recognize our own bright spots.
Are you the same? I won't see my skills clearly tomorrow. You are talking about inferiority complex, and you are talking about patients with "deep well ice".
There must be.
The book Inferiority and Transcendence explains why people have psychological reasons such as inferiority.
Some people can say that his contribution to psychology has surpassed Freud's, not only because his inferiority and compensation are everywhere in life, but also because his psychology has become a complete system in the history of psychology. For example, psychologist Murphy said, "Adler's psychology is the first psychological system in the history of psychology to develop in the direction that we should call it social science today."
The preface of this book says: Adler has experienced a lot of hardships in his life. He suffered from rickets in his childhood and was short and ugly. At the age of five, he almost died of pneumonia, which made him feel inferior among his brothers because of his unfortunate childhood. However, the setbacks in life did not make him depressed. On the contrary, he constantly surpassed himself through his own efforts. 1895 obtained the doctor's degree from Vienna University and became a doctor. . . Therefore, his life can also be said to be to fight against inferiority and achieve his own life.
The book is divided into twelve chapters, discussing twelve themes, namely, the meaning of life, body and mind, inferiority and superiority, early memory, dreams, family influence, school influence, adolescence, crime and its prevention, occupation, friends and companions, love and marriage. Around these themes, he focused on the formation of inferiority complex and its influence on personal growth, how to transcend inferiority complex and how to turn inferiority complex into an appropriate pursuit of superiority in order to achieve success.
In the book, the author lists a large number of examples and psychological analysis results to illustrate his point of view, so it is not difficult to understand the point of view of a psychological book. At the same time, through examples and experiments, the author analyzes the causes of people's inferiority and anxiety, the resulting behavior and its influence on the mind, and how to face and solve psychological problems.
I appreciate that the author, as a doctor and psychologist, does not think that psychological problems and mental illness are a kind of "disease". He first proposed not to treat this "disease" by medical means, but to understand and accept this psychological problem rationally and actively. Psychological problems may not bring bad effects, such as "inferiority complex", "The author thinks inferiority complex is the source of power to improve human situation" and ".
I summed up three points in this book:
Everyone will have some mental or psychological problems under the influence of natural, social, social and other environments. We shouldn't think it's evil just because we have mental problems. Of course, on the contrary, we can't let bad mentality and behavior affect our lives. The most correct way is to analyze the reasons in your mind, not to regret and repent. Why do I have this kind of psychology? What's the impact? If it is caused by living habits, how should it be adjusted?
Just like a child with poor eyesight, perhaps because of the pressure of this problem, he will spend more energy to see and perceive things around him. Compared with children with good eyesight, they have a richer visual experience. Emotion, physiology, environment, etc. Can be the cause of psychological problems, leading people to have a tendency to feel inferior, thus affecting their own lives. Only by correctly and rationally understanding psychological problems, understanding their potential shadows and defects, finding the root of the crux and breaking the shackles of inferiority can we treat life correctly and surpass ourselves.
In the book, the author lists a large number of examples to illustrate the importance of childhood and parents to a person's psychological growth. Several important themes in the book are related to the social environment. Family is a social environment that a person comes into contact with from birth, and the information that parents pass on to their children is very important. The group that a person comes into contact with for the first time in the process of growing up is the school, so the environment and atmosphere of the school, classmates and teachers will have an impact on a person's mind. Adolescence is a necessary stage for people to grow up, and physical changes will inevitably have an impact on emotions and psychology.
"Earth" is our unchangeable living environment, and "society" is a collection of human beings that we can't decide. We deal with this society every day. When some uncontrollable factors cannot be changed, the only thing we can control is ourselves. Therefore, keeping one's original heart and making one's heart strong is the best way to survive in response to the psychological changes of this social change.
The book says that "one's feelings mainly depend on one's lifestyle and set goals" and that "when one sets one's own goals, feelings will not run counter to his lifestyle". . . The author has mentioned the importance of goals many times and thinks that the meaning of life lies in struggle and continuous transcendence.
"When you have a goal that you are striving for, although there are obstacles, you will find that the goal is more important than the obstacles." "A person will always constantly adjust his behavior to meet specific goals. Under the constraints of these conditions, a person will keep getting closer to his goal, and no matter what happens, he will try his best to realize his "meaning of life" and pursue the superior "ultimate goal". As the saying goes, it is not enough for people to have a positive attitude when they are alive, but also to have correct goals and lofty ideals. Only by defining the goal can we better grasp the direction of life and life.
Individualization is a process of strength growth and personal personality improvement. Only by developing inner strength and strengthening one's psychology can one create oneself, pursue superiority and surpass oneself.