Chapter 1: How to set goals and reading notes
Four major human problems:
Who are you?
Where are you going?
How are you going?
How quickly will you get there?
In short, what are your goals based on yourself?
Growing up, we all have more or less the experience of setting goals, ranging from how many points we get in exams to what kind of person we want to be when we grow up. I always thought that wishes and goals were the same. It’s all about the question “Where are you going?” After reading the first few chapters of this book, I found that I was still too one-sided.
If you want to achieve a goal, the first step is of course to set a goal. So what kind of goal is easier to achieve?
Answer: A clear and arduous goal! Clear means specific, quantifiable, executable, relevant and time-limited (that is, the SMART principle). I think it should be added with testability, that is, specific quantitative indicators that can be used to see the degree of achievement or results.
For example, goal: read a 300-page book a week. Read 2 hours a day or read 2 hours a day from 3 pm to 5 pm. Make 8 reading cards and write a reading note of no less than 2,000 words.
The second step is to focus on the overall situation and details of the goal, the future and the present, that is, "why" and "what"
If "where are you going" is a journey of life? If it's a lighthouse, then "How are you going to get there?" should be the boat we take when sailing.
My understanding of "why" and "what" is the difference between desire and execution goal. "Why" is the west we want to go to, and "what" is the road under our feet. Without "why" we are easily confused and overwhelmed. Without "what" is "we will become the legendary" typical person who understands a lot of truths but cannot live a good life.
Execution is not my own weakness, my weakness is persistence or in other words It’s a long time of perseverance! I think this is most likely related to my lack of a clear “why”. Looking back at the characters in my favorite novels, most of them are strong, smart, diligent and persistent, such as Sun Shaoping in "The Ordinary World". , Xiaoxia, such as Cheng Jiaoniang in "Jiao Niang Medical Classic" (online novel), such as the heroine Jane in "Jane Eyre"
The third step is to think actively about goals. But don’t be blindly optimistic
This has an enlightening effect on me. I should be a typical example of continuous blind optimism and intermittent low self-esteem. I believe that I can grow, and I also believe that I can persist in learning and learning. Exercise can achieve different results, but it will give you many excuses to procrastinate, such as doing it in the afternoon, doing it tomorrow, etc.
Think carefully about why you procrastinate? Maybe it's laziness, maybe life is too comfortable, not enough sense of crisis, maybe the goal is not clear enough!
Ms. Oettingen gave a good solution - psychological comparison!
Set goals and then compare them with reality! Use the scenario if you have achieved your goals and compare them with reality to find out what you need to do in the process of achieving your goals.
Chapter 2: What are the factors that affect the implementation of your goals?
The subconscious mind controls your life, but you call it destiny----Carl Jung
When I read a chapter, I can't help but think of what I have learned before. "Law of Attraction", you will attract what you want! Whether you can achieve your own goals depends largely on whether you believe in your own ability to achieve it, which is what the author calls "implicit theory". . Your own subconscious beliefs about your own intelligence and abilities determine your actions.
There are two schools of thought on whether intelligence can grow - substantialists and incrementalists. Substantialists believe that intelligence is. Innate and unchangeable! The pursuit is to prove one's intelligence or to be superior to others.
On the contrary, gradualists believe that intelligence is malleable. Although there are innate differences, it can also be improved and changed through subsequent efforts. What you pursue is your own progress and growth.
I think I should be a gradualist. I always believe that people's learning ability can always change. At the same time, I am constantly learning and improving. I also hope that I can be "smarter" today than yesterday!
Environmental factors also have an impact on our goals. For example, posting photos of scientists in children's rooms will make children love learning more.
Others’ active implementation of their own goals is also a positive help to the implementation of our goals. Called target infection. This is actually more or less experienced in daily life. For example, when you see your colleagues and friends around you working hard to make money, you will unconsciously work harder to make money. So the circle is very important
Chapter 3: What kind of goals can make people progress more?
This chapter is quite inspiring to me. I have always known that I should set goals, but when I look back at my own goals, I find that most of my goals should be "performance goals", that is, to demonstrate performance. For the purpose of talent, for example, when you were in high school, you worked hard to get into the top ten of your class, and when you worked, you worked hard to do better than your colleagues. When you fail to achieve your goals, disappointment and blow will cause you to lose part of your confidence. Because I did not pay more attention to and summarize my own progress, my confidence was not established, and I had some intermittent low self-esteem.
The goal that can help people grow should be the goal of mastery, that is, the goal of seeking progress! Only by paying attention to the growth and progress of personal abilities will our path forward become clearer and more clear. It can help us check whether we have gained from executing our goals. At the same time, it can also help us overcome difficulties in implementing our goals!
The main content of Chapter 4 is about aggressive goals and defensive goals. My understanding is that the pursuers of aggressive goals are optimistic people and always treat their goals and tasks proactively. matter. People with defensive goals think primarily in terms of safety and danger. Defense is also protection! I should be a person who mostly focuses on aggressive goals and supplements on defensive goals. Love life, be willing to work hard and yearn for a better future, and at the same time know the importance of being prepared for danger in times of peace and taking precautions.
Chapter 5: What kind of goals can make people happy?
Answer: The goal of satisfying a sense of relatedness, competence, and autonomy.
Goals that involve satisfying people's social nature are goals that satisfy a sense of relatedness, such as having a few close friends, being a volunteer and making some contributions to society, and charity, etc.
Make personal growth goals satisfy people's sense of ability and achievement, such as acquiring some new skills through one's own efforts, such as the ability to master a new foreign language, such as mathematical abilities, etc.
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Pursuing goals related to your interests and hobbies can satisfy a sense of autonomy, and everyone likes to do things they love.
And this will give us the feeling of being able to control our own lives, so that we have more inner motivation, and inner drive can ignite people's passion and struggle!
Chapter 6, set different goals according to different situations.
Set goals to show talent when things are easy.
Think about why and how to defend yourself when you don’t know where to start. type goals
When things are difficult, think about "what" and choose defensive goals and pursue progress goals
When facing temptation, think about "why" and choose defensive goals
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When you need to achieve your goals quickly, choose aggressive goals
When you need to achieve your goals accurately, choose defensive goals that stop losses
When you need to create, choose aggressive goals
When you want to make the process of achieving your goals interesting, choose goals that seek progress and are self-selected.
When you want to be happy, choose goals that satisfy a sense of relatedness, competence, and autonomy.
Chapter 7: How to help others set goals?
To directly set goals for others, you need to give others choices at the same time, so that others have a sense of autonomy. You can also ensure the execution of goals by making a contract, use goal reminders, and use framing effects (comparing other people's goals, what will you get if you do well? What will you lose if you don't do well?) Use goal infection, and use your own goals to ignite others goal!
Chapter 8: How to overcome difficulties in achieving goals?
Use target shield to prevent the brain from automatically "reducing differences", use target shield and regular "self-monitoring", that is, daily review!
Chapter 9: Make a plan to study Notes
Today’s chapter has actually been told to us many times by Page, and he has also asked us to practice it once or twice before. Reading the contents of this chapter actually feels like a review.
Before the epidemic, I felt that I was basically a planned person for my daily life and work. Every morning I would write down a few things to be completed today in my notebook, and give a Give yourself a √. This habit has been implemented for almost half a year, and I feel it is still helpful to improve work efficiency. So why didn't you persist? I think maybe these plans are all related to the fact that I used my willpower to execute them. After half a year of persistence, my willpower was exhausted, so I couldn’t carry them out anymore.
This chapter provides us with the simplest method "If...then". Now I have begun to implement this method. Is it possible to activate our brains automatically and nourish our brains as the author said? It becomes a habit or a subconscious action. I think this still needs time to be tested!
If this method is really effective, then maybe students can be encouraged to formulate such a study plan the next time they lead a class. Will the attendance rate and student participation increase? Hehehe~~ It’s worth looking forward to!