Hello David, I confessed my love to a girl twice and she disagreed. Do you think I should continue? We are still in contact now. I asked her out and she agreed. Sometimes I was told by her that I had low emotional intelligence. I was a little stunned and didn't know where I was wrong.
David replied:
Of course you have to persist. Why not persist? There are still opportunities.
Don’t be so stupid as to confess your love to her again before the time is right.
Are you the only one who can confess your feelings?
If she is really so easy to chase, she just declares her love and will be with you. If a man chases her in the same way early in the morning, will it be your turn?
It is impossible for a woman to give you whatever you want. How can there be such a good thing? What's more, what you want is her as a person, not just asking her to do a small favor.
Okay, now that you’ve talked about the mistakes you made, let’s talk about the status of your relationship with her.
You confessed your love twice and she didn’t agree to you, but she didn’t ignore you either. This is an opportunity.
She said you have low emotional intelligence, which is actually the same as calling you "idiot". She is telling you, can you please stop being so naive and why are you so anxious?
Women always hesitate about many things before making a decision.
Just like if you want to buy a house, if you like it, will you pay for it immediately?
Before you give money, you will definitely be very cautious. Check out the developer’s reputation and whether it has a history of being a scammer. Then look at the surrounding environment, and then carefully ask various details. , you will hand over tens or even millions of money to the other party.
The same is true for a woman before she enters a relationship. It is one thing to like you, but it is another thing to be with you. She also needs to observe carefully and understand your past, your values, and your The details of daily life and so on.
This all requires you to have enough interaction and solitude, and slowly create a sense of solid security.
If a woman is very beautiful and makes you very attracted to her, but she maintains ambiguous relationships or even inappropriate relationships with more than 10 men at the same time, would you dare to marry her?
I definitely don’t dare. I won’t know who the child is by then, right?
Both men and women need a sense of security. You should take a good look at your relationship now. Are you missing the link to create a sense of security?