"The road of your life is your own coming and going. No one can help you."
"You must learn to make your own plans."
In the TV series "Do you know whether you should be green, fat, red and thin", Sheng Minglan kept her grandmother's words in mind.
From then on, no matter how ups and downs she encountered, she always adhered to a bottom line and had an explanation for her lifelong path:
"I came to this world once, and this is To live a good life. ”
Flowers and bright flowers are gifts from fate; wind, frost, rain, snow, open and secret arrows are also gifts from fate.
In Sheng Minglan's life, there was never any good destiny, only the wisdom and determination to control one's own destiny.
For a woman from a feudal family, the most direct way to change her destiny is marriage.
Of course Minglan understands this.
However, she came from a humble background and had no say in her marriage.
My father is a low-ranking official, and my mother is a concubine who is not favored. No matter how smart I am, I still have to cling to my weaknesses and hide my talents.
It was fate that brought such good men to her one by one.
She is infatuated with the young father-in-law for the first time, meets He Hongwen at a well-matched level, and meets her opponent Gu Ershu in chess.
We have met three loves in our lives. We onlookers have seen it and feel that this life is enough.
However, in her early love years, Minglan still made the most sober choice every time.
When it comes to love, the young Minglan has her own standards of measurement:
“True love is not based on how many smart things he has done, but on how many smart things he has done. "How many stupid things have been done."
Young Master Qi Heng has done many stupid things for Minglan.
However, the huge difference between their identities destined their love to be defeated by the world.
Minglan was very self-aware and tried her best to resist this feeling.
Qi Heng confessed his love several times, but Minglan clearly refused;
He gave the precious brushes he gave to Mo Lan and Ru Lan;
No I am willing to meet with him privately and say frankly that public opinion is worth money and will also implicate my sisters and father.
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Faced with the unshakable identity gap, Minglan can see through the final outcome at a glance.
She had exhausted all her strength to refuse, reject her little heartbeat, reject the other party's silly insistence, she didn't want to take the risk of entrusting her life to a family that obviously looked down on her.
But who would have thought that the young father-in-law was as perfect as a banished immortal, yet so affectionate, that he would be willing to go on a hunger strike for this ordinary girl.
She was finally moved:
"I know the dangers of the Qi family, and I am willing to risk it."
"As long as he doesn't let me down, I won't let him down. Let him go."
This is a girl's most solemn commitment to love.
However, the difficulty of marrying into a rich family was still far beyond her imagination.
Qi Heng’s love for Minglan is unquestionable, but he underestimates his own charm.
It was just an ordinary encounter. The Lord of Jiacheng County fell in love with him and would not marry him unless he was a young father-in-law.
Concubine Rong’s sister is also obsessed with him and wants to marry into the Qi family.
What is more terrifying than the fight between two tigers is the fight between two tigresses. What's more, the family power behind these two people is beyond the reach of the Sheng family.
In the end, Concubine Rong's sister was framed by the county head's family and ended up committing suicide, completely losing the competition.
If it were Minglan, it would be even worse.
He also underestimated his mother.
She forced Qi Heng to recognize the Sheng family's daughter as her younger sister.
Qi Heng went on a hunger strike, but the princess had nothing to do with him, so she personally came to persuade Minglan.
In the end, he simply threatened him with the lives of everyone in the Sheng family.
A true love passed away in the wind. The young father-in-law was trapped in the same place, but Minglan had wiped away her tears and strode forward.
Qi Heng married the county lord even though he had ten thousand reluctances.
Mrs. Sheng felt sorry for Minglan and wanted to betroth her to He Hongwen.
The He family is well-off and is a close relative of the Sheng family. Grandma and Mrs. Sheng are close friends. No matter how you look at it, they are both a good match.
Minglan was a little resistant at first.
Just like when we get older, our family members are reluctant to urge us to go on a blind date.
But after meeting him, I felt that this person was actually quite good, with comparable conditions and matching personality. I thought I could accept it if I imagined living with him.
Her grandmother advised her: When looking for a family, she should find someone who is honest and responsible. Only if her family is simple and her mother-in-law is kind to others can she live a comfortable life.
Minglan, who has always been more rational than emotional, agreed.
Even if He Hongwen's confidante, Cao's cousin, jumped out, she didn't pay much attention: We two didn't have each other in our hearts, but we could live in harmony and respect each other as guests.
Grandma does not want Minglan to suffer such injustice. If there is neither heartbeat nor joy in this life, what is the use of this marriage?
This marriage is over.
Minglan himself said: "To stay with others, we ultimately rely on the lowest point, the lowest point of character."
He Hongwen's character can be considered upright, But if you look at the lowest point of his character, that seemingly harmless indecision may be the biggest pitfall in Minglan's future life.
He Hongwen didn't know how to deal with his cousin harassing Minglan, so he had to remain indifferent.
Although I clearly like Minglan, I still plan to take my cousin as my concubine.
This cousin Cao is the only sister of her mother-in-law. It can be imagined that her mother-in-law and she will be in the same camp after marriage, and Minglan will only be isolated.
He Hongwen has a weak temperament, and in the end he is either a wallflower or double-sided tape.
Even worse, like Minglan's father Sheng Hong, he favored concubines, listened to slander, and lived like a cowardly fool all his life.
She is as noble as Minglan, how can she be embarrassed by her love?
Only by leaving the wrong can we meet the right.
These words could not be more appropriate to apply to Minglan and Gu Tingye.
Minglan once discussed marriage with He Hongwen.
Gu Tingye has a troublesome Zhu Manniang.
Zhu Manniang used her son to blackmail Gu Tingye and wanted to write herself into the family tree. However, she was tricked by Minglan and found out that her son Chang Geer had already died. Minglan didn't care much about it, and slapped her in the face, completely relieved of her hatred.
Even without Zhu Manniang, Gu Tingye is actually not a glamorous leading actor.
He was not favored at home and was a libertine who always took the blame; he had a bad reputation outside and was a frequent visitor to Qin Tower and Chu House.
However, Gu Tingye may be the person in the world, besides his grandmother, who understands Minglan the most and loves Minglan the most.
His biological mother died unjustly, and he was ostracized at home. He was not aware of Minglan's suffering.
He likes Minglan, but he will not tell the world like Qi Heng. He wishes that everyone in the world would know and put more pressure on Minglan.
He knows that the most important thing for a girl is a clean reputation.
Worried about Minglan’s safety, he followed from a distance to protect her.
Is it very similar to the scene in the movie "Young Me" where Xiaobei silently escorts Chen Nian?
No matter what age you are, as long as you truly love someone, you will think about her in everything, not to vent yourself, but only for the other person's peace.
He knew that there would be resistance to marrying Minglan, so he went into battle to kill the enemy in order to gain military merit and asked the emperor for a marriage.
The person who truly loves you may not be good at sweet words, but he will try his best and be willing to pay any price to resolve the obstacles between the two.
Before marriage, Gu Tingye said, I am the oldest among men, and you are the oldest among women.
After the marriage, he completely fulfilled his promise.
On the wedding night, when I heard Minglan say she was hungry, I immediately went out to buy food for my wife - I just wanted to let the world know that my wife can do whatever she wants;
In order to let Minglan live a comfortable life, she could sleep as long as she wanted in the morning, so she separated and lived alone and moved out of the Hou Mansion;
She got up early in the morning and painted her eyebrows in front of the mirror, and read with her red sleeves at night.
The lives of these two people are basically a large-scale dog food spreading scene.
If there had not been the hardships that followed, then the life of the couple would have been smooth and peaceful, enough to be considered satisfactory.
But with the hardships that followed, we saw the best of love.
Even in the happiest moments, Minglan has never forgotten that "no one has anyone's backer" and "you have to treat the official as your boss and work more conscientiously and always count on him. He also There will come a time when the burden is too heavy."
She lives a clear life, firstly because of her grandmother's careful training, and secondly because she loves reading.
Minglan’s reading was not just for the sake of her reputation as a “talented woman”, nor was she limited to superficial skills such as calligraphy and poetry recitation.
Mo Lan, who is regarded as a talented girl among the sisters, uses studying as a bargaining chip to get married, and only wants to clear her identity as a concubine and become a eldest lady of a wealthy family.
Minglan, however, read "Warring States Policy", "Book of Wei", "Zi Zhi Tong Jian"... She took the time to learn to read account books, read the real estate deeds of shops, and even the prostitution of servants Yes, she is also interested in studying it.
Minglan studied to understand things and solve problems. By the way, she also had the skills necessary to be a housewife.
The goals in life are completely different, which means that their respective patterns are destined to be very different.
Helping the queen deal with the Xiao Zou incident is a good example.
The Queen’s younger brother Shen Guojiu’s wife is Zhang, the daughter of the veteran British duke.
Uncle Shen Guo once had his wife Zou, who died to save the queen. Later, he took his late wife's sister, Xiao Zou, as his concubine. Xiao Zou was protected by his sister and was given the title of "concubine". Therefore, he relied on favor and pride, often humiliating his wife Zhang, and even caused Zhang to give birth prematurely. , almost lost his life.
This family fight caused fierce disputes between the old and new generations of ministers.
The queen was at a loss and asked Minglan.
Ming Lan remained calm and told the queen the story of Cao Cao cutting off the surrogate head and Tang Daizong angrily reprimanding his daughter.
After hearing this, the queen immediately took off her outer clothes, makeup, and took off the biggest pearl on her phoenix crown, and asked her personal female officer to go to the British palace to apologize.
Then personally apologize to the emperor to resolve the conflict between the old ministers;
Then accompany the emperor to apologize to the queen mother, so that the queen mother loses the opportunity to hold accountable.
Being well-read and able to use it for herself, Minglan was able to help the Queen resolve her predicament.
Being familiar with allusions and seeing the world clearly allowed her to maintain her confidence when Gu Er was "in trouble" and she was fighting alone.
Minglan once advised her young father-in-law: "If we keep looking back in this life, we will not be able to survive this day.
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You can't admonish what has gone by, but you can still chase what has come.
Letting go and cherishing may be difficult to do, but it is the magic weapon to obtain happiness in life.
I hope that you and I can be as transparent as a bright orchid, that all we meet will be good people, and that all our wishes will come true.