Borrow flowers to offer to Buddha
If what you are giving is a souvenir, you can say that it was brought by someone from your hometown, and you want to give it to your friends to try. There are not many things, and you don’t spend any money. No. I bought it especially for him and asked him to accept it. Generally speaking, the recipient's mentality of refusing gifts that cannot be reciprocated will be greatly alleviated, and more likely to accept your gift in the end.
Secretly Chencang
If you give something like wine to a friend, you can’t help but talk about the word "gift", pretending that someone else gave you two bottles of wine to talk to your friend. Have a drink and ask him to prepare an order. If you drink one bottle and get another bottle, wouldn't it be wonderful to have a closer relationship and give gifts without leaving any trace? Of course, this is for relatively close friends. Most people may think that you are taking advantage of a small loss just to have a meal.
Hengyun Tuoyue
Sometimes you want to give a gift to someone, but the recipient has some special holidays with you, so it is inconvenient to give it directly. You might as well choose the recipient's birthday and invite a few acquaintances to send gifts together, so that the recipient will not refuse. When I later find out that the idea was yours, I will definitely change my view of you and make the relationship as good as before. It is really the best idea to use everyone's strength to achieve the purpose of giving gifts together.
Changing flowers and grafting ideas on others
Lao Zhang had something to ask Xiao Liu to handle, and wanted to send some gifts to smooth things over, but he was afraid that Xiao Liu would refuse. Lao Zhang’s wife is very familiar with Xiao Liu’s wife. Lao Zhang started to engage in wife diplomacy and asked his wife to visit with gifts, which was a success - things were done, gifts were received, and it was the best of both worlds. It seems that when something happens, attacking directly is not as effective as taking roundabout actions.
The intention of a drunkard
If you are giving some money or gifts to a person in need, sometimes he will be very self-obsessed and will easily refuse to accept it. If what you are giving is a gift, you might as well say that this thing is sitting idle at my house, and let him take it and use it first, and then return it after buying it in the future. The recipient will feel that you are not giving away charity, and will be happy to accept it if you return it in the future. In this way, the purpose of your gift-giving is also achieved.
The icing on the cake
A student was greatly favored by his teacher and always wanted to repay him but had no chance. One day, he accidentally discovered that the calligraphy and paintings in his teacher's mahogany frame were rubbings, which did not match the elegant furnishings in the room. It just so happened that his uncle was a well-known calligrapher
and he had calligraphy and paintings given to him by his uncle. The student immediately brought the calligraphy and painting and took the initiative to put it in the frame. Not only did the teacher not object, but he also liked it very much. The students' goal of giving gifts in return was finally achieved. If you can't "provide help in the snow", "icing on the cake" is also a good strategy.
Similar approach but similar purpose
Sometimes giving gifts does not necessarily mean buying them with your own money. In some cases, a favor is also a gift. For example, you can buy things at factory prices, wholesale prices, or discounted prices through certain relationships. When you buy these things for your friends and colleagues,
when they get the things, they have I accepted your kindness as a gift. You don't spend a penny, you just put in a little favor and effort, and the effect you receive is the same as giving a gift. Because the recipient of the gift has paid the money, he feels at ease when receiving the gift and has no worries; the recipient of the gift has no capital or profit and is content with himself. This method of giving gifts that avoids suspicion and is affordable, as long as it does not harm the interests of others, is also a clever way to give gifts, and it is a wise idea.
China’s Secrets of Gift-Giving
1. Gifts should be light on gifts but sentiments are heavy on friendship – when giving gifts, the specific situation and occasion should be taken into consideration. Generally, when attending a private family dinner, you should bring some small gifts for the hostess, such as bouquets, fruits, local products, etc. If you have children, you can give toys and candies. When invited to a wedding, in addition to artistic decorations, you can also give bouquets and practical items. During New Year and Christmas, you can usually give calendars, wine, tea, candies, cigarettes, etc.
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Grasp the timing and method of giving gifts - gifts should generally be given face to face. But sometimes to attend a wedding, you can also send it in advance. To celebrate holidays and give new year gifts, you can send them to your door or send them by mail. At this time, the gift should be accompanied by a name card of the gift-giver
You can also handwrite a message and put it in an envelope of similar size. The name of the gift-giver should be written on the envelope and affixed to the top of the gift wrapper. Usually, it is not appropriate to give a gift to only one person in a group of people in public.
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the recipient will feel like being bribed and fooled, and it will also make the non-receiver feel left out and looked down upon. It is not advisable to give gifts to people you are close to in public, to avoid giving the public the impression that your close relationship is solely supported by material things. Only special gifts that are light on etiquette but heavy on affection, and gifts that express special emotions, are suitable to be given in public. Because at this time the public has become a witness to your sincere friendship. Such as a special souvenir.
3. Be friendly and don’t miss your words——
When giving gifts, pay attention to attitude, actions and language expression. Peaceful, friendly, graceful movements and polite language expressions are what the recipient is happy to accept. The thief-like practice of quietly placing gifts under the table or in a corner of the room not only fails to achieve the purpose of gifting, but may even have the opposite effect. It is a common custom in our country to always say overly modestly when giving a gift: "A small gift! A small gift!"
"It's just a small thing" or "I'm very sorry..." This approach is best avoided. Of course, it is not appropriate to say in an almost proud tone when giving a gift: "This is a very valuable thing!" When introducing the gift, you should emphasize your goodwill and affection for the recipient, rather than emphasizing the actual value of the gift. Otherwise, you will fall into the trap of emphasizing the actual value of the gift. Being courteous but disrespecting justice can even make the other person feel like he is accepting a bribe.
4. Take into account customs and etiquette -
Giving gifts according to people, situations and places is one of the norms of social etiquette. The choice of gifts should also comply with this norm. The selection of gifts should be based on different recipients. Generally speaking, for the poor, it is better to be practical
benefits; for the rich, it is better to be exquisite; for lovers, lovers, lovers, it is better to be commemorative; to friends, it is better to be interesting For the elderly, it is better to be practical; for children, it is better to be enlightening and novel; for foreign guests, it is better to be unique
5. When giving gifts, you must master the principle of avoiding taboos -
For example, there is a common saying in China that "good things come in pairs", so any big congratulatory event should be given as a gift. In terms of etiquette, double is preferred and single is taboo, but Cantonese are taboo on the even number "4", because in Cantonese, "4" sounds like "death", which is unlucky. No matter how good it is, although white has the meaning of purity and flawlessness, it is more taboo among Chinese people because in China, white is often the color of great compassion and poverty. Similarly, black is also considered unlucky, the color of disaster, and the color of mourning. Red is a symbol of joy, peace and joy, and is universally loved by people. In addition, Chinese people are often strict about not giving clocks to the elderly, and pears to couples or lovers, because "sending clocks" and "sending the end", and "pear" and "li" are homophonic, which are unlucky. of. Also, for example, you cannot send medicines to healthy people, you cannot send personal items to friends of the opposite sex, etc.
What are the taboos and tips for giving gifts:
Mutual
Giving gifts is a traditional Chinese habit, but it would be too pointless to give the same thing year after year. If the idea is new, the giver will inevitably be uninterested, and the recipient will also be unmoved. What's the point of giving gifts like this? I think the most important principle of giving gifts is to be original and different from tradition. Of course, unique gifts cannot be purchased in a short time, but must be collected during daily travel and shopping. There is an emergency solution, and that is to make the gift yourself
. Additionally, gifts should be as tailored to the needs of the recipient as possible. In my opinion, gift recipients can be divided into three categories:
The first is the "sit back and relax" type. This kind of people have strong financial resources, so it is best to give them gifts with collectible value, such as famous calligraphy and paintings, antiques and other works of art.
The second is the “icing on the cake” type. This kind of people have relatively good material conditions, so it is best to give them gifts that are interesting in life, such as flower baskets, wine and other daily necessities that are both ornamental and practical.
The third is the "helping in times of need" type.
Gifts given to such people who are not rich in material resources should be practical, such as clothing, lamps and other household necessities.
In short, gifts should be based on value rather than price, so that you can give a decent and popular gift.
The most popular gifts
1. Decorations. If there are crystals, porcelain, etc. with special shapes.
2. Interesting category. Such as fruit baskets, flower baskets, chocolates, wine, etc.
3. Art. Such as famous calligraphy and painting, antiques, etc.
4. Personal supplies. Such as cosmetics, perfumes, aromatherapy oils, clothes, accessories, etc.
5. Household supplies. Such as unique teacups, cooking utensils, etc.
6. Cultural supplies. Such as books, records, stationery, etc.
Taboos in giving gifts
1. Give items with unlucky homophones. For example, send the bell (homonymous to "send the end").
2. The gift given does not meet the identity of the recipient. For example, if the other person is a handyman, if you give him a large set of modern stationery supplies, he may feel ridiculed; giving something on sale to a person who cares about taste will undoubtedly hurt the other person's self-esteem.
3. The gift given does not suit the occasion. For example, it would be very inappropriate to give a happy record to a person attending a funeral, even if the record is very expensive.
Wrapping gifts
Wrapped gifts will look more beautiful and valuable. People can enjoy the packaging service of the store or do the packaging themselves. Here are two types of gift packaging.
Fruit Basket
1. Put colored paper under the fruit basket.
2. Put the fruits into the fruit basket, and then wrap the entire fruit basket with transparent paper.
3. Tie bows on both sides of the fruit basket.
Candy Bag
1. Cut a rectangular piece of colored paper and cut lace on the upper and lower edges.
2. Fold it in half up and down, and glue the two sides together to form a bag shape.
3. Put in candies and tie a bow.