As soon as class started, Xiaoxin said: "Our teacher assigned a composition called "Love" in class. "What are the requirements for the composition?" I asked. "There are no requirements. You can write anything, but it's too difficult. I don't have 'love'!"
Love is different from liking. Love must be a great enthusiasm for something. So be sure to find something you can be passionate about. Xiaoxin, who is in the third grade of junior high school, knows this very well. "Do you really have nothing in music, art, calligraphy, etc.?" Xiaoxin said: "No."
I asked: "Entertainment items can also be included, such as watching movies, watching football games, etc. "He said: "No." I said: "You like reading so much, isn't it a passion?" He said: "No, it's not a passion."
Just write: Why don’t I have “love”? Xiaoxin smiled and said, well, this is something you can think about.
The next day, I met Zhenzhen. Zhenzhen and Xiaoxin were classmates. I talked about this composition. Zhenzhen said: "This composition is indeed too difficult, and I don't want to do it." I know how to write." "Don't you have any love?" She shook her head and said, "No." Zhenzhen's composition is also very good, but she can't write either. They encountered the same problem.
Zhenzhen’s mother told me: “My daughter arrives at school at 6:30 in the morning and goes home at around 9 in the evening. The child has no time to be independent at all. And there are tests every few days. The results were sent to parents via WeChat. My family was really tired all day long and started to get tired of studying. "The children are indeed very tired. It's no wonder that when they are working hard for their grades, even if they have such a thing as "love", they are tired. There's no time to take care of it.
I thought about myself, do I have passion? My first love was music. When I was in the second grade of junior high school, I fell in love with the piano and asked my mother for a piano. My mother immediately scolded me: "If you don't study hard, you are just trying to do something wrong!" After my persuasion, she finally bought it for me. I bought an electronic keyboard for 78 yuan. I was extremely happy, but as soon as I pressed the keys, I was disappointed. The tone was completely different from that of a piano. When I knew that I would never have the chance to play the piano in this life, I saw myself falling into the abyss, but I still loved music.
When I was in high school, when I came across a pop song I liked, I would play and sing to it on the small electronic keyboard, and that’s how I learned to read music. Why were the popular songs at that time so good? A song could fascinate me for many days. I would hum the song in my head on the way to and from school, mesmerized. During class, the melody was also in my mind. I used a pencil to draw the keyboard on the back of the calendar paper. I used the "basic skills" of fingering that my mother graciously allowed me to learn for a few days during the summer vacation to do silent exercises on the paper keys.
This may be love, but my love has no results and only turns into a lifelong regret that I cannot learn music. The words always ring in my ears: "What kind of music do you want to learn? Study hard!"
When I became a mother myself, when I saw the children rushing to the school in their spare time carrying picture folders and musical instruments. When I was in the specialty class, I once hated myself for being born too early. If I had been born ten or twenty years later, would my mother's views have changed, and would she not have objected to me learning piano?
However, these children who are learning painting and piano have other difficulties. Some children say, I want to learn dancing, but my mother insists on letting me learn calligraphy: others say I want to learn painting. Painting, but my mother insisted on letting me learn piano. Mothers always have their own reasons for letting their children learn something, but they never ask what their children really like.
Cartoonist Cai Zhizhong said that at the age of four and a half, I established my lifelong direction, which was drawing. He said that the best state of creation is when your brain secretes a stream of endorphin, like a sweet river flowing through your body. Just like you are the only one left in the universe, I am a wolf walking on the Arctic ice sheet. I stepped on the ice sheet, and the only thing I heard was a burning heart, so nothing existed. That kind of wonderful enjoyment is difficult for ordinary people to experience. I can't describe it in words. You will be moved and say, wow, life is really wonderful. Let’s call this wonderful feeling the happiness brought by career.
He told us from his personal experience that this kind of professional happiness has nothing to do with whether you make money or not, and it has nothing to do with whether you are successful or not. But strangely, a person who has a sense of professional happiness is often more happy. Easy to succeed.
Some people say that going to work every day feels like going to a grave, but looking at the balance on your bank card, you have to get up early. When a career brings only pain, he certainly has not found his passion.
So, Mr. Cai Zhizhong said: You have to challenge yourself, what is your favorite thing in this life, and you have to know what is necessary.
My best friend has been a top student since she was a child. She majored in beer when she was admitted to college. At that time, when college graduates were assigned a job package and a job in a brewery, she realized that something was wrong. I don't like that job at all.
I have seen too many children who are very confused when they choose a major in college. Most of them are made by their parents. I have also seen many people find out after going to college that it is not their favorite major. It's very painful to learn.
I asked my bestie, why did you major in beer in the first place? She said that what she thought at the time was that as long as she got into college, it didn't matter what she studied. There may still be many people who blindly regard getting into college as their ultimate goal. However, there may be more people who choose a major based on its prospects, without considering whether it is what they like.
Cai Zhizhong said: Every child will be able to find his true love when he is very young. Every child is born with a love of painting and a natural ability to express himself. However, if you tell him that it’s not right to paint like this, you have to draw like Cai Zhizhong; it’s wrong to sing like this, you have to sing like Zhu Zheqin, the children won’t like it.
Fortunately, I lost the opportunity to study music, but I found another "love", which is words. I still remember that when my lyrics were published for the first time, I only received 30 yuan in royalties. However, I was even happier than the 3,000 yuan bonus given by my boss. It was another kind of wealth and abundance that material things cannot match.
When we lose "love", we must look for it, because that is a big factor in determining happiness in this life.
Mr. Ye Jiaying has been teaching poetry as a career and has enjoyed it all her life. She lost her daughter in middle age and lived a simple life alone in her later years. However, she said that she was not lonely and had poetry as a companion. That’s it. Because of love, a person's heart can be truly enriched and satisfied. When she faces difficulties in life, she can love life, embrace suffering, and overcome ups and downs.
Cai Zhizhong said: "When I was 15 years old, I found a painting job in Taipei. I told my father that I was going to Taipei. He said he found a job? I said he found it. He said, Then go for it."
When a child tells you that I want to learn to paint, if you say that I support it instead of saying, "How can you become a painter?" When a child says, I want to learn Chinese, you say it’s great, go ahead and learn it. Remember to read more books and practice writing more, instead of saying what’s the use of learning that, what’s the future of writing and drawing? I think this is the attitude you should have as a parent.
With such an attitude, it is easier for children to find their "love" in life instead of being troubled by confusion.