Living high is the key for women to pursue exquisiteness. Knowing how to please yourself and be your own woman is the most advanced.
? There is an old saying that "a scholar dies as a bosom friend, and a woman is a bosom friend." This idea has always existed in the process of human growth and development. Learning from others is a precedent to please others. In order to please others and imitate what everyone likes, Dong Shi will appear artificial and deepen the bad impression in everyone's heart.
In real life, although it is not as serious as learning from others, it is still a common problem to please others. Nowadays, influenced by modern entertainment concepts, tall, slender and fair-skinned beauty has become the goddess in most men's hearts. Therefore, some women lose their health in order to get slim figure, and some people even face death because of malnutrition.
There are many similar examples. In order to please others, please the public aesthetics, and sacrifice your health and life to pursue such beauty, it is not beautiful at all. Social atmosphere makes it better to tell women what beauty is than what the public thinks. In the final analysis, most women still live in the aesthetics of men and the aesthetics of the public. Only a few women who pursue exquisiteness live in their own ideals.
The same is true in love. Many people prefer to change their personality to please their other half, but the results they can get are often counterproductive. In fact, love is not to please each other, but to be with him and be happy with each other. Li Kaifu said: "Marriage is not about how to cooperate with each other and become better partners, but about how to develop the best of yourself."
Maybe you will say that each of us needs to learn to please others when we are alive. Because those so-called success stories say that if you want a promotion and a raise, you must know how to please your boss and colleagues. This so-called ingratiation is everywhere, but when we please others, we should not forget our original intention-please ourselves.
? We need to please others to make ourselves happier, but if we can't even please ourselves, why bother to please others?
In the process of pursuing exquisiteness, women should understand that when pleasing themselves and being themselves become the ultimate goal, almost everything will become suddenly clear. A woman who lives at the top lives for herself.
In order to please yourself, we must first face up to our real inner needs.
Reading is to avoid detours; Work is to find your own value; Marriage is to find the other half to grow old together ... Behind every phenomenon, there is its essence. After seeing the essence clearly, even in the face of things we don't like, we have the answers we want in our hearts.
Understand the real needs of the heart, in order to please others, do not forget your original intention. To please yourself, you have to constantly enrich yourself. Besides reading more books, you should walk more. Han Han wrote after the meeting: "You haven't even seen the world, where did you get the world view?"
The road we have traveled will gradually become our knowledge in our footprints. Reading and walking are the combination of theory and practice. An excellent soul must have a wealth of knowledge, which comes from books and the land under its feet. Of course, the achievements brought by these experiences and insights need our introspection to show.
Heine said that introspection is a mirror, which can clearly show our mistakes and give us a chance to correct them. Therefore, only by constantly summing up and reflecting on ourselves can we always remember the initial intention of pleasing ourselves.
How simple it should be to be happy for yourself, a flower can do it. This is also a difficult thing because most people can't do it. Xu Jinglei once sent a message to Weibo, "Why should we be educated as a likable girl instead of being liked by ourselves?" .
"Please others, please yourself is king", please yourself is the most exquisite appearance of a woman. People who know how to please themselves and be themselves can love and be loved more than those who please and cater to others. A woman who lives at the highest level is a woman who pleases herself and lives for herself!
? Woman, please be yourself and be yourself!