The reason why people suffer is that they do not understand the truth; they do not understand the truth of the universe and the laws of things; they do not understand the relationship between people; they do not It is caused by understanding human nature; failure to put oneself in others' shoes; closed and stubborn ideas, opposing ways of thinking, and self-centered values. We are always in a state of opposition and even antagonism to the public. Little do we know that to be opposed to one person is to be opposed to the public; to be opposed to the universe; to be opposed to one's own heart. In this way, we can only get further and further away from our happiness. The reason is that there is something wrong with our mentality: dissatisfaction, melancholy, impetuousness, sorrow, complaint, resentment, hurt, hatred, anger... and even the desire to kill. At a deeper level, it is because we are too obsessed with ourselves, selfishness, fame and fortune, and the inherent rigid methods and habits of thinking from one perspective, one direction, and one standpoint that have been formed over many years. Even ten cows cannot be pulled back, and it is likely that the fish will die and the net will be broken.
The so-called "personality" means that a person must be qualified. Only through pain can I further expand my great love, open my mind, hone my will, sharpen my eyes, succeed in my life, and create my glorious future. We should learn to be content and grateful. I can love everyone in the world universally and selflessly, including all my opposites; my mind is like the sea, broader than the sea, my mind is like the universe, integrated with the universe, integrated with heaven and earth, and can hold All things in the world can accommodate all people in the world, and can accommodate the sun, moon and stars! In this world, the biggest thing is actually our heart; the smallest thing is still our heart. Qi Gong, the former chairman of the Chinese Calligraphy Association and a professor at Peking University, was classified as a "rightist" at that time. A gentleman was very active in criticizing Qi Gong. Later, when he saw Qi Gong, he felt very embarrassed. Qi Gong comforted him and said: "At that time It's like acting, let you play Zhuge Liang, let me play Ma Di, and the play is over." From this, Qi Gong was so magnanimous to those who criticized him at the time, and his understanding of life was so thorough! In real life, always be "a person who is free from vulgar taste, a noble person, a moral person, and a person who is beneficial to the people." At this moment, we are the reincarnation of the saint; we are awakened in a moment of thought; No longer clinging to mistakes is enlightenment; no distinction is wisdom; being able to tolerate everyone is achievement and glory.
For decades, the Mao and Liu families have been magnanimous and disregarded grudges. Mao Zedong's grandson Mao Xinyu was promoted to major general. At the conferment ceremony, he was conferred the title by Liu Yuan, Liu Shaoqi's son. After Jiang Qing's daughter Li Na got divorced, she returned to Beijing with her young son to live alone. Her life was very difficult. She only had to buy meat for ten cents a day, a quilt for each person, and half a bed and half a blanket. When I was most short of money, I sold my favorite books to a used bookstore. Wang Guangmei, who had just finished 12 years behind bars, heard that Li Na was seriously ill and could hardly take care of herself. Regardless of her frail body, she took her old nanny to Li Na's home to take care of her. She also took care of Li Na's seven or eight-year-old son Xiaozhi. Zhi takes him out to play. When some people knew that she was holding the grandson of Mao Zedong and Jiang Qing, they had mixed feelings. Although she has suffered many hardships and sorrows, Wang Guangmei never complains about others and always upholds her optimistic and tolerant character. She prompted the descendants of the Mao and Liu families to gradually become closer. She said: "I am the only elder in these two families. You are all my children and grandchildren. I can rest assured that everything is fine with you." One night in the summer of 2004, Wang Guangmei, who had never entertained others, told her: His son Liu Yuan invited Li Min and Li Na's family to have a meal. During the dinner, Wang Guangmei looked at the children kindly and asked with concern about the situation of Mao Anqing's family.
Everything depends on our mentality. Before we understand the truth, our xinxing is like an untamed wild horse, running around and kicking, not obedient at all. After slowly taming it, we can gradually be able to be ridden, and after being tamed, we can pull a cart, but still He often kicked and kicked people; after repeated taming for a long time, he finally took the initiative to pull the cart and stopped kicking people. He was docile and submissive. This is a long and painful taming process. We have to tame our own character like a tiger. In fact, the tempering of our character is also such a long and painful process. It is said in "The Records of Famous Virtues" that if you are not comfortable as an adult, you will not be a mature person if you are comfortable. "Heaven is going to bring great events to this people. It will strain their bones and muscles, starve their body and skin, and deplete their bodies. They will mess up what they do and gain what they cannot." "In the past, Xibo (King Wen of Zhou) Juyou (you) Here, he performed "The Book of Changes"; Confucius (hungry) and Chen Cai wrote "Spring and Autumn"; Qu Yuan exiled "Li Sao"; Zuoqiu Jue (jvecai), who was blind, wrote "Guoyu"; Sun Tzu put his feet on the ground and discussed "The Art of War"; no Wei Qian Shu, "Lu Lan"; Han Fei imprisoned in Qin, "Speaking of Difficulties and Lonely Anger"; "Poetry" 300 chapters, most of them are the actions of sages and sages. "Real family life and real social life are. No one can escape from the melting pot where our hearts are tempered. There is no way to heaven and no door to earth. No matter you are a king or a commoner, no matter you are a rich man or a beggar, no matter you are a man or a woman, unless you do not live on earth and go to Living alone on an alien planet. The phoenix attains nirvana in the blazing fire, and its mind shines brightly in the furnace.
The earth is my mother, I will embrace the earth, the vast and beautiful vegetation is my hair, the endless rivers are my blood, the vast soil is my muscles, the white and majestic snow-capped mountains The blue sky is my father, I will embrace the blue sky, the sun, moon and stars are my most cherished heart. Infinite cells of light, I am the blue sky, I am the white clouds, I am the spring breeze, I have no obstacles, I soar freely in the universe, I am integrated with the blue sky. I found myself in the coordinates of time and space - this is my real root, my real home! Whether it is good times or bad times; whether it is pain or happiness; whether it is thorns or flowers... these are all indispensable life elements for our beautiful life home. I will never waste my life, the full value of our lives. It is to help everyone eliminate all pain as much as possible; to give everyone spiritual snacks! Worry first when the world is worried, then be happy when the world is happy!
An effective way to eliminate troubles and pain is to use famous quotes from life to often remind yourself, enlighten yourself, hint to yourself, remind yourself, and unlock yourself—that is, the process of awakening. Gradually cultivate your own great love, understanding, contentment, gratitude, and humility - this is the golden key to open the door to happiness! In fact, life does not lack happiness and joy, but lacks the insight and love to discover happiness and joy! Who will open it? I can only be myself, I cannot replace you. I am just telling you the truth and giving you the method of unlocking the lock. The specific action must be our own. To untie the bell, you must tie the bell; to unlock the lock, you must lock the person. When greed, hatred, arrogance, suspicion, fame and wealth, jealousy, hatred, harm, revenge, and murder arise - it opens the door to trouble and pain, and opens the door to spiritual death. Opened the door to hell! The opening and closing of what we mentioned above happens in our own minds. Situations are created by the mind, and situations are transformed by the mind. It’s really a thought of hell and a thought of heaven! Lao Tzu said: "The Tao can be Tao, but it is not Tao; the name can be named, but it is not named." Confucius said: "He who hears the Tao in the morning will die in the evening." This shows how important it is to understand the principles of life.
I sincerely hope that all of us can eliminate bad ideas and cut off wealth, sex, fame, and wealth. Combining theory with practice, combining speaking with doing, combining learning with life. In particular, be careful in handling relationships with family, relatives, friends, neighbors, and colleagues. Try to be more humble, tolerant, and consider things from the perspective of the other party, and everything will be easier to solve. If we persist in doing this for a long time, happiness and auspiciousness will be right in front of us. I think everyone will get this happy and auspicious magic weapon in the near future. Don't do good deeds just because they're small, don't do them because they're small evil deeds, don't do any evil, and do all the good deeds. In this way, you will find the true value of life, the origin of life, and the foundation of your own happiness!
3. Effective methods to adjust your mentality and control your emotions
1. Keep learning, understand how to be a human being, and cultivate your own heart of love, tolerance and understanding. . Improve your level and realm as a person. When a person has great love, a great mind, and a great vision, troubles and pains will disappear.
2. If you often help others, you will get happiness deep in your soul; this happiness will offset your own negative emotions.
3. Talking to close friends and having a conversation with you is worth ten years of reading. If the effect is good, one communication can eliminate years of accumulated inner troubles and pain, and quickly open the window to the soul. From "there is no way out despite the mountains and rivers" to "there is another village with dark flowers and bright flowers".
4. Heat problems should be treated coldly. Don't rush to deal with the problem when you are angry. It is easy to be irrational at this time.
5. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes and look at the problem from the other person’s perspective. You may have a good answer.
6. Adjust your life and rest habits and avoid doing meaningless things. Such as gambling, games, etc. Go to bed early and get up early. No less than 5 hours of sleep per day.
7. Exercise appropriately and go for walks in the countryside and by the water. Anger is caused by an imbalance of yin and yang in the body. Adjusting the fire with water and drinking more water are all effective methods.
8. Eat less or no meat and fried foods; eat more vegetable foods with high water content. Especially don't drink alcohol or smoke. These things can make people lose their minds and harm their bodies.
9. Self-control, self-regulation, and self-unlocking. Chinese medicine says: Anger hurts the liver, sadness hurts the lungs, surprise and sadness hurt the kidneys. Peace of mind and no harm to the body.
10. Listening to soothing and beautiful music can adjust your mood.
11. Read a helpful motto every morning. For example: Troubles occur every day, and they will disappear if you don’t pick them up; why should I worry about such a trivial matter: I want to melt myself and the whole world with love.
12. Get up and sing a song that is good for your physical and mental health every day.
13. Don’t be too full at each meal. Eat 7 to 8 grams and it will be enough; eating too much will put a heavy burden on the gastrointestinal tract, and cerebral ischemia will make you drowsy and easy to do confused things.
14. Sit quietly for a while every day and empty your body and mind. You will gain great wisdom and deal with things very rationally.
15. Change your way of thinking and methods. Don’t be too stubborn or rigid; you must be principled and flexible.
16. Ask for and listen to other people’s opinions and suggestions, and think twice before acting.
17. Sit quietly for a while with your eyes closed every night or every week, and reflect on the words and deeds of the day or week, those mistakes, those that are inappropriate, and need to be corrected. Confucius said that it makes sense for me to examine myself three times a day.
18. Make your own decisions about your own body and mind. Don’t follow trends or fashions; many trends and fashions cannot stand the test of time and history and are wrong.
19. There are three hurdles in life: wealth, sex, and power. Be indifferent to fame and fortune, greed is the root of all evil.
20. Start by honoring your parents, washing their feet, and serving your parents, and then go on to "I am an old person and I am the old person, and a young person is my young person and I am the young person."
21. Reading the "Chinese Traditional Culture Forum" online is of great benefit and may change a lifetime of troubles and pain.
4. Proverbs for harvesting happiness