Hang in there, and you will get something.
Sticking to these four points in life is not only beneficial to yourself, but also beneficial to future generations.
Stay with your family: obey the rules.
As the saying goes: Without rules, there would be no Fiona Fang.
Since ancient times, family rules and family instructions have been extremely important.
Having a good family style is the wealth of a child's life.
Many older generations still emphasize rules when educating their children.
For example: stand in a standing position, sit in a sitting position, don't cross your legs, don't squint, and don't bend over.
When eating, don't make any noise, don't stir the plate, and don't rummage about it.
If there are guests at home, you can't point the spout at people, the water can't be too full, and guests can only eat with chopsticks.
It is these old rules that teach children what is respect and what is etiquette.
Those families that have prospered for generations also have family rules.
According to Wang Yangming's family instruction, children in the clan must read and reason, and be kind.
Every day's homework is checked by a special person. Adults do good deeds and accumulate virtue, and teach children kindness and integrity with practical actions.
Zeng Guofan's family instructions stipulate that future generations must undertake farm work and housework themselves to ensure self-sufficiency.
Don't give too much pocket money, look at the poor in everything and cultivate their hard-working spirit.
Without rules at home, children are bound to be unable to move in society.
If your children don't educate, society will educate you in the future.
Even Emperor Kangxi had a "school motto" to teach future generations to be reasonable and disciplined.
"Adults are uncomfortable and they are uncomfortable."
Only by knowing and obeying the rules can children become adults and talents.
To friends: punctuality.
Everyone is not an island, and people are interrelated.
Where there is contact, there is intimacy, and friends are the closest people except family.
However, if it is too close, it will be sparse.
You must be measured when making friends, otherwise you will easily cry with joy.
Between friends, helping is an obligation, and not helping is an obligation. Too close relationships are always taken for granted, thinking that giving is the right thing to do.
Losing gratitude and blindly asking for it will make the relationship worse and worse.
Don't interfere in friends' lives, don't talk nonsense about friends' privacy, leave room for what you say and do, and people who are familiar with it should also pay attention to their discretion.
Appropriate restrictions are a sign of a person's maturity.
People who know how to be measured make people feel comfortable and decent in dealing with others, leaving blank space and not alienating them.
This is a person's ability and the highest education.
In the world: code
The ancients in China paid attention to "cautious independence" and never indulged, deviated or overstepped the rules when others couldn't see them.
After middle age, Zeng Guofan held heavy power, but he was not greedy, bribed, selfish or bent the law.
When a county magistrate was governor of Liangjiang, he tried to bribe Wang Xizhi with a copy of Wang Xizhi's calligraphy in the Tang Dynasty. This is the ancestor of Chunhua Pavilion in the Song Dynasty, which is extremely precious and priceless.
However, Zeng Guofan enjoyed it for a while and returned it intact, and wrote eight words in the diary of that day: "There are beautiful things in the world, and I dare not take them."
Zeng Guofan left less than 22,000 yuan of silver before his death, which is only equivalent to the salary of a first-class official for one year. Therefore, it is rare in that sleepy troubled times.
In the Han Dynasty, someone paid bribes to Yang Zhen. In the middle of the night, the man advised him: no one knows, just take it.
Yang Zhen said: What is ignorance, knowing from the sky, knowing from the earth, knowing from oneself and knowing from the son?
Live in awe and know how to be cautious.
At no time should you do anything that goes against morality and principles.
Learn well for three years, and learn badly for three days.
Hold on to your inner bottom line so as not to slide into the abyss.
Only by being cautious and independent can we feel at ease, adhere to principles and not be confused by interests, so that people can live comfortably and calmly without disasters.
To yourself: Guard your heart.
Don't forget why you started just because you walked too far.
The most important thing in life is to keep the original heart.
When he was a child, his mother taught him to read Fan Pang's biography.
Su Shi is determined to be an upright man like Fan Pang and plead for the people.
Ten years later, Su Shi became an official in the DPRK and was involved in disputes between the two sides.
Because the new law harmed the people, he was at odds with Wang Anshi and was expelled from the capital.
The old party gained power and abolished the new law, but he thought some of them were quite effective and had a quarrel with Sima Guang, so they were rejected by the old party.
His persistence brought him a lifetime of drift from place to place.
But he never forgot his oath.
Huangzhou rescues abandoned babies, Huizhou improves farm tools and Hainan teaches and educates people.
Do what you can for the benefit of the Korean people and the opposition people.
Throughout his life, he achieved the greatest personality in the history of China and became the most beloved poet for thousands of years.
Stick to our original wishes and remember our mission.
A person can finally reach the other shore without forgetting why he started.
Being muddled and drifting with the tide is the biggest disappointment in life.
Only by holding on to the present can we become talents;
Compliance can last for a long time;
Code, for peace of mind;
Only by keeping your heart can you be happy.
Adhere to these four points, and life will certainly benefit endlessly.
Life is like drinking water, and you know it.
We are always used to setting too high expectations for our lives and adding too dreamy filters to the world.
So we are often busy all our lives, only bitter and tired, and have no sense of happiness at all.
That's what people do. Once you have expectations of others in your heart, you will bear the burden in your heart and live a hard life.
But the real world is cruel. Never put all your expectations on others, because others have no obligation to realize your expectations.
Instead of being trapped by expectations that you can't force, it is better to change yourself first, the home of live high.
All the troubles are due to high expectations of others.
All the disappointments in the world are caused by your own inability to see clearly.
In this world, the most terrible kidnapping is not "a real knife and a real gun", but "morality" and "love and expectation" to ask others.
There is a saying that describes this phenomenon aptly: "All high expectations of others are like a knife with two blades, and no one can escape."
When troubles come, you might as well find problems from yourself, learn to untie your own knots, and your troubles will disappear.
I saw such a summary on the Internet before:
The answer is of course no.
Just like a passage written by the writer Ma De:
"I gradually understand why I am unhappy, because I always expect a result.
Reading a book and expecting it to make me profound, running for a while and expecting it to make me slim, sending a WeChat and expecting it to answer, expecting others to treat me well. ...
If these preset expectations are fulfilled, I often breathe a sigh of relief. If they don't come true, I feel sorry for myself. "
What really brings you pain is not that person, but your expectation of that person, and that expectation brings you pain.
When you let go of these so-called expectations and learn to rely on yourself, there will naturally be less complaints in your heart.
We can only change ourselves.
Once you put it down, you will feel at ease.
Many times, things get into trouble because we have reached a dead end. At this time, what you need is change.
Of course, it is always difficult to change others, and it is impossible to change the world. You can only change yourself.
Change your mind and attitude. When you start to change yourself, many things will change with you.
Read such a story:
There was a master who lived in the mountains for a long time. After decades of practice in moving mountains, he finally achieved positive results.
When someone heard about it, they came to the master and asked him devoutly:
"Master, what avatar did you use to move the mountain? How can I practice this magical power? "
The master replied with a smile:
"It's very simple to practice this magical power. As long as you master a little, I will go if the mountain doesn't come."
There is no way to go because of the winding water flow in the mountains, and a mountain village suddenly appears in the willow-green flower bay.
There is a saying on the Internet:
"There has never been a miracle in the world, and fate has always been in our own hands. The most important thing to change your destiny is to change yourself. "
When you try to change something other than yourself, failure is doomed.
Because the changes in this world are all human changes, the changes of others can only be influenced by their own changes.
So when you can't change others, the most effective way is to change yourself.
If you don't change yourself, you will never be happy.
Changing others is painful, and changing yourself is the beginning of happiness.
Does happiness really need conditions?
The answer given by teacher Zhang Defen is: "Happiness really does not depend on external conditions, but on people's hearts."
To put it bluntly, you should be responsible for your own happiness, and don't shirk the responsibility of making yourself happy to the people around you.
If you are always comparing and jealous, all you can get is "what you want, not what you want".
"I like to decorate flowers in the living room. He obviously passes by the flower shop after work every day, and he doesn't buy a bunch.
I am tired of cooking. Why can't he ask himself to wash the dishes after dinner?
I thought he would carefully prepare my birthday, but it turned out to be just an ordinary meal.
Every time we quarrel about these trivial things, every time he doesn't do what I want, I wonder if I chose the wrong person. "
Seeing what others don't like is their own problem, without exception.
An important sign of immaturity is to ask others by your own standards, while maturity requires allowing and respecting differences.
The two leaves on a tree are different, so why should we ask everything in the world to develop according to your standards?
Seeing others is not pleasing to the eye and finding fault everywhere can only be that one's own realm is not enough. When you look at others, don't think about how to change others, but improve yourself and cultivate your heart.
So, use your happiness to cultivate a good attitude and attitude, and naturally everything will be pleasing to the eye.
From now on, I hope you have the courage to accept everything and the determination to change yourself.