(1) Self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance and self-improvement
Self-esteem means self-respect. Studies have proved that women with personality charm know self-esteem. Self-confidence is often associated with an individual's own ability. With ability, self-confidence is "active water, with a tree of roots".
Self-reliance is the material strength that women have self-esteem and self-confidence and put into action.
Self-improvement means having your own expertise and a strong sense of competition. Therefore, if women want to change their resentful psychology, they must first learn to be self-respecting, confident, self-reliant and self-reliant.
(2) Have a tolerant heart
You should know that everyone is an independent individual, who has his own thoughts, space and privacy. A tolerant attitude is not to touch those things that belong to others, and to allow those things that belong to others to stay safely where they want to stay forever.
This kind of tolerance is not accommodation, but a kind of wisdom in managing marriage, which will give others a quiet world and a relaxed mood for themselves. A considerate and calm woman is a generous and well-cultivated person. To this end, women should always have a tolerant heart, so that the resentment of women will not exist.
(3) learn to put yourself in the other's shoes
complaining blindly will not solve the problem, but will intensify the contradiction, hurt each other and cause both sides to lose.
If women learn to put themselves in other's shoes, they will gain more understanding, understand each other's difficulties, understand each other's feelings, and on the basis of understanding, their grievances will disappear.
(4) Adjust your mood to control your mood
Life is not smooth sailing, and everyone will encounter unpleasant things, so women should learn to use various methods, such as traveling, exercising, shopping, shopping, watching movies, listening to music, singing, photography, calligraphy, writing and talking to friends, to relieve their unhappiness, adjust their mood and control their mood.
(5) Use humorous way of speaking
Life needs humor and laughter. Humor is not only reflected in the relaxed harmony of language and the ridiculous form, but also reflects that we should have a state of mind and a feeling. To this end, women who like resentment should learn to turn the words of complaining and blaming into humorous language that is more acceptable to the other party, decorate their lives with humor, and protect and create their own marriage life with humor.
(6) Have your own independent space
The happiness of married women is not limited to family, husband and children. As a modern woman, she should have her own career and pursuit. Work is beautiful. When women work, they will feel that they can create value, be needed by society and realize their dreams. Only in this way can women have independent personality and self-confidence.
In addition, women should have their own spiritual space and world, and have their own friends and hobbies, so that even if the world of men collapses, their whole sky will not be bleak. Having your own space and world is actually adding a very important self-help ability to yourself.
(7) Pursuing their own dreams
There are many women who have many dreams after marriage, but these dreams are imposed on their husbands, so they completely sacrifice themselves for their dreams and lose themselves to become husbands. Sometimes, I will put forward excessive demands and unrealistic hopes for my husband, which will put pressure on my husband invisibly, which will not only disgust my husband, but also make me resent him. In fact, the safest and most reliable thing is that it is a good thing to have a dream, but you have to work hard to realize it, so that you can realize the ups and downs in the process of pursuing your dream.
women should know that their endless complaints will not only swallow up the light of their own lives, but also the flowers of love and the warm marriage life. Therefore, we should embrace the chic of "life is full of flavors, salty and light", constantly improve ourselves from the inside out with a good mood, and show our self-style, so as to make our ordinary days wonderful and vivid.