Read yourself: look at yourself and know the direction.
There is a saying in Mid-Levels: "It is better to read ten favorite books than to read one hundred books; After reading a book ten times, it is better to reflect on your own life experience. It's really better to look at people than at yourself. "
People who live clearly often know themselves through experience and become themselves through reflection.
Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, initially believed in the Confucian idea of "a gentleman strives for self-improvement", so he was straightforward and didn't give people face.
During the period of 1857, the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom was in full swing, and the Xiang army trained by Zeng Guofan could confront it. But at this time, Zeng Guofan's father passed away. According to the regulations, Zeng Guofan has to worry about it for three years, and Xianfeng wants to keep him.
But Zeng Guofan said to Xianfeng, "Your Majesty, if you don't give me the right to be governor, I will go home."
Xianfeng waved his pen angrily and said, "Go back and worry."
This is a blow that almost knocked Zeng Guofan unconscious. After returning home, Zeng Guofan kept thinking: What did he do wrong?
He took a fancy to a thin Tao Te Ching. With his own life experience, he found that the so-called "weakness overcomes strength" in the Tao Te Ching is the truth that should be upheld when entering the WTO. A seemingly negative birth is actually a positive entry into the WTO, because detours can achieve the goal better.
Thought of here, Zeng Guofan suddenly realized that he wrote eight big characters on the title page of the book: "Big softness and no softness, both rigidity and softness."
It was at the low point of his career that he fully reflected and changed his mind, which made Zeng Guofan more and more stable in his later period.
The experience of failure allows us to gain experience from introspection and turn shortcomings into advantages.
Really smart people know that only by being brave enough to scrape bones and heal wounds can they reap the surprise of new life. Because those reflections will become their own paved road.
Socrates once said, "An unexamined life is not worth living."
Beyond yourself: beyond yourself, break first and then stand.
Some people say, "those who dare to fight have roads on the ground, and those who dare to break have roads everywhere."
Wang Yangming, a great scholar in Ming Dynasty, kept breaking and standing all his life, and finally found the direction and established the theory of mind.
If people want to surpass themselves, only by playing games, breaking old rules and establishing new ones can they achieve self-transcendence.
Wang Yangming said to his teacher when he was very young: "The first thing in life is to study and be a saint." This sentence laid the road for his life development. In order to find the way of sages, Wang Yangming had a period of "five drowning", that is, he lost his way in five things.
They are chivalrous, riding and shooting, immortal and Buddha old.
These five aspects are of great help to Wang Yangming's career development, but they are not the way of sages. During this period, Wang Yangming also staged a "benevolence" based on Zhu's "governor" theory. He stared at the bamboo for seven days, but instead of seeing anything, he fell ill. This made Wang Yangming doubt Zhu's Neo-Confucianism.
Until the age of thirty-five, he was sent to Longchang, Guizhou, because he offended Liu Jin with his brave words. Under such circumstances, he began to reflect: "I was sent to Longchang because of my brave words, and the way of sages was not seen." Now my life is in danger. Is it wrong to pursue the path of sages? "
Intense inner conflict finally appeared in Wang Yangming's heart one night. A loud laugh pierced the night sky, yes, he realized it. He said: "it is a big mistake to be realistic about foreign things, and the way of being a saint is in everyone's heart."
As the saying goes, "you can only see the vacuum if you break the foreign object." Looking at the process of Wang Yangming's enlightenment, it is a process of seeking truth from outside.
Break first and then stand, surpass yourself. Break old habits and create a new atmosphere.
Please yourself: please yourself and feel comfortable.
"An independent and confident person will never pin himself on others. Life is my own, why should I rely on others to get satisfaction? "
Once you live in the evaluation of others, that is the beginning of losing yourself.
Only by caring about your feelings can a track live high.
Ji Xianlin, a master of Chinese studies, a first-class scholar and the only tenured professor of Peking University, is like a free and easy neighbor in life.
The publication of Tsinghua Campus Diary is the best proof, which records some thoughts and feelings of Mr. Ji in college. At the time of publication, the publishing house considered the image of Mr. Ji and suggested making appropriate deletions.
Mr. Ji said, "I haven't changed a word, and I haven't deleted a word. I am not a saint. I exposed myself in broad daylight. "
This action has been successful and won unanimous praise.
At the end of life, you must know how to please yourself. Break the laborious relationship, unload the heavy disguise, no longer worry about other people's advice, no longer worry about powerless things.
Only when you are comfortable physically and mentally can you see your true colors and feel happy.