1. First of all, parents should make it clear that interest classes are children's interests, not parents' interests, not others' interests, and not the interests needed by schools.
In China, the biggest problem for many parents is to compare with each other, see what other people's children learn, and ask their children to learn better than others. There are also some parents who want their children to inherit their hobbies.
Your own clothes, or you wanted to learn but didn't have the opportunity to learn, and you wanted your children to fulfill your dreams ... These practices fundamentally ignored that it was children who took interest classes, not from their interests and specialties.
Follow the trend blindly. It doesn't matter if the child doesn't reject it, but if the child has a strong rebellious mood, not only the money will be wasted, but also the parent-child relationship will be destroyed. With the various benefits of wheat
During the break, I saw some children crying from time to time, being dragged by their parents and even being beaten and scolded into the classroom. Every time I see such a scene, I can't help frowning and wonder why those parents are here. exist
In this state, what interest and happiness do children have? Therefore, you can refer to other people's opinions when you enroll your children in interest classes, but in the end it should be your interest or choice, not the needs of adults.
There is still hope!
2. Secondly, when applying for interest classes, we should choose the teaching methods that children like on the premise of their feelings.
Although parents have done a lot of understanding in advance and are willing to sign up for classes according to their children's interests, they are still at a loss when choosing interest classes. There are hundreds of training institutions in the same major in the market, which one is good? I
I think word of mouth is an important measure, but under the same word of mouth, we should choose the teaching environment and teaching methods that children prefer. Only when children can truly integrate into the classroom and actively participate in classroom teaching interaction can it be possible.
You can learn something useful, otherwise, if children just sit there blankly, or look around, or wander too much, no matter how vivid the teacher says, it is a waste of time and life. Fortunately, the current educational institutions are all
You can listen to the audition, which is the best way to understand the course. Instead of listening to others say a thousand sentences, it is better to let the children experience it themselves. Every interest class I give to Wheat News will let him audition first, and then let him decide whether he can attend or not. Like when
When we first signed up for art class, we went to two well-known training institutions. One is the creative beauty of wheat field painting, which is actually guided by creative thinking and adopts the teaching form of artistic games.
Art, playing with mud, flour, glue, paint, sand and food in class ... In short, there are not many "decent works" in various plays. After more than a year of classes, I have only recently begun to have a little painting skills.
Smart study, but laughter from the classroom often echoes throughout the training center. The other is a training institution that teaches children's painting skills, with more guidance in color, composition, point-line-surface relationship, perspective and so on.
Courses are also varied, such as mud, glass, pottery, paint, food ... But the first requirement of teachers in class is to keep quiet as much as possible. To be honest, if I want to grow wheat and take the road of painting, I prefer it.
In the second room, because it is easier to see the results of painting here, both auditions brought back a work, and both of them were framed and hung on the wall. Ten people will say that the second painting is more beautiful, but from the perspective of children's skill development,
From the point of view, the first painting is the painting language that a three-and-a-half-year-old child should have.
From the perspective of art education, our imagination may be limited if we focus on learning techniques. And very importantly, I promised to leave the choice after the audition to Mai, and Mai also told me clearly.
Told me that he liked the first class better, so I postponed it for two months, trying to dilute wheat's consciousness with time in order to find a chance to convince him. Look, parents always want their children to obey their own will involuntarily, and so do I.
There are no exceptions. But in the end, my son firmly said that he would apply for the first issue, and he liked the second issue, but he didn't go to the second issue until the first issue was over two years later. He was surprised that he realized the plan himself.
Really or just talking? ..... Of course, in the end, Wheat got his wish. In order not to delay his playing time, I chose a kindergarten for him near school and went to the kindergarten to pick him up two hours in advance every school day. the same
Two hours, if the kindergarten is a simple and free activity step by step, then washing hands, eating, waiting for school and changing shifts, although only 1 hour, you can imagine that the children are covered in glue.
Crawling around like a loach in a classroom with water and mud? Sprinkle flour into the air and stick it all over your face? The whole body is covered with paint ... Although it is troublesome to wash clothes every time, the child's nature is released quickly.
Music makes it hard for parents not to be moved!
3. Third, don't force or stop when you enroll in an interest class, but enough is enough.
Most of the classes are not accompanied by parents, so I have hardly taken any photos in class. This is a photo of wheat and his teacher in the classroom after winning the gold cup in the first promotion competition.
As mentioned at the beginning, many parents who advocate free-range care think that enrolling their children in interest classes is to encourage them. I think this view is a bit extreme. In my opinion, only when children's ability can't meet the learning requirements or they are not interested in what they have learned.
Interesting, but forcing children to study or even make achievements is called pulling out seedlings to encourage them. On the contrary, if children like it and have some talents, if parents blindly block it, it will also limit their growth and development.
This is irresponsible. The child's talent is only a few years. Without proper protection and guidance, it will gradually disappear. Therefore, if children are found to have abilities beyond ordinary people in some way,
Parents should still provide appropriate opportunities and conditions for their children's growth, such as giving Mai Bao a Go class. Although I also think it is good for boys to learn Go, it can train their logical thinking ability and make them calm down.
Steady, but I always think it should be at least after 6 or 7 years old, depending on his personal interest and understanding. Unexpectedly, wheat was 4 years old and 3 months old last Spring Festival. Because of the holiday, he relaxed the restrictions on watching TV. As a result, he
Inadvertently saw the lecture on Go on TV, and I was fascinated at once. After I came back, I dawdled and told my husband some knowledge about Go, and I followed the book. Then play outside in summer and chat with a little brother who is 4 or 5 years older than him. When it comes to going, I just
Well, the boy is studying, so the two brothers discuss with each other. The next time the younger brother attends class, Mai will go to the teacher's house for an audition. I am just an executor. I took the wheat to see the Go teacher at the time agreed by the two brothers, but I didn't expect to go with the old one.
The teacher hit it off and started the road of Go.
At first, I was worried that the two-hour class would still be challenging for the four-and-a-half-year-old wheat, but every time I went to the teacher's house to pick up the wheat, the teacher would praise him and say that he was steady and serious in learning chess, which really surprised me.
He is often at home, but he is not very honest. I think I should study in this case. It's been half a year. Of course, he has made great progress and achieved some good results, which is entirely due to his own understanding of Go.
Love and a little understanding, but I actually just provided him with a chance to learn.
Besides Go and Creative Arts, Mai is also learning Taekwondo, swimming and English, and these interest classes are also decided by himself. For example, creative art takes up kindergarten time and art games, which Mai only thinks.
Fun never makes you feel tired, but taekwondo and swimming are all for fitness and don't waste your brain. I just hope that wheat can have more language environment and cultivate a sense of language, so I usually listen to the CD distributed in the class and listen to it at will.
I really want to have a simple talk with him, and I don't need to review it deliberately. Only Go really needs to go home to practice and play chess, but I almost never ask him, because it is his favorite, and he doesn't need me at all.
Instead, they remind us that he often grinds us to play chess with him. To this end, Dad Mai and Grandpa Mai hold their mobile phones to the computer every day and chase after playing chess, but they still shorten the gap bit by bit until they are overtaken by Mai.
Yes. So I think at present, Mai's extracurricular class seems to be quite busy, but he doesn't feel pressured. Once I asked him if he was tired from taking so many classes because he was worried. He said he was tired sometimes, especially taekwondo and swimming.
But I asked him if he wanted to study less, and he didn't agree. Even if he later said that he would not learn English, it was to switch to piano.
Taekwondo training classroom is a multi-functional classroom with a piano, each of which
The next time I go to Taekwondo, Mai wants to play the piano whenever he has time. Once, he caught up with his good friend Yuanyuan to have a piano lesson. At that time, Yuanyuan had just learned, so the content of the class was very boring, just repeated training on a certain scale.
But Maizi sat quietly listening to 1 hour, not allowed to talk, not allowed to touch the piano, but only listened and watched quietly, which is really not easy for children under 5 years old. ...
In fact, he told me to learn piano long ago, and recently he added hard pen calligraphy. His hobbies are too wide for me, so I stopped without hesitation. I think it's good that he is interested, but books
Methods and piano need to be practiced regularly and quantitatively every day. If he does sign up and takes up too much time playing with toys, he will regret it. So after making it clear to Mai, he decided to study, but he had to put it aside for a while.
At my own request, we agreed not to enroll in English classes next year, and the course of creative art came to an end. If we still want to learn piano, we will start over. As for calligraphy, I tried, and Wheat felt it.
It's good. I have been asking when I can go to class these two days. Children aged 5 or 6 are really old enough to learn to write. According to the teacher, if children wait for school, they will learn to write and practice calligraphy, and the font strokes have been
With your own habits, it is not easy to practice. It is better to let children lay a good foundation when they start learning to write and start learning horizontally and vertically. In contrast, preschool children have more patience and time, and it is difficult for children after school to be practical.
Sit down and practice writing. I think the teacher taught me well and what he said was quite reasonable. I have a deep understanding of this. I haven't practiced calligraphy, and of course I can't tutor my children. Besides, the place where I study is next to the kindergarten. Go out 3.
Minutes won't waste time, but I'm still hesitating. If I really enroll my child in school, plus the six extra-curricular classes I have studied before, even if I don't have any learning requirements for him, even if he likes and is willing to learn, there are still.
More, so I finally decided to wait.
Fourth, allow children's interests to change, but first find out the reasons and don't change at will.
Wheat's Taekwondo class was taught by two teachers before and after the change of classes.
The way to practice in class is slightly different. The latter coach is relatively young, lacks some patience, and is more severe and has greater training intensity. So Mai once wanted to give up Taekwondo. Later, through communication with the coach, he was right.
Wheat was encouraged. After a period of running-in, wheat adapted to the training of the new coach. Although he occasionally shouts that he doesn't study because of hard work during training, he actually does well in class, and although
There is only one class per week, but the physical balance and agility have been obviously improved.
Many children may not be very clear about their interests and are often fickle. They may just find a topic interesting and interested for a while, but they will soon move again. Some children may be interested in something for a while.
If parents also want their children to have some specialties, they need to pay more attention to their personality characteristics and help them find what they are good at; At the same time, it can also provide one more child.
Some opportunities, let them contact more interest classes, have more choices, and find their own interests in the process of learning. There may be many reasons why children don't want to go to interest classes, even if they choose.
Like it, there may be changes in the middle, which is normal. Parents should not worry that the registration fee will be wasted, but they should not let their children have deep pockets. In this case, parents should not worry.
Angry, but we should first understand the reasons, whether the children really don't like it, are interested in transferring, or want to give up because of difficulties in the learning process, or even just vent their emotions in a bad mood. Anyway,
Parents should calmly accept their children's ideas, but if it is the former, it is best to insist on completing the subjects they are studying even if they change their interest classes; If it is the latter two, parents should help their children as much as possible.
The son overcame difficulties, adjusted his mood and encouraged him to stick to it. In short, when parents choose interest classes for their children, they should try their best to grasp the scale according to their abilities and interests. They should not only give their children the opportunity to choose, but also stop.
Indulge children blindly, want to learn to learn, don't learn if you don't want to learn. If children are allowed to develop the problem that learning everything is a three-minute fever, parents will waste financial resources and energy, and it is difficult for children to really find their own interests, and it is easy to become.
Lack of perseverance and responsibility.
For example, at the beginning of applying for interested classes for wheat, I first screened out some interested classes for him to choose from according to his personality characteristics, then arranged for him to attend the audition class according to the subjects he chose, and finally he decided whether to study or not. Even if he watches
Now I am more excited and eager to learn, but before he decides, I will remind him of the troubles and gains and losses he may encounter in the learning process, especially the time and efforts he may lose playing with toys. Many parents want their children
Attending interest classes will blindly emphasize the benefits of interest classes, and dare not tell children about the possible lost play time or the difficulties they will encounter, which will often lead children to feel cheated and start to feel emotional after attending interest classes, especially that one.
After these classes, there will be a lot of exercises, and there will be various interest classes for grading and competitions, such as musical instruments and chess. Then tell him that once he pays for the registration, he must stick to it until the end of a semester, because this is him.
Your own choice, and you must follow it in later classes. This not only helps to cultivate a child's perseverance, but also helps him learn to be more cautious before making a decision and to be responsible for his words and deeds.
Responsibility. Therefore, when he found English more and more difficult and didn't want to continue studying, he never cried and made trouble with me. Instead, discuss with me whether I can finish this issue, not renew the fee next year, and still maintain a positive and enthusiastic state in class.
(Teacher's comment); Therefore, although his Taekwondo and swimming did not adapt to the change of coaches for different reasons, they had a rebellious mentality, but I helped him sort out his emotions in time and discussed the training content and intensity with the coaches.
After communication, he quickly recovered his confidence and insisted on attending the training on time; So I am more and more obsessed with Go. Almost every day, an adult will play chess with him. Adults don't have time, so they play chess against the pattern and admit it.
It's really cute ...
5, the last point is that there is no comparison, it is useless, and the grading competition is sidelined.
I'm not saying that I'm opposed to the competition for grade exams in interest classes. I just want to say that in cultivating children's interests, we should focus on how to guide and protect children's interests and talents, not on competitions and grade exams. about
Of course, you have to take part in grade exams and competitions, which can not only test your child's recent study, but also improve his on-the-spot experience and exercise his psychological quality, but remember that this is only for children.
One of the testing methods of one-stage learning, but not the only one, and because it has a certain chance to improvise, it can't fully explain the level of children's ability, so it can't be used as the only standard to measure children's ability, let alone.
It can be a bargaining chip for parents to compare with each other. Of course, as long as there is competition, there will be competition. As long as there is competition, there will be winners and losers. It is good for children to win the game, but parents and children are interested in the final result.
We should treat it with normality. Winning is the goal, and we can't let it become an emotional trader. In fact, no matter whether the game wins or loses, it is just like yesterday. We should take a long-term view and encourage children to work harder at ordinary times, but put them into real games.
Relax, let go of gains and losses, and pay more attention to the process than the result, so as to enjoy the happiness and honor brought by interest! If parents and children only focus on winning or losing, it is easy to lose their balance and lose interest.
The true meaning of words. I feel deeply about this, and I am grateful to my mother so far.