And far-sighted parents know how to force their children.
In the long run,
Some storms must be borne by children.
There are some hardships that children must go through.
Huang Zongxi said: "It is better to teach your son than to love him." It is better to be a good person than to teach. "Pet is not love. No matter how much you love your child, you should be willing to let him suffer these three kinds of hardships.
Kangxi Xun said: people are naive and single-minded in spirit; When you grow up, you will miss it and run away. Learn when you are young, like the light of the morning glow; A powerful scholar is like the light of a candle. So, you should study early and don't miss the opportunity.
When people are young, they are single-minded and have no selfish distractions, and their learning ideas are smooth; It is difficult to concentrate when you grow up, and it is easy to be distracted. Learning at a young age is like the light of the rising sun; Learning when you are young is like lighting a candle. So study early and don't waste time.
Interpretation: When I was young and ignorant, I thought reading and studying was the most difficult thing in the world. Later, I realized that reading is a smooth road in the world.
Reading a volume has the advantages of a volume; Reading every day has its advantages. The benefits of reading are unknown to readers without personal experience.
No matter how much parents love their children, they should be willing to let them suffer from learning. Give the child a push when he wants to give up, and educate him not to give up halfway when he is lazy. One day, the child will understand that the hardships of studying today will pave a broad road and guide him to live a life he yearns for.
Kangxi Xun said: saints take labor as a blessing and leisure as a curse. The world likes to relax and hates work, but my heart says that people always have to work and know how to relax. If you are comfortable, you don't just know how to escape, but you can't afford to be tired.
Saints regard labor as a blessing and pleasure as a curse. All people in the world love ease and hate labor, but in my heart, I think that only by persisting in labor can a person feel real ease. If you blindly pursue comfort without making progress, you will feel unbearable to engage in labor, and naturally you will not be qualified to enjoy it.
Interpretation: loving children begins with being willing to use children and begins with daily housework.
Some parents love their children dearly, fearing that they will suffer hardships and are reluctant to let them work. Some parents think that children have a heavy learning burden and many tasks, and they don't want housework to take up their precious time.
Over time, children develop the bad habit of reaching for clothes and opening their mouths to take food, with poor common sense of life and weak self-care ability.
Let children realize that the comfortable life they are enjoying now is returned by their parents with labor, sweat and calloused hands. Only in this way can we inherit the good virtues of the Chinese nation's hard work and exercise their ability to resist setbacks.
Kangxi Xun said: to cultivate one's morality and govern the country, we must devote ourselves to the former dynasty. The temple where I live is now paved with carpets and the like, which have not been changed in the past 30 or 40 years. I am honest by nature and don't want to spend too much money.
The virtue of thrift should be cultivated from daily life. The carpet in the palace where I live now has not been changed for thirty or forty years. This is because I advocate frugality and dare not be too extravagant in food and clothing.
Interpretation: Many parents would rather suffer than let their children suffer, and raise their children as little emperors and princesses at home.
But in the real imperial family, parents will not cultivate their children into flowers in the greenhouse, but choose to let them go and let them experience the sufferings of the world.
We always complain that children are not sensible. In fact, it is parents who spoil them and don't let them understand. Today's children grow up in a happy era, and they have never been hungry since childhood. They should learn to cherish and cherish their blessings. Only by letting children taste the bitterness of life can they be taught to cherish the sweetness in their hands.
Can endure hardship for a while.
Fear of suffering, suffer all your life.
Parents should never choose comfort for their children when they should suffer. Willing to let children suffer and let them experience is responsible for their lives.
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