1. The author's view of fate: a small and rich person can rely on temporary good luck; But it is impossible to be as rich as an enemy by just relying on temporary luck. If you want to live a good life, you must first understand the importance of life, that is, believe in fate and accept it. Believing in fate means knowing that you can't do it, while accepting fate means not going beyond the boundaries set by fate and accepting what you can't get.
2. Understanding of "what is life": Life mainly depends on two factors: environmental factors and our own future direction/life trajectory. Personal effort, luck, etc. Let's fine-tune between these two lines.
3.？ The author's view on happiness and success: happiness is the purpose and success is the means.
People care about their influence, because it is one of the sources of happiness and satisfaction.
People's happiness comes from many sources, such as the relationship between men and women, wealth, achievement and influence. But there are only two sources of happiness-genetic inheritance and influence.
The so-called genetic inheritance means that people will smile unconsciously when they see that their lives can be continued from generation to generation through genes. The other is that when its existence and behavior can leave a mark on the world or create happiness, it will also come from an inner smile.
In addition, happiness has three dimensions: the first dimension is love and marriage. People with good love are happy; The second dimension is the expectation of the future. If a person can be sure that next year will be better than this year, and the year after next will be better than this year, he will feel happy. The third dimension is the attitude towards life. Do you have responsibility and honor in your heart, live a leisurely and elegant life at ordinary times, and keep calm when encountering danger and difficulties? If you are willing to live like this, you can win the respect of others and you will feel happier.
4. The author's advice to boys is: "Smart people will appreciate smart people. And only smart people will appreciate smart people. " For a boy, especially a smart boy, it is much easier to impress a "beautiful and smart" girl than a "beautiful but not smart" girl. Although China people think that a perfect match is a perfect match, it is hard for a beautiful and stupid girl to like a truly talented person.
In addition, for young people, their investment and career progress are far more important and reliable than making some money in the stock market or borrowing money from their parents to buy a suite. Secondly, choosing a good spouse is as important as investing in yourself, or even more important.
5. The author's view on the plasticity of running-in and getting along with couples: Plasticity is very important for a person, especially when he is young. Although we often say that if we like someone, we have to tolerate each other's shortcomings, but it is still very difficult to tolerate one day, one year and one life. Happy marriages are different. One side endures the other for life. The advantage of plasticity is that although there will be friction at first, or even defects in many aspects, such people will make rapid progress and adapt easily, and their life will be easier in the future.
6. The author's philosophy of doing things: life needs subtraction. "My life is limited, but my knowledge is limited. With the limit, it is almost impossible. Just a matter of knowing. "People's life is limited, but knowledge is infinite. It will fail to pursue infinite knowledge with limited life." Zhuangzi "this passage inspired the author two points:
First of all, jump out of the mindset and judge the importance of a thing from another angle.
Second, dare to give up. Many times, we spend a lot of energy on choice, not management, and it is difficult to make progress. Maybe fewer choices will make us more focused, happier and more successful.
The secret of life is subtraction, and the key to subtraction is to be able to jump out of ordinary people's mindset, find irrelevant things, and then make up your mind to give them up.
7. The author's views on "blx". How did blx develop? This is related to the overemphasis on the importance of the starting line today.
Because of overemphasis on the importance of the starting line, many parents and teachers keep telling their children that once they fall behind, they will always fall behind. Once a child encounters something unsatisfactory and falls behind temporarily, he will be scared to death. Before long, the child's heart will become very fragile and become blx. If these people are in prosperity from the beginning, they will be more confident to go all the way, but it is difficult for them to have good luck forever. Once they encounter setbacks, it will become a major event, "the whole person is not good."
At this time, if parents and schools can give their children correct guidance and cultivate their awareness and ability of long-distance running in life, temporary failure or backwardness is not a big deal. However, under the guidance of the starting line theory, what schools and parents do, on the one hand, is to put more pressure on their children by saving, on the other hand, to protect their children carefully, and finally everyone can't afford to lose.
8.？ Among the successful people I met, most people think they are just lucky, don't show off their abilities, and don't overemphasize their efforts. With the recognition of luck, people will be less resentful, do things more peacefully and be closer to success.
9.？ What is more terrible than poverty? The so-called shortsightedness of the poor means that poverty will make people unable to leave their original life circle, leading to lack of foresight, or too many people will look on coldly because of poverty when they are young, but once they gain power, they will become indifferent.
But generally speaking, the author doesn't agree with the statement that "I was poor when I was a child, and I was poor all my life", because many friends around me had a hard time when I was a child. When I grow up, I not only don't have the above problems, but also have more motivation to work hard because of suffering, and I know how to cherish every share I get. Even after the economic conditions improved, I began to repay the society and be quite generous to my friends around me.
On the contrary, many children have grown up from luxury and luxury. When they grow up, they have nothing to praise except the pursuit of more material enjoyment. If their family wealth declines in the future, some of them may lead a rather sad life. If we understand them, we will understand why Zweig committed suicide. When the author reads Yesterday's World, we will understand how desperate it is to have a beautiful world once we lose our freedom.
Simply put, it is extremely difficult to change from frugality to luxury. If you can choose to be poor first or poor later, I think most people in China will still choose the former, because there is still hope to be poor first. On the contrary, today many Europeans and Americans will choose the latter to muddle along.
10. What is more terrible than poverty? In the author's opinion, people with poor lives have three common problems.
First, lack of knowledge. Without knowledge, one's vision will be limited. It's like you can never reason with someone. It's not that those people deliberately want to go against you, but that they really don't have that knowledge, and everyone's cognitive level is not on the same plane at all.
Second, lack of love. Some poor people have no conditions to let their parents care too much since childhood, and they are often given a cold shoulder in school and society, so they lack care, which leads them to not care about others and share. For some people, when they were young, their families were not poor, but they didn't cultivate the habit of caring for others, so that they grew up very petty.
Finally, there are no rules. Lack of rules can make people step on other people's toes unconsciously. As a result, no one wants to help them, but everyone will oppose them. It is impossible in this world without help. Of course, these people also feel that others are unfriendly to them or stay at a respectful distance from them, but they often don't know the reason, so they are hostile to people and society.
1 1. The author talks about "rejecting fake jobs". How to prevent employees from becoming fake workers/how to prevent employees from becoming fake workers?
First of all, managers should make employees/employees stand at the height of "what is best for the company". In this way, employees can use their brains to find the most helpful thing for the company in endless work, instead of simply handling the tasks assigned by the boss and then handing over the work to the boss.
Secondly, managers should let employees understand that employees work actively and the biggest beneficiary is themselves. Many things that seem to have to be done, when we understand, are actually not that important. Sometimes when you look at what you do from another angle, you will find that it is not bad to give up something. Broadly speaking, the same is true in life. If we calm down and summarize, we will find that we often waste time on what we can or can't do.
12.？ The author's method of breaking "worthless work";
First, establish "vision-goal-road".
Second, even if you hear something unpleasant, you should try to find something reasonable. Every time I meet someone who disagrees with me, I will immediately turn on the switch to find the rationality of the other person until I find the rational position of the other person.
Third, keep all records. The advantage of taking notes is that if you think about it again in the process of recording, you will make faster progress. These suggestions are actually a resumption of trading.
13.？ The author talks about job hunting. Young people should not pay too much attention to salary in their first job. A person's first job is very important. It must help you earn 3-5 times the income of your peers or classmates in 10 years before you can afford to buy a house in first-tier cities such as Beijing/Shenzhen. The first job must enable you to grow up quickly, develop good professional habits, and get to know the whole industry in the shortest time. You also need to grow as actively as possible through the first job.
14.？ The author shared his wisdom in making friends, company management, investment and sales.
Make friends and share wisdom. The author quotes Shakespeare's wisdom to talk about making friends: First, think twice before you act, and don't say anything when you think of it. This enlightens us to be cautious, use more brains and not be impetuous in Mao Mao. Second, be kind to people, but don't be too jealous. Many times, politeness has increased, but keeping a distance is the best communication between friends; Third, friends who know each other should empty your soul with steel rings, but don't make love to every ordinary heart;
Share the wisdom of company management. First make the product into a toothbrush, that is, a good product should be used two or three times a day like a toothbrush, so that everyone can form a habit. This requires products to have reliable and stable functions and brands that can be recognized by everyone. Second, look for a business model in essence. Third, when the company was in the ascendant, it began to consider the problem of aging and death in the future. In today's rapid era, don't mind the death of the company, don't save an aging company, but look forward and try to find the next opportunity;
The wisdom of investment. First, don't do things you don't understand. Second, don't short the stock. Third, never use leveraged investment.
Wisdom in sales. The essence of sales is not only to buy goods, but also to get money back. Second, do continuous business, that is, let customers use up all their purchases. Third, goods and services should give consumers face.
15. The author's views on the misunderstanding in the process of career development:
First, the job and occupation are not clear.
In English, work and occupation; At work; Work is a means of making a living. If a unit gives us a job, we complete the task, and the unit pays us, we are even. Occupation is what we want to do all our lives. For example, if we are determined to be a doctor, it is a career to improve our medical skills, save lives and become a famous doctor. To become a company executive, a person usually needs to start from the grass-roots level step by step, master more and more professional knowledge and industry trends, constantly improve management ability, and finally be able to manage any company in his own field in an orderly manner. This is a profession.
Second, only think of yourself as a passerby of a unit, not a master.
People who have just graduated, especially 1-2 companies that have just graduated, will take them as springboard, expecting to find a good company after having experience, so they regard themselves as passers-by from the mentality. Once people feel like passers-by, they often turn a blind eye to a lot of work to be done and are too lazy to establish and maintain relationships with colleagues. On the contrary, if you work with the mentality that you are the boss of this company, you can have a bigger pattern and produce higher value.
Third, angered by language violence, the rules failed.
It is not difficult to judge whether it is well-intentioned criticism or verbal violence. The former is obviously beneficial to your work after you adopt it, while the latter is unreasonable. Therefore, once it is clear that the other person is verbally violent, don't move. On the one hand, continue to work, on the other hand, let the abuser have an explanation.
Fourth, lack of communication.
Many people, anxious to get something done, are afraid that some related people will have different opinions, so they do it in a hurry without saying hello in advance, hoping that everyone will accept the fait accompli after the uncooked rice is cooked. In fact, this is a lack of team spirit and disrespect for people. A good way to do things professionally is to say hello in advance. If the partners have different opinions, they can solve them through coordination and consultation.
16.？ According to my own workplace experience, the author gives some suggestions that fall into the above misunderstandings.
First, be humble at all times. Only modesty can communicate more effectively. Only in this way can we concentrate on things when others express their opinions.
Second, treat intentional injuries such as verbal violence correctly.
Third, always make it clear that the purpose of work is not for the company or others, but for the established general direction of your career development.
Fourth, pay attention to long-term interests and treat one thing in a period of two or three years.
17.？ The author shares the concept of money. The author's view of money can be summarized into five sentences.
? First, the money is yours, not for you. You should give it back to him later.
Everything in the world has a price, so does making money. Everyone's ability has a limit, and if you work hard within this limit, the effect will be better; It is close to its own limit, and the efficiency will be greatly reduced; It's futile to go beyond the limit. The same is true of making money. If you exceed your ability to make money, even if you gain something, all kinds of costs will be high and uneconomical. Confucius said: "Don't overstep the moment", that is, you may have earned 1 yuan, but you have lost two yuan in other aspects. If you think clearly about this truth, people can live a chic life.
Second, the money is yours only if it is spent.
The essence of money is a quantitative measurement of the ownership and use rights of various resources, and resources themselves are divided into natural resources and human resources. Spending money to buy land and build a house is to exchange money for natural resources such as land; Asking a nanny to clean the room is the time to spend money on a nanny and also the time for human resources. When you realize the essence of money, you can understand that when you spend money effectively, it is equivalent to using social resources effectively, and you may get more money by using social resources. This is a virtuous circle. If money is not used, it will lose its meaning, and eventually God will take it away. If you want to make the best use of money, the best way is to make good use of it today.
Third, money and anything is to make your life better, not to bring you trouble.
Everything in the world has a price, so does money. We always want all the good things we want, but getting good things comes at a price. Therefore, before pursuing anything beautiful, ask yourself whether they make my life better or bring me trouble.
Fourth, money is earned, not saved, and the efficiency of making money depends on a person's affordability.
For different income groups, there is a dilemma that "money is always not enough to spend". Since money is not enough to spend, there are only two solutions: earn more or spend less. If you want to make money quickly in the future, you must master some skills that ordinary people can't. Money is a quantitative measure of resources. The scarcer the resource, the more valuable it is. Then when we have skills that others don't have, we are scarce resources.
? Fifth, money can be spent, but it can be invested quickly.
18. The author talks about the improvement of cognition: In many cases, the improvement of people's cognitive level lies in seeing some seemingly simple truths, being able to think more, combining their own experiences to produce some * * * sounds, and then thinking about their deep meanings.