Elements of mental health

Want to know the elements of mental health? Below I collect the elements of mental health for everyone, welcome to read!

1. Acceptance and giving of love

It is now considered that the most important spiritual "nutrient" in life is love. Love has a very rich connotation, which not only refers to love, but also includes care, comfort, encouragement, reward, praise, trust, help and support. Love accompanies one's life, and there is acceptance and giving. Giving love actually includes loving yourself, others and society. If you love yourself, you should adjust yourself, not feel inferior or proud; If you love others, you should be tolerant, patient and accommodating; Loving society means paying attention to dedication, expressing gratitude and trying to repay.

Failure to get love normally or to give love actively will lead to mental imbalance, which will affect health. Childhood is mainly the love of parents. Childhood is the key period to cultivate people's mental health. If you don't get enough and correct parental love at this stage, it will affect their mental health development throughout their lives. In adolescence, the love of partners and teachers has been increased. In youth, it is mainly the love of lovers and couples. Middle-aged people have great social responsibilities, and the love of colleagues, relatives and children is very important. They will make young people more confident and motivated in their careers and families, and make their lives full of joy and warmth. As for the happiness of the elderly in their later years, the key lies in love. All of the above are loved, which is just one aspect of love. On the other hand, love is giving love. It is generally believed that people who often give love have a higher level of mental health than those who often get love. Therefore, being good at caring for others is considered as a way of promoting psychological balance. And unlike being loved, giving love can be mastered by yourself, and it can be implemented continuously, and at the same time, you can get a lasting good mood.

2. Learn to adapt actively

Adaptation is a life attitude, which is very important for maintaining mental health. Environmental changes need to adapt, life changes need to adapt, and status changes need to adapt. If they cannot adapt, psychological twists and turns will occur. There are also many ways to adapt. Negative adaptation is an unhealthy adaptation. It is at the expense of development, and it is "swallowing one's teeth", which will lead to mental illness over time. Positive adaptation is a healthy adaptation, which has two meanings: one is to change oneself, adapt to the environment or adapt to some changes in the environment; The second is to constantly struggle and choose, improve their abilities in all aspects with a positive attitude, and move from one goal to another. No one wants to ask for bad luck, but once the crisis comes, it is inevitable to hide. We have no choice but to actively adapt.

Maybe you are complaining about how bad the environment is, or maybe you are anxious in the face of a crisis. The following story may inspire you: There is a river in a certain area, and deer herds are active on both sides, but people find that the deer on the north shore are strong and have strong running and reproductive abilities, while the deer on the south shore are far behind. The same variety, why is the difference so big? Later, after people's investigation and analysis, it was learned that there were wolves on the north bank of Hebei and not on the south bank. Deer never want to be with wolves, but the objective fact is that the existence of wolves ensures the deer's strength, and it is the dangerous factors in the environment that glow their fighting spirit.

According to the theory of psychological stress, crisis is a catalyst, which can break the original set or habit and seek new ways to solve problems. As long as people actively adapt to life changes, they will enhance their ability to resist setbacks and improve their ability to adapt to the environment. To adapt actively, we should do the following:

(1) Crisis awareness. Psychologists have done such an experiment: throw a lively frog into boiling water, and the frog immediately jumped out of the water and survived. Half an hour later, the escaped frog was put into the pot filled with cold water, and then slowly heated. The frog began to enjoy the warm water leisurely, and when the water temperature made it unbearable, it felt weak and finally died in boiling water. People may pity this unfortunate frog, but few people realize that it may be the reappearance of some phenomena in our lives. Therefore, the more you are in a "leisurely" environment, the more you must have a sense of crisis.

(2) change the perspective. We can't know our greatest talent, and it can only be awakened by great changes or great dangers in our lives. Some people think that the tempering of life is unfortunate, while others regard it as an opportunity for development. A reporter once interviewed Pele, the king of soccer, and asked if his son would be as famous as him in the future. He said, "Impossible, because my father is poor and his father is not."

(3) take the initiative to attack. All our lives, we may struggle with all kinds of setbacks, which is not something we are willing to do. When we are in no way back, we have to go forward bravely. Remember, don't let life oppress us, we should challenge life. People who can ride a bicycle must know that if you ride fast, the car will be stable, if you ride slowly, it will sway, and if you stop, the car will fall. The same is true of active adaptation. If you improve your ability in all aspects with a positive attitude, what other storms can't pass?

Self-adaptation is also the most reliable and best psychological compensation. Adaptation is an acceptance, an abandonment, a challenge and a re-selection. Whether you can understand "adaptation" and whether you are good at adaptation is a touchstone to test people's intelligence and courage.

3. Learn to be tolerant

Tolerance is an indispensable "nutrient" for mental health and also a kind of life wisdom. Tolerance includes tolerating oneself and tolerating others. In life, mistakes often occur. People are not sages, and there is no fault. Life is always unsatisfactory. If you criticize yourself or others blindly, you may not live a day. Therefore, tolerance is very important. If you make a mistake, you can take a warning and try not to make mistakes in the future. If someone else makes a mistake or does something inappropriate, you should also understand him from the other side's point of view. While being considerate of others, you will also build a good mood for yourself. There are many kinds of life, and everything will inevitably go well. Unnamed fire and discouragement often accompany each other. Tolerance is a magic weapon to get rid of all kinds of troubles and relieve psychological pressure. But tolerance is not an escape, it is a process of re-accumulating strength.

4. Strong beliefs and lofty ideals

Strong beliefs and ideals are important spiritual "nutrients" and also the spiritual pillar and source of strength in life. The power of faith and ideal is amazing, and it is especially important for psychology. In the journey of life, we often encounter all kinds of setbacks and failures, and we will fall into some unexpected difficulties. At this time, if we have strong beliefs and lofty ideals, it is like having a psychological balancer, which can help people maintain a stable state of mind, spend frustrations and setbacks, and prevent them from deviating from the track of life and getting out of psychological gloom.

with strong beliefs and lofty ideals, there will be lofty realm and sentiment, which are the basis of a healthy attitude towards life. And with a healthy attitude towards life, there will be a healthy mental state. Pursuing and building a healthy attitude towards life is very traditional in China. Some viewpoints of Confucius more than 2, years ago are not out of date now, which is especially instructive for pursuing and building a healthy attitude towards life. Confucius said, "A gentleman seeks Tao but not food, and a gentleman worries about Tao but not poverty." It means that a moral person pursues the true meaning of life, not material enjoyment; Therefore, moral people are also worried that the true meaning of life will not be implemented, rather than worrying about the lack of living materials. He added, "The benevolent is not worried, the knowledgeable is not confused, and the brave is not afraid." It means that a moral person will not worry all day, a wise person will not be troubled by the world, and a courageous person will not be afraid of the challenges of life. He said, "I don't complain about heaven, I don't care about others." It means that when you encounter difficulties and everything fails, you should not bury your grievances and appoint too many people. He said: "Being rich and expensive is what people want. If you don't get it by its way, you can't get it anywhere. "Poverty and meanness are the evils of human beings. If you don't learn from them, you can't go." It means that everyone is willing to be rich and expensive, but if wealth can only be obtained through improper means, this wealth is willing to be rejected; Everyone hates poverty and meanness, but if you can't get rid of poverty and meanness through proper channels, just be willing to be poor and mean. He himself "forgot to eat when he was angry, and he was happy to forget his worries", that is to say, in order to pursue the true knowledge of life, he even forgot to eat; Always keep an optimistic spirit, that is, stay away from troubles. "A gentleman benefits without cost, works without complaint, and desires without greed." It means that people with morality will benefit from the general trend of society; In pursuit of the true meaning of life, no matter how hard you pay, you don't complain; Desire is restrained and will not develop to the point of greed. Ceng Zi, a disciple of Confucius, also made a wonderful remark about this. He said, "Scholars have to be faithful, and they have a long way to go. Isn't it important to think that benevolence is your own responsibility? "Isn't it far to die?" It means, why does a person who pursues the sublime have to have a strong and decisive quality? Because there is a long way to go. What is a long way to go? That is to take the lofty pursuit of life as one's own responsibility and take it as a lifelong career. It can be seen that the core of these words is to be strict with yourself with high moral standards. It is required to be a man of noble morality, a man of pursuit, a generous man and a man of achievement. In particular, what Confucius said, "Don't care, don't be sure, don't be solid, don't care about me", is of great guiding significance to mental health. In the present words, don't take it for granted, don't be stubborn, don't be arrogant and take everything as your own opinion.

5. Building self-confidence

Self-confidence belongs to the category of self-awareness in psychology. Self-awareness refers to a person's understanding of himself and his surroundings, including self-awareness, self-monitoring, self-evaluation, self-experience, self-education and self-control. Mature self-awareness can correctly realize one's physical condition and psychological activities, and feel one's position and value in society.

The level of self-confidence is related to many factors. Physiological characteristics (such as gender, height, weight, etc.) will affect self-confidence, among which height has the greatest influence on self-confidence, which is closely related to social needs. At present, when many employers recruit employees, in addition to academic qualifications, tall people often give priority to employment, and many people also regard height as an important condition when looking for a partner. These factors can lead to the tall people feel good about themselves, and the short people lack confidence. Gender has sometimes become an important factor affecting self-confidence. Among students, the level of self-confidence of boys is obviously higher than that of girls in many aspects, for example, boys show gender superiority and self-confidence in sports. Economic conditions and social status are also important factors affecting self-confidence. People with good economic conditions and high social status are respected by people in society and feel good about themselves. On the contrary, it is discriminated and negatively evaluated by others. In addition, those with poor economic conditions have prominent family conflicts and more negative life events, and the pressure from family and society as negative feedback also reduces a person's self-confidence level.

how can we build good self-confidence?

(1) adjust self-awareness. Firmly believe that "I can do it" and "I will be able to do it well". If you defeat yourself psychologically, you will defeat your opponent in action.

(2) Establish a confident external image. Proper dress, posture, language and manner can fully express inner self-confidence.

(3) Don't be too modest. Modesty is necessary, but it should not be excessive. It is extremely unfavorable to belittle yourself too much to cultivate your confidence, and no one wants to listen to discouraging words all the time.

(4) foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. This is an effective way to build self-confidence. Whether studying, working or doing business, we should seize the opportunity to give full play to our strengths and specialties, correct our shortcomings and make continuous progress, which will certainly enhance our self-confidence. But don't aim too high, do what you can, because if you aim too high, you won't succeed easily, which will dampen your self-confidence.

(5) persevere and don't give up easily. Nothing in the world can be achieved overnight, and all success is inseparable from persistence. Persistence itself is also a sign of self-confidence.

6. Know Humor

Humor is a catalyst for a good mood and a kind of life wisdom. It can turn troubles into happiness, pain into pleasure, embarrassment into nature, alleviate contradictions and conflicts in life, bring cheerful emotions to people and get out of psychological difficulties. A little humor and fun at the right time can not only stretch one's mind, but also untie the depression in others' hearts and play a positive role in resolving anxiety. Humor can turn depression into joy and make a tense relationship harmonious. Reading, listening to cross talk, watching entertainment programs or comedies can certainly benefit people from humor, but it is more important to cultivate their sense of humor consciously. In society, when there is a deadlock in interpersonal communication, humorous behavior and humorous language can turn difficulties and embarrassment into ease and freedom, thus relaxing mental tension and easing the atmosphere, and humor can promote the development of interpersonal relationships; In a family, humor can help members to be harmonious and united. When encountering setbacks, we can start humorous wisdom to relieve anxiety and get rid of difficulties.

7. Stay happy

There are always more unpleasant things in life than satisfactory things. How can you be happy? If people have enough wisdom, they can find elements of happiness from unpleasant things, even if they are having fun in hardships, it is much better than sitting in the city of sorrow all day. Happiness can be created, and the most common ones, such as helping others, being contented and enjoying oneself, include adaptability and creativity. Helping others, there are many people and things that need help in reality. As long as they are compassionate and do not seek fame and fortune, they can always find such things. Happiness lies in contentment, which requires a normal mind and self-satisfaction. If you have more than enough, you can maintain emotional stability. Enjoying oneself requires spiritual sustenance, pursuit and humor. No matter what kind of difficulties you face, you can keep looking for happiness.

Some people have summed up that there are ten kinds of happiness in life. Besides these three kinds, there are: ① Family happiness: husband and wife love each other, brothers are close, sisters-in-law are harmonious, children are filial, and elders are kind, which often fills their own little world with warmth; 2 sports music: As the saying goes, if you want to be healthy, practice every day. Exercise can not only promote health, but also create a good mood and good physical feeling; Chatting music: chatting with people moderately is a positive way to rest, which can also strengthen the brain, enhance interpersonal relationships, reduce pain and troubles, and get psychological balance; ④ Tolerance and forbearance: As the saying goes, "forgiving others is not an idiocy" and "letting people not lose money". "A gentleman tolerates what others can't tolerate, tolerates what others can't tolerate, and treats what others can't." Strengthen moral cultivation, learn to deal with problems calmly and rationally, and be as tolerant as possible in the face of some unprincipled right and wrong; ⑤ Forgetting the Happy New Year: Older people may wish to forget their age from time to time, keep a young mind, and don't be old-fashioned when dressing up. Make more friends with young people regardless of their age, not only can they be infected by youthful vitality, but also can follow.