Just like a clock, except that the shaft of the hour hand is loose inside, no matter how the second hand turns, it is allowed to have an accurate scale; It's like a dart target, but there is no red heart in the middle. No matter how you throw it, you can't get full marks.
At the beginning, we worked so hard and were so eager to go to college, but now it has come true, but we are beginning to feel depressed and even want to give up this opportunity that we have spent countless days and nights fighting for.
Recently, I have been thinking about what the meaning of university is, whether it is to get a good grade, become a very powerful person or a paper diploma.
I don't think so.
The first meaning of college lies in yourself, not the teacher.
The so-called university just lets you know that what kind of person you want to be in the future depends entirely on yourself. Your own life is your own decision, and others can't give it to you. You must never expect someone to pull you out of the mud. To heal the wounded and rescue the dying, we must first learn to save ourselves.
I have heard too many complaints about the irresponsibility of university teachers. To tell the truth, I occasionally complain about a teacher's teaching quality, but I know from my heart that college learning lies in self-study. The university teacher is just a guide, just like a stepping stone, just to open a door for you. As for what is in the cracks, you need to explore it yourself.
University teachers are not as strict as junior high school teachers, asking you what to do with a three-foot ruler in their hands. He won't ask you to find out like a junior high school teacher, and he won't care about your grades. None of these university teachers can.
The university teacher seems a little unkind. Maybe they just want to polish you well in advance, cultivate your self-education and self-defeating consciousness in such a cruel way, and then send you confidently and boldly to the society.
Liao Yimei said in "A Clumsy Life Like Me": "School can't teach you the outlook on life, nor can it teach you the expression. These things can't be taught, but college is very important. College is the most important period in your life, because many of your things are formed in college, but you can't expect anyone to educate you or get inspiration from anyone. The most essential thing is self-education. "
The purpose of college education is not only to let you learn professional knowledge, but more importantly, to let you know the degree of knowledge mastery and how much effort you have made.
The significance of going to college is not to let you find out how irresponsible university teachers are and how "casual" university education is, but to let you realize how important you are.
University can't teach you to be a man or to be worldly, but it can teach you to be yourself.
Universities are places where talented people come forth in large numbers. You often feel as small as an ant and out of place with others. It makes you constantly question and deny yourself. But in this process of constant self-doubt, what it wants you to understand is that no matter how insignificant and humble you are, you should be yourself, don't get lost and don't be humble.
To tell the truth, I often envy those talented women who are proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and think that they are attracting attention and have a magnetic field that makes people fascinated and admired. I used to want to be them, but with the maturity of my heart, I gradually understand that I can't be others, I can only be myself, and I am getting better and better on the road to becoming myself.
Maybe, I can't play a musical instrument, I can't finish a dance, I can't practice a kind of calligraphy, but so what. I still envy others, but I can only be myself.
Don't sell yourself short just because others are glamorous.
I will not give up my efforts because of the ordinary smallness.
We can't be others, because others have done it, and we can only be ourselves. "Being yourself" is to let you follow your heart and accept your own ordinary.
University makes you understand that loneliness is a compulsory course, and it is a very advanced course from adapting to loneliness to enjoying it.
"A high school for a group of people, a university for one person." This sentence is quite puzzling, but it is true. Accustomed to a dormitory in high school * * * using daily necessities, accustomed to a group of people getting together to gossip, accustomed to pumping back various test sites. You can go to college alone, eat alone, go shopping alone, review alone and talk alone.
It's hard to accept this from high school to college. But "loneliness" is a compulsory course for you to go to college. As for the final grade and high grade point, it depends on your self-cultivation ability.
In college, being gregarious is an ability, but not being gregarious doesn't mean you are eccentric. Never put other people's standards on yourself, it will be very tired. Although loneliness is not something to show off, it is not shameful.
The so-called growth is the process from adapting to loneliness to enjoying loneliness.
University can't teach you how to dispel your confusion, but it can let you learn to take a good path even if you are confused.
I often receive private messages such as "I am very confused, what should I do". I'm sorry, I can't give you a substantive solution to the confused problem. Because, I am often confined to this dilemma. But what I want to tell you is that some people take the opportunity to fall in confusion, while others are still struggling in confusion. I hope you are the latter.
Confusion is a normal state of life. Every stage has its own confusion, but it becomes sharper or weaker as you constantly upgrade and fight monsters. It all depends on how firm your own beliefs are.
Some people can continue to run in confusion, so that others have no feeling at all. Some people are noisy, but they can't move.
University makes you understand that reading is not the only way out, but it is a relative shortcut.
I used to hear such exciting words as "a poor family gives birth to a noble child", but recently this concept has been subverted and replaced by "a poor family gives birth to a noble child".
In fact, whether the poor can have your son should not be a tit-for-tat topic. In the past, poor people could change their fate through reading, but now they can, but the probability is getting smaller and smaller and the difficulty is getting bigger and bigger.
What I want to tell you is that reading is not the only way out. "Thirty-six lines, each line is the best" is not unreasonable, but reading may be a less hard road for you and me.
University lets you know that the world is always bigger than you think. It may not give you much knowledge, but it will certainly give you some insight.
Before I went to college, I thought the world was as big as our county, and all the best resources and talents were gathered here. After studying in college, I understand that the world will always be bigger than I imagined, and horizon, contacts and resources will always be an endless superposition factor. These things need to enter a more advanced learning stage or a wider place to understand. And universities are such a platform.
University is a springboard for you to go to a wider place, see a bigger world, realize your own shortcomings, and then explore those blind spots of your knowledge.
College may not be your most knowledgeable time. After all, we have passed the third year of "knowing astronomy above and geography below". The knowledge learned in college is relatively more professional and narrower. It requires you to strive for perfection and specialize in one of them.
However, after most people go to college, they don't learn their majors well, and others are confused. Over time, it will give people the illusion that it is useless to go to college.
After going to college, you may not know what kind of life you want, but it will make you clear what kind of life you don't want to live. In order not to fall into a life you don't like, you should also work hard. This is probably one of the charms of the university.
Get married early without going to college.
In our town, I am an "older woman". Many girls my age are married and have children. It's terrible to think about it. I'm still half-baked, but I want to start getting married and having children. Since then, I have been haggling over milk powder, rice, oil and salt.
I don't mean to look down on it here. Everyone has his own life, and his own path is different. To tell the truth, I admire those who have not studied early, but still kept themselves and pursued their dreams. How much pressure they have endured and how much effort they have made.
Because in a small place, if you don't get married after graduating from junior high school, you will be urged to get married by all kinds of punishments and become a joke of others after dinner.
In our place, many people get married because they are old enough, not because they meet the love of marriage.
I think, the meaning of going to college is not to meet someone, but to meet a better self, to keep myself independent and sober, independent, sensitive and self-aware.
Going to college is not the only way in life, but since there is an opportunity, we should seize it firmly, don't give up easily, and don't go to depravity at will.
Everyone's college has everyone's way of reading. What matters is not which university you went to, but what you did there.
When I have experienced four seasons, seen the campus and met all kinds of people, I gradually understand that the thin word "going to college" is not limited to study, but also an attitude.
What kind of people we are and what kind of people we will become are gradually floating on the surface between giving up and grasping. What really matters in college is not only the diploma, but what we have caught, missed, regretted, regretted and realized in every minute of four years.
I've been thinking about what I'll leave behind in that land after four years of college-my roommates who I can't give up, the footprints that I shuttled back and forth, and what I'll take away-a brand-new self that I built by myself and sent to the society for inspection and judgment, and needs to bear more responsibilities and consequences.