When I first entered the new environment, I, like most people, unconsciously felt great enthusiasm for almost everyone around me, driven by novelty.
I entered the university campus for the first time and met my roommate for the first time. At first, the harmonious atmosphere made me feel that four years would be spent so harmoniously. However, after rubbing against them again and again, I gradually lost my previous enthusiasm and turned my eyes to the outside world, trying to find a trustworthy partner elsewhere.
In order to adapt to the new environment and integrate into new groups as soon as possible, I unconsciously pretend to be a sunny teenager with a cheerful and enthusiastic personality, and strive to establish a good relationship with everyone in my class. At the same time, I also applied to join many societies such as the Student Union, and I was deeply immersed in illusory happiness while overdrawing my energy.
Finally, at some point, I woke up. I broke away from my disguise and dragged myself back to the corner. I watched a series of "friendships" disappear before they were formed. I was secretly relieved when I was helpless.
The tortuous experience taught me a truth: it is not easy to live a good life, so why spend too much precious time and energy on interpersonal communication. No matter how enthusiastic a mean person is, he is mean. Even if he is indifferent occasionally, a good person will get enough love and respect.
A few months ago, the TV series "The Joy of Life" swept the Internet, and Chen became popular again because he played the role of "Emperor of the Qing Dynasty". Unlike a traffic star, he has the strength to decide when to go out of the circle and the confidence to let himself come and go freely in the circle.
Chen is a clear stream in the entertainment circle. In his early years, he was famous for playing Puyi in The Last Emperor. But at the moment when it was about to become a big hit, he declined the invitation of many famous directors. He didn't rush to the fast lane of fame, and devoted himself to studying acting skills, so that he got classic roles such as Fang Hong Xiang, Kangxi Emperor and Nie Mingyuan.
Besides acting, Chen likes to fiddle with things that outsiders think are useless, such as reading, playing the piano and practicing calligraphy. Besides, he is good at basketball, painting and music.
As a friend, he advised Chen to deal with outsiders and expressed his willingness to introduce some celebrities, but Chen was unmoved. His position is very clear, living the life he wants, following his heart and not going with the flow.
As the saying goes, "there are many flatterers in the world, but your husband remains the same." Chen deserves this sentence.
Recently, ByteDance took to the forefront because of the Tik Tok incident. Tik Tok intended to make concessions in exchange for the Trump administration's pity, but it turned out that it was more difficult to expect Trump to be friendly to China than to let the sow climb the tree, and the boss Zhang Yiming was scolded for it.
His predicament has a lot to do with his boss's naive ideas, but it doesn't mean that he is a mediocre person and can become a leading Internet enterprise in China. Zhang's quality and ability have played a great role.
Zhang Yiming graduated from Nankai University. In college, almost all other people get together to play and be chic, but he likes reading and studying alone, which seems a bit out of place with the surrounding environment.
Another feature of Zhang Yiming is extreme rationality, which is the kind of rationality with almost no emotional changes. Students and friends agree that Zhang Yiming is a rare "cold-blooded animal". The advantage is that he exerts his concentration to the extreme, is not easily dominated by worldly desires, makes efficient use of every minute, devotes himself wholeheartedly and outputs with all his strength. It is difficult for such a person to succeed.
Repressing the United States is a disaster for ByteDance and an excellent education for Zhang Yiming. As a "savage" person, his thoughts were really shattered that day. He should fight with all his wisdom and anger until he dies.
No matter how wonderful the stories of celebrities are, they can't show that there is an absolute relationship between achievement and unsociable. Being unsociable does not mean incompetence, and being gregarious does not mean being excellent. Being gregarious is a means for people with ability and personality, and being unsociable is obeying one's own heart. They are familiar with interpersonal routines and dare to embrace their true selves. When they need a rest, they should all leave here.
When you learn to be alone, learn to refuse, and learn not to stick to yourself to cater to others, you will find that life has never been so bright and cheerful, time is precious, life is limited, and only love and ideals can live up to it. Why spend all your energy to appease unrealistic assumptions and be the master of your own life?