Learning to play chess, painting, and calligraphy are all ways to cultivate your mind and nature.
It’s because you are at a vigorous age in life. It is normal to have a bad temper. Don’t suppress it deliberately. Just find a way to squander the excess energy. If you concentrate on something, you will develop patience, but work slowly and carefully, don't rush.
For family members, it is because we all know that family members are people who will never betray us in our lives. No matter whether we lose our temper or do something wrong, it is always our family members who can forgive us N times. Just because we think we will have a lot of time with our families in the future, we don’t cherish the moments where we can communicate in front of us.
If you really want to make a good change, please do this - you must really want to change, otherwise you will treat me as PI.
When someone at home asks you and you are very impatient, lower your voice to 2/3, slow down your speaking speed to 2/3, and slowly count for 10 seconds before saying anything hurtful that you want to say. Decide whether to say it or not, (I am not cursing, there is no grudge) imagine that the family member you are talking to now will never see you again from tomorrow.
Will you still lose your temper with this family member?
It’s difficult.
I was 19 years old when my father was ill. The days when I took care of my father were the turning point in my growth from a teenager to an adult. Even though that night in the intensive care unit only lasted a few hours, I discovered that when I wet my father’s lips with gauze and water, a little more water could choke him, and coughing with water could cause his father to bleed again in his skull and die. At that time, my heart was shaking - I was scared, it was a fear that came from deep in my heart. I couldn't cry until I returned to the unit the next day. What kind of fear is that?
If the family member you are talking to is about to experience such a life-or-death situation, can you still yell at him or her?
If you really want some changes, please think about it seriously. How many reasons do you have to shout at them when they care about you?
Yes, I have shouted and been impatient, but now that I am an adult, I know that there are some things that must be adhered to and cannot be shaken. When it comes to family members, many times, there are no so-called principles. , some of them just accidentally asked about the things they wanted to avoid, but they still couldn't solve it, so they became angry from shame.
If you cannot escape the things in your heart, you must face them bravely and find ways to minimize the losses. I have a fond impression of a movie starring Andy Lau and Gigi Leung because of the mahjong spirit in it: even if you lose, you have to lose happily.
You will be happy when you lose and you won’t be so irritable. This takes time and no one can achieve it overnight. Because life matures in time, if you follow the above method, your maturity will come earlier than others.
You must know that no matter fame, wealth, or even love, you can have a future, but family members, especially parents, will have less and less time in the future, so treat them well.
Quiet your mind and don’t let the world affect your emotions. Or, give yourself an hour to sit quietly alone every day and think about it.
They will all be helpful to you. I hope you can let me know if you change. Relax and smile~