After the new book sharing meeting, a mother came to me with a book. I thought it was for signature. On closer inspection, it turned out to be a mother tongue exercise book. My mother asked me to see how the child's handwriting was first.
Chinese characters written in pencil stop neatly in the middle of the grid, and the strokes are the same thickness. It seems to be written by mechanical pencil, and the proportions of all parts in the text are perfect. Although not as attractive as hard-pen calligraphy, it reveals maturity beyond children's age.
"This word is very nice! Very neat, it should be no problem to take a pen and pick it up! " I appreciate and answer.
"Teacher, you look carefully and erase every word! I watched carefully through the dim yellow light of the meeting place. Indeed, there are faint writing marks under the beautiful words, but the strokes are not far from the finished words. If you don't look carefully, you will think it is a three-dimensional figure!
"His handwriting is not good-looking, so you wiped it? It seems that the mother asked the child to write beautifully!
"no! He wiped it himself, and every time he wrote his homework, he didn't have time to write other homework. He could only wait until midnight! " Mom answered with a sad face! When I began to enlighten my mother not to be an "eraser parent", I didn't know how to respond
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I sat my mother down and described the problem to me. It turns out that the child has been lively since childhood. Since elementary school, every time he writes Chinese characters, he always asks his mother to stare at him and help him erase and rewrite them, so every time he writes Chinese characters, he is very painful.
After entering the second grade of primary school, children begin to behave strangely, that is, every time they finish their Mandarin homework, they will pick up their erasers and erase them all and write them again! Even words that are beautifully written the first time will be erased. My mother once took her child to the psychiatric department for help. The doctor diagnosed the child with obsessive-compulsive disorder, which made her more worried and anxious.
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Because I didn't see the child, I couldn't reply to my mother immediately. I also made an appointment with my mother to bring me the baby. After some evaluations and interviews, I don't think this child has obsessive-compulsive disorder. Maybe there is something wrong with his upbringing!
I asked my mother to repeat the situation of checking and erasing words for children in the past, and found a problem, that is, my mother saw that the words written by children were ugly, so she directly picked up the eraser and said, "The words are so ugly, rewrite them! This kind of behavior seems to have no problem on the surface, but it is repeated over and over again, "ugly words, rewrite! "It's like hypnotizing a child and telling him that" your handwriting is too ugly, you have to rewrite it ",which leads the child to explain that his Mandarin homework must be rewritten to pass the exam. Plus, his mother didn't explain where the handwriting was ugly or the boasting was beautiful, so the children naturally erased it and rewritten it!
Sometimes, for the sake of children, we don't consider whether they receive the correct information or whether they understand the information we give them.
Once the child understands the mistake, it will cause the wrong behavior and even affect the child's academic performance! Facing the child in the story, I asked my mother to play a word game of "beauty and ugliness" with him. For the same word, mother and child use different fonts and strokes to write on a piece of paper, discuss which is more beautiful and which is uglier, and let the child know what the word accepted by mother looks like. I believe children can gradually avoid erasing and rewriting every word!