There are many problems of being born without raising. With the increasing pressure of survival in modern society, many young parents entrust their children to their parents for foster care. The greater the pressure of life, the more this kind of "intergenerational foster care" will be in real life. Let's take a look at the relevant content of the problem of being born without raising.
There are many problems of being born without raising 1. Everyone says grandpa is good, only the grandson knows. God knows how difficult it is to practice calligraphy with you during the holiday. Young people foster their children in their hometown or entrust them to their parents, while old people enjoy family happiness and children concentrate on hard work. Is this redundant or helpless? In cities, due to the busy work and limited economic conditions of young parents, many children are entrusted to their grandparents, which experts call "intergenerational foster care".
The survey shows that intergenerational foster care is becoming the main way for young parents in cities today. Compared with left-behind children in rural areas, foster children are much happier. They don't lack food and clothing, and their grandparents have devoted all their love to them. However, more and more people begin to pay attention to their education and mental health, which leads to social problems far beyond a single family. On the eve of Children's Day, the reporter made an investigation. 1 raising a baby for a child is both sweet and bitter. On May 3 1 day, 60-year-old Li Shifu waited for his grandson in the crowd at the gate of Taihang Kindergarten. Since the birth of his grandson three years ago, Li Shifu and his wife "left their hometown" and came to Taiyuan to help take care of the children. Li Shifu is naturally happy to be able to exert the waste heat in his son's house. My son and daughter-in-law go out early and come back late every day, and often don't see the sun at both ends. The grandson is responsible for his own diet and daily life. Speaking of participation, Li Shifu feels normal, but he can clearly hear some loneliness in his speech. Lao Li likes playing chess. The streets of his hometown are full of chess stalls that can kill two sets. No one has known him since he came to Taiyuan. Every day, his leisure activity is to walk with his wife and grandson.
Sun Yuanchang, director of Taihang Kindergarten, said that more than 60% of the children who come to kindergarten every day are grandparents or grandparents. Zhang Shuping's granddaughter often lives in her grandmother's house. Because Aunt Zhang and her husband both have high blood pressure and diabetes, their diet is slightly different from that of normal people. Aunt Zhang's main task every day is to cook two kinds of meals, one for herself and her wife and the other for her granddaughter. When it comes to raising a granddaughter, Aunt Zhang is not sentimental: just eat enough and have no energy to think about other aspects. Recently, the Social Investigation Center of China Youth Daily conducted a survey on 162 14 people in 3 1 provinces (autonomous regions and municipalities), which showed that 87.8% of the respondents admitted that it was common for young people to raise their children from generation to generation. Some grandparents often feel unable to look after energetic children because of their advanced age.
In order to prevent accidents, they generally don't let their children play risky games such as swinging and climbing. However, once the child is sick and bumps, it is inevitable to be complained by the child. 20 10 Beijing has such a case. Grandpa took a nap in the living room after putting his grandson to bed. As a result, his 3-year-old grandson climbed over the guardrail and fell from the 12 building. The father of the child took his grandfather to court. An accident triggered the tearing of family ties and exposed the outstanding problems of intergenerational foster care. Raising children is not only a matter of will, but also a matter of ability, including both physical conditions and educational ability.
Parents should pay attention to the problem of children "born without raising, raising without teaching".
When parents give birth to their children, they give them to grandparents or grandparents for care. This is "born without raising". Old people don't know how to educate their children, but only know how to spoil them and meet all their requirements as much as possible, which has laid a hidden danger for the concentrated outbreak of problems after children enter adolescence.
Although some parents are with their children every day, they don't know how to educate their children and are too lazy to think about how to be a competent parent. They simply think that as long as their children are delicious and delicious, this belongs to "raising without teaching"
At present, it is common for parents to "give birth without raising" or "raise without teaching" their children, especially in the vast rural areas. The influence of this phenomenon on school education at this stage is: the number of problem students increases, the academic performance is unimaginable, the educational ecology is destroyed, and the children who want to study in school are affected. The teacher can't manage it if he wants to. In the long run, these children will bring a series of social problems because they are not well educated.
Education is not everything. The duty of education is to influence and change students to develop in a good direction as much as possible. Students entering the society after graduation, even if they can't make much contribution to the society, can never harm the society.
If the products produced by the factory are unqualified, they will be returned to the factory for maintenance, and if they are serious, they will be destroyed and restarted. But education can't. If students don't get a good education when they go to school, they can only let the public security, courts and other departments continue to implement education after entering the society, but the price will be too high.
Good grades are just a by-product of good family education!
It is the common wish of all parents and teachers to let children grow up healthily and happily, but in the process of educating children, the lack of family education is often the root of all problems.
In the process of education, we exaggerate the role of teachers in the process of education, which is incorrect. Good family education is the key to the healthy growth of children.
I have been engaged in education for more than 20 years, and I have seen too many children change from excellent to decadent. The key reason is that there is something wrong with family education.
Most children from divorced families are more or less influenced by the psychological divorce of their parents. These children are either withdrawn and don't like communication, or they are grumpy and impulsive, which will definitely have a great impact on their academic performance. If parents quarrel at home every day, children are likely to quarrel or even fight with other children at school.
Families with harmonious family relationships often accompany their children, and parents who can "get along" with their children often have better academic performance, and these children are also more sunny, active and motivated.
All parents can have children without studying, but not all parents can be qualified parents.
Parents can make friends with their children when they are young; After children enter adolescence, they can be "buddies" and "sisters" with their children. This kind of family education will not be a problem. If parents can't do this, they can spend more time with their children. When children tell you, you must listen carefully, respect their opinions and maintain barrier-free communication. This is also a good family education.
Don't simply pursue good grades, because good grades are only a by-product of good family education. Paying attention to family education is what every parent should do.