Su Shi wrote this poem to make fun of his teacher (Zhang Xian). Over 80 years old, she still eats young grass and married a woman of 18 years old as a concubine. Especially the last sentence: a pear hits a begonia, which perfectly describes the marriage of an old man and his wives.
In modern life, this kind of "love between grandparents and grandchildren" is not uncommon. The most famous is Zhang Daqian. 1947, 48-year-old Zhang Daqian married Xu Wenbo in 18, which was his fourth marriage. What is even more surprising is that the bride he married is his daughter's best friend.
Hearing the news, Zhang Xinrui (Zhang Daqian's daughter) almost lost her chin. She couldn't believe that her father would marry her classmate, crying and making noise, but she didn't agree anyway. To this end, she almost cut off the relationship between father and daughter.
Is it true that Zhang Xu, who is 30 years old, came together for love? Clearly gave birth to a pair of children, why abandon them and let them suffer human suffering?
What kind of love-hate relationship is this?
1. Wonderful, occasional adventure
Zhang Daqian (1899- 1983), a native of Neijiang, Sichuan, is a scholar. He began to learn painting with his mother Zeng Youzhen at the age of 8, and gradually revealed his talent. His principle is simple and his technology is advancing by leaps and bounds.
Of course, calligraphy and painting are not separated, and Zhang Daqian's literary homework has not fallen behind. Even because of his education, he saved his life. What's going on here?
It turned out that in the summer of 19 16, 17-year-old Zhang Daqian walked back to his hometown Neijiang, but he met bandits on the way.
Zhang Daqian, who thought he was dead, was invited to the mountain by bandits as a tout because his handwriting (mainly writing, which was rare at that time) was not bad. Writing a campaign or something can play a big role!
Zhang Daqian worked in the position of bandit tout for nearly three months, and finally walked out of the bandit cave, which is why Zhang Daqian is called "black pen tout".
It was also in this winter that Zhang Daqian planned to follow the "parents' orders and matchmakers' words" and get engaged to his cousin Xie Shunhua. Here, I will press the button first.
In the following years, Zhang Daqian studied in Japan and learned a lot of foreign techniques, and his painting skills were even more powerful. Together with his second brother Zhang, he founded the "Dafengtang" studio.
Since then, Zhang Daqian has embarked on a life of selling paintings. He is a real master of painting and is known as "the pen of the East".
2. It's hard to have love with the words of literati.
"Feng Feng returned to her hometown and traveled all over the world, demanding her death. There is a beautiful girl in this hall, and the people in the room are poisoning my intestines. Why should I be a mandarin duck? "
In the Han Dynasty, Zhuo Wenjun Sima Xiangru's "Phoenix Begging for Phoenix" showed the literati's demand for women, both beautiful (gorgeous) and heartwarming (poisonous). Two people can be lovers!
Zhang Daqian originally planned to marry his cousin. Who would have thought that his cousin died unexpectedly before marriage? No choice, he had to get married, married three times in a row, but Zhang Daqian never got love.
Zeng Qingrong, born in a famous family, is also an old-school housewife; Huang Ningsu gave birth to eight children in a row; Then to Yang, the drummer, all with temperament, was dead set on Zhang Daqian, but failed to win Zhang Daqian's sincerity.
The love that Zhang Daqian needs, as Sima Xiangru wrote, is "to have feelings", but these daughters-in-law are clever, educated and take care of each other, so it is hard to make Lao Zhang restless.
Alas, the heart of a scholar is elusive.
3. Love appeared, regardless of everything.
Sighing all day, Zhang Daqian, who thought there would never be love again in this life, with a calm heart, made waves again at 1943.
On this day, Zhang Daqian painted in the studio of Dafeng Temple as usual. A string of silvery laughter made Zhang Daqian look up. It turned out to be his daughter Zhang Xinrui, taking her best friend Xu Wenbo home to play.
From the moment his eyes swept Xu Wenbo's tender cheeks, Chang began to feel unnatural, his face flushed bright red, and his heart became more and more severe. The long-lost heartbeat caused waves in Zhang Daqian's stagnant heart.
After Xu Wenbo left, he suddenly discovered that this little girl, who is only 12 years old, has occupied his heart deeply and can't forget it.
But Xu Wenbo is still a child of 12 years old, Zhang Daqian and so on. During this period, she also paid too much attention from time to time and even taught her to draw, which successfully attracted Xu's favor. One to two, their feelings gradually warmed up.
When Xu Wenbo 18 years old, Zhang Daqian proposed to her. Appreciating Zhang's care for so many years and admiring Zhang's talent, I agreed. It is true that beautiful women love celebrities, which will be a much-told story, but the age difference of 30 years old has aroused the dissatisfaction of the whole family.
The strongest reaction is Zhang Daqian's daughter Zhang Xinrui. Yes, it is she who brings her classmate Xu Wenbo home all day. She has this bond of love. Zhang Xinrui regretted it. She never thought that her father would be so jealous.
But Zhang Daqian and Xu Wenbo the Tortoise decided to be together. Regardless of the opposition of the whole family and the vision of society, they play together, draw together and write together, and their souls are gradually intertwined.
4. Abandoning children leads to tragedy.
Zhang and Xu spent a short time together, and soon they had the crystallization of love, and they gave birth to a son and a daughter. No matter what others say, no matter how poisonous their eyes are, they all have a good time.
However, the good times did not last long. 1949, with the end of the war of liberation, it was decided that the Kuomintang would retreat to Taiwan Province province. After some thinking, Zhang Daqian also plans to settle in Taiwan Province Province.
But thanks to the relationship, I had a hard time getting three air tickets. There are so many people in a big family, where are three air tickets enough?
As compensation, Xu Wenbo suggested that she and Zhang Daqian go to Taiwan Province and bring Zhang Xinpei, the daughter of his second wife Huang Ningsu. This is a kind of forbearance to a certain extent, which has been recognized by Zhang Daqian.
Poor son and daughter, just one year old, were left in the mainland. From then on, the father and son (female) were separated forever and never met again.
Before leaving, they gave a pair of 1 multi-year-old children to an acquaintance. Parents all know that 1 year-old children are difficult to serve. Plus, life is hard, and it's hard for a framer to survive by himself. How can it be so easy to raise these children, not to mention not their own?
So he sent his two children to Zhang Daqian's first wife's house. Used to be a noble family, took them in, took good care of them and raised them.
They lacked fatherly love since childhood, and their personalities were weird, especially Zhang Xinjian, who was eccentric and extreme and unwilling to communicate with others.
After being admitted to the university, Zhang Xinjian, who had the opportunity to study abroad, was decisively rejected because his father was in Taiwan Province. His work and finding a partner were all affected by this incident, which deeply stimulated Zhang Xinjian.
Confused, Zhang Xinjian wanted to end his life, but he didn't die. His body was disabled. It was really a rainy night.
After all, Zhang Xinjian didn't survive the hardships of life and mental torture at the age of 22.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) conclusion
In his later years, Zhang Daqian once laughed at himself: I have not achieved much in art in my life, but I am not a good father at all.
Yes, Zhang Daqian finally came to his senses, and his analysis was very organized, but his approach was not flattering by the dense guy.
How old a woman you want to marry is your own business. As long as it is an adult, it is hard to say how much the age difference is.
But for whatever reason, the child is innocent. As a father, it is a responsibility to raise whatever you should. Tiger poison doesn't eat children, right?