"The world is bustling, all for profit; The world is bustling, all for profit. " Walking in the street, walking in front of the subway, people are surging, coming and going in a hurry, for fear that one second slower than others will never catch up with this era.
This is the best time to realize your abilities. General Manager Ma, General Manager Ren, General Manager Liu, General Manager Lei, and General Manager Li can all fall into "fame and fortune". Many people have not become the people he wants to be, but have been swallowed up by the secular world and become "dwarfs" in the city.
There is a story about an adult who stutters only once in his life. That was when he 12 years old. One day, he went to take a bus and deliberately didn't buy a ticket. When he was caught by the conductor, he thought, the more I stutter, the better. I'm sure people will sympathize with a poor stuttering child and leave me alone. Who knows, the harder you stutter, the more fluent you speak. It was the only time in his life that he didn't stutter.
We have also noticed that many stutterers can say what they want to say fluently when arguing with others; When reading aloud, they can also read the words clearly without any expectation.
Experience tells us that the harder you try to do well, the worse you will be. Excessive efforts will suppress our spontaneity and initiative, and excessive caution and worry will make us suffer from loss, thus binding our hands and feet. This is the disadvantage of active efforts.
Laozi is a master of reverse efforts, and his general idea is "doing nothing without doing anything". He believes that the function of Tao is inaction, but its effect is nothingness. It is natural for Tao to conform to nature, and it has always been like this. It seems that nothing has been done, but in fact everything has been done.
"Doing nothing" is sometimes the best way to "do everything". If you let go of your obsession, do what you like and follow the Tao, you will often achieve your goal naturally.
Huang Tingjian, a great calligrapher and writer in the Song Dynasty, said in "Farewell to Li Ciweng": "Greed is suffocating; With people. " It means that people are confused by the desire for money and profit. The more you pursue "fame", the more you can't succeed and the more you can't catch it.
When we have insomnia, the harder we try to fall asleep, the more we toss and turn, and it is difficult to fall asleep. The more a person wants to dress elegantly, the less elegant he is; The more I want to be respected, the less I like it.
Rousseau, an enlightenment thinker, said a story:
Facts have proved that the more we want to get praise, the less we get praise; Those who never seek praise get the most praise. The more people flatter their leaders every day, the less opportunities they get; On the contrary, those who are conscientious and never please their leaders will protect themselves and climb steadily.
The more a person cares about the purpose of doing things, the more he cares about the evaluation of others, the more he will limit his natural performance and drown his true ability, and the less he can realize his wishes.
Allen Watts' Road to the Mind says, "When you try to float on the water, you will sink, but when you try to sink, you will float."
Things have changed, and things are not always as we wish. Those who bore us often lie in our obsession, fettering us and wasting the rest of our lives.
Everyone will encounter bottlenecks in study, ability or work. This is because the more persistent we are, the easier it is to walk into a dead end. According to Jaecks dodson's law, there is an inverted U-shaped curve between a person's motivation and work efficiency. Perseverance can lead us to success, but it seems that it is not enough to pursue greater success. At this time, why not let yourself relax for a while, seriously relax, conscientiously sum up, adjust the strategy, and reload.
In this era influenced by elite culture, it is an extraordinary thing to pursue the ordinary.
Throughout the ages, the greater the cause, the more it was conceived in the ordinary. The more artists, writers and musicians want to create better works, the less inspiration they have; The stronger the role consciousness is, the more it will bind one's own thinking, the more difficult it is to break through the bondage of thinking, and the more difficult it is to generate great ideological inspiration. Therefore, great works of art are produced inadvertently. The reason is very simple, because works of art are essentially the creation of emotions, and emotions are not dominated by human will.
"Lao tze" Chapter 78 cloud:
There is nothing weaker than water in the world, but nothing can beat the strong, because nothing can replace the weakness and strength of water. There is no one in the world who doesn't know that weak is better than strong, and soft is better than strong. This is a truth, but no one can do it. Therefore, the sage said, "Only when you can endure the humiliation of the whole country can you become the master of a country;" Only if you can bear the disaster in your country can you become the king of the world. "Positive truth and negative truth are the same.
Every one of us wants to succeed and get ahead. This ideal drives us to keep forging ahead and keep paying, day after day, again and again. But many times, when we look back, we seem to have become a machine of life, just like a clock on the wall. The harder you work, the more enterprising you are, and the farther you are from your goal. At this time, we need to change our thinking, change our way, and adopt the thinking mode and attitude of survival of reverse efforts to face life.
Therefore, in order to succeed, we must first be calm, understand and accept our mediocrity, conform to our ability, and accumulate in mediocrity. If our ability is always difficult to achieve our goals, we will be "doing nothing" like Laozi, and tell our hearts that mediocrity or mediocrity is also a great way of life.
The ultimate destination of life is family, life, three meals a day and ordinary sunrise and sunset.
In the life style of reverse efforts, let go of all the burdens on you, balance the secular society and inner peace, and be a senior creature of "inner saints and outer kings" like the ancients.
In addition to fame, we also need to find the inner "Tao", such as running water, such as drizzle, born in heaven and earth and returned to dust!