Reading itself cannot create value, only changing behavior can create value.
Knowing is only the initial stage. After knowing, you can apply what you have learned. Action is the key.
To turn knowledge into ability, there is a "divided" distance between knowledge and action - knowledge separates action.
How to do it specifically? The secret is-RIA sticky note reading method.
The Book Dismantling Gang is a youth organization that promotes reading and learning. It operates offline in many cities and is committed to helping more people dismantle knowledge into their own abilities.
The RIA calligraphy method is a method of reading books to help yourself, which is called the RIA sticky note reading method.
I have not participated in the offline activities of this community, but I found that in my daily reading, I unconsciously use the RIA sticky note reading method to help me integrate knowledge with action and apply what I have learned.
Introduction to sticky note reading method (adding a little bit of my own understanding):
In meiya’s article "You can be happy even if your three views are inconsistent, the key is...", I I read a passage that touched me:
When faced with irreversible differences, happy couples try to accept the fact that we are just different.
They allow each other's differences to exist and accept that two people are different. Although they do not agree with each other, they do not think that the other person is wrong and they are right, and they do not require the other person to follow their own rules. Way to come. For example, a wife can't stand her husband reading news on his mobile phone every day, but she will neither snatch her husband's mobile phone, nor say: You are not allowed to watch the news, and if you do, I will divorce you (I am talking about myself). That is to say, they can live in harmony and do not agree with each other, but they do not require each other to be the same as themselves. This includes equality and respect.
But many couples cannot do this. Faced with each other's differences, many people always ask the other person to change, or always hope that the two people will be the same. But such a request brings more conflicts and disputes, destroying the relationship between the two people.
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In the article, meiya mentioned that the famous psychologist John Gottman (John Gottman) found that some marital conflicts can be resolved. , and some conflicts always exist. For example, the wife loves to be tidy, but the husband hates tidying up; the wife likes to talk, but the husband’s silence is golden...
However, many couples with differences and conflicts are still satisfied with their marriages. They are often able to accept each other's differences. Even if they don't agree with the differences between two people, they can still seek common ground while reserving differences, instead of thinking that they are right and the other person is wrong, asking the other person to do things their own way, or even trying to Change your partner and create someone just like yourself.
In the treatment of gender relations. Are you such a person? Or have you ever fallen into such a trap by mistake?
I am such a person, and I have jumped over such pitfalls.
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Classmate He and I have been married for about 2 years, and our differences have become more and more prominent after we got married.
I am impatient, and I am not allowed to delay anything that can be solved as soon as possible. I cannot wait for a moment. He is a chronic person, and he always feels that he is a day slower than me. I like neatness, and neatness is what I want. The way home looks like, he is used to taking off his clothes on the sofa when he comes home. When he goes on a business trip, his home is clean and tidy, but when he comes home, he is a naughty child and makes a mess. I think there should be more communication between husband and wife. He thinks there is nothing wrong with being an old married couple. It’s easy to say; I pay attention to personal growth and urge myself to keep reading and learning. His daily standard action is to lie down, and his essential homework is to read the news on his mobile phone and hardly read...
I was once He is worried about "not progressing".
I think I am right and he is wrong. Cleanliness is what makes a home, but people think that relaxation is a home - relaxation means that you can put things wherever you want.
I think if you don’t learn or grow, don’t you just wait to be photographed on the beach? People think that watching the news is how he learns.
Before this, I was the kind of person who believed that I was right and the other person was wrong, and I kept trying to change the other person. It's hard to change yourself, let alone change others. Living under the same roof, the differences between us made me sulky and quarreled a lot. However, this did not solve the problem, but instead detracted from the relationship between us.
meiya’s words make me reflect and grow. I try to accept: we are just different.
My character has my advantages, and his character also has its benefits. I grow the way I like and allow him to choose the way he wants to learn. Thinking like this makes our relationship less quarrelsome and more harmonious.
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Differences still exist, life tolerates my differences, and I try to respect his choices. I began to accept our differences, and slowly developed from acceptance to acceptance, and even began to appreciate our differences. It is precisely because of our differences that I noticed a lot of things from him that I didn't like to pay attention to before, such as mini games. Then through the mini game of "Jump, Jump", we have an extra common point of communication between husband and wife. Through this mini game I also extended it to the color matching of PPT. Precisely because of the differences, I learned about some aspects of his hobbies that I had never been involved in, such as cars, thus expanding my cognitive boundaries. It is precisely because of differences that we have more different experiences and more opportunities to learn and grow.
Now I feel: Marriage is really a practice. We are all not perfect, but we are all becoming more perfect selves during this practice.
The above is a small example of how I use sticky notes to read.
RIA sticky note reading method - a small skill that helps the unity of knowledge and action, have you got it? Why not try it out too!
When reading, scrolling through Weibo, browsing subscription account articles, and whenever you encounter inspiring words, you can use the sticky note reading method to help you turn knowledge into abilities and make the knowledge you acquire more valuable!
PS: ①RIA sticky note reading method can not only be used for effective reading and promote the unity of knowledge and action, but also can be used for writing ideas. ② Take notes during daily listening and sharing. You can write keywords on the left side and record your inspiration and how to use it on the right side.