Some people say that this is a common problem of Scorpio's "possessiveness", but it is not entirely true. When I was a girl, no matter which girlfriend I was in tune with, doing homework, shopping, watching movies, eating, even getting a haircut and soaking in hot springs, I naturally wanted to participate. This may be a subconscious conditioned reflex. I want to ask her if she was wearing this dress before going out. In addition, if she gets closer to others, she will be unhappy in her heart, and this stubborn and naive mentality will accompany me unconsciously for many years.
Because I care, I rely on it, so I regard every drop as the whole of my life, and I can't tolerate a grain of sand.
As a result, I guess, often the friendship is not as good as I hope, but those in the class who bow to everyone and are naturally alienated have more allies.
It was not until a long time later that I realized that this is not only an attitude, but also a need to maintain appropriate independence and alienation from people and things. This state is like the picture in the favorite Little Stone Pond, "There are hundreds of fish in the pond, and there is nothing to rely on for swimming around in the air". Through a water curtain, we see a more agile and lively world. Although confined to Tan, they are very happy and enjoy themselves.
When reading, this state will bring calm and better thinking. We are surrounded by all kinds of reading materials every day, such as books, magazines, e-books and dynamic news-we inadvertently draw all kinds of information from our circle of friends, whether it is jokes or chicken soup. However, how many lines did you really read with your heart? The fact is that we have not been promoted by those "good articles with depth", nor have we been inspired by all kinds of dry goods to be amazing in action. So I prefer to read a few pages of books on philosophy or appreciation by myself in the evening, which takes a long time to think about a sentence. You suddenly saw it, it was amazing, but you didn't know it very well, but you remembered it. So, one day after a long time, you suddenly met it at a certain moment and suddenly realized. At this time, your heart is free and quiet, and the soup is inexhaustible. It is transparent enough to be penetrated by a beam of light, just like a crystal in a long river.
After work, this state will make you treat time and life better. Many times, our time division is just work and fatigue after work, and we forget life. We all want to be an interesting person. Even though we are crazy sometimes, we still love life and want to have everything and never get tired of it. In fact, the first thing you need is a hobby of your own. Attention is a hobby, not a craft, nor a leisure project. Don't be utilitarian. I quite agree with Zhuang Yating's definition of "hobby" in an article: "Reading, traveling and music are not hobbies, but leisure and entertainment. Hobbies refer to certain things, or skills that can be achieved by semi-professional groups after years of study. Running, baking, calligraphy, flower arrangement, drinking tea, collecting cups, etc. " It is real, can carry your life, give your body a place to put, and be happy spiritually. This is a valuable piece of hardware.
Really, you always like something, because it represents the life you yearn for. How many times has "slow life" been mentioned, but how many people in the city can really "follow the natural rhythm" and not be bound by the utilitarian rhythm of modern society? I'm afraid this is not entirely feasible in Lijiang, the originator. In fact, where there are so many talents, it is nothing more than love. At some point, I deeply thought I was good at it, and then I tried to do it well. At the same time, I have a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment in enjoying this process, so I like it more and more.
Your hobby conveys your taste on the other hand. And taste is a reference from the beginning. Who was born with a strange bone? After you can learn from it, you should learn to perceive it with your own attitude and style. Falling leaves and snow make everyone feel beautiful, but can you find that kind of casual beauty and those corners that are as beautiful as blowing dust but rarely mentioned? Everything is happy. Only when you think that the world is beautiful can you arouse the inner beauty. If you feel too tired at work, it may be because you have done something you are not good at. After work, I have a little hobby to adjust, which will definitely improve greatly.
Write a word when you come home from work, insert a bottle of flowers, bake it, draw a lovely cat by hand, or carve a rubber stamp with your heart. Time will flow slowly in your world. Although the frequency and time of going to the bookstore are getting less and less recently, I still like the atmosphere of staying there. Remember the interesting "secret garden phenomenon"? At that time, the first place in the bestseller list of major portal book platforms was this coloring book. At first, I was puzzled and even thought it was ridiculous. But then I thought, maybe in the reinforced concrete forest, this is a way for more people to cultivate their hobbies. Its existence makes many people have sustenance after work, and there is no distracting thought to seriously fill every blank in their hearts. This may not be a hobby, but it is a serious pastime. Such a pastime is always worthy of respect and cherish. So is the opening of Suzhou Eslite Bookstore. Although we can't reach it, our hearts are yearning, and everyone will yearn for the beautiful things in their hearts, without exception. There are so many natural directions, and the directions are all from the heart. It depends on whether you are brave enough. Many times we will inadvertently beautify our choices, or find a beautification word as an excuse; "I'm too busy to spare time", "I'm not in the mood" and so on. I don't know, once you really cultivate it, because you love it, you will naturally put more time and energy into it, and you will be tireless and enjoy it. You must feel this way. Please bring it back.
When two people get along, this state will make each other more comfortable. Life with Maxie after marriage is like this. Go shopping together in your spare time on weekdays or simply go out for dinner, and go out for a walk on weekends. At home in the evening, I practice calligraphy and read books in the study, and Marcy plays games in the outhouse. Make a pot of tea together every once in a while and spit on each other occasionally. This is the most comfortable way I can think of compared with two people brushing their mobile phones separately when they are together. Once I watched TV at home and saw delicious food, so Maxi bet with me that he really found the "tofu skin" steamed stuffed bun mentioned in a dream of red mansions. Sometimes we play checkers to decide who will do the dishes and housework at night. He often works late at night, so I arranged the whole evening in my own way. After dinner, practicing yoga, baking, watching an episode of drama and turning over a few pages are both fulfilling and happy. I always like to make good strategies and travel arrangements before I go away, because I know that as long as I do, he will do his best to implement them one by one on the way. The encounter with him is "helpless", full of love and respect for loneliness. In fact, all too hard love just falls in love with the imaginary person, and the basic condition of happiness is to learn to be alone first. Equality, independence and slow growth may be a subject that we should practice with our hearts all our lives.
Too often, we always want to be treated gently by the world, but when the world is sometimes not so gentle, do you still treat it gently? So, again, you have to know how to get along with yourself in order to get along with the world better.
Seemingly "helpless", in fact, it can be self-sufficient. This kind of getting along is real, tangible and under your control. Yes, a free and powerful mind will make you rich and full at any time, so rich that you have the courage to meet more qualitative changes rather than quantitative changes, an imperfect but doomed time.